What's Your Attachment Style?

[Barbella]

Secure. I thought it would be avoidant

[Loving Radiance]

Secure with avoidant tendencies.

Most of my avoidant tendencies stem from living as a teenager in a big city without any real friends.

[Zen LaCroix]

According to the test I'm Securely Attached. However, I know that's absolute nonsense lol. 

The test is too simple and it doesn't take into account the reason for your answers. Also its biased since you are doing a self assessment. People say I don't open up much about myself but I don't feel that way about myself so I just put how I feel about myself on the test.

When the test asks something like are you afraid of being abandoned or something along those lines I'm not afraid of people abandoning me but the reason is because I kind of expect it. See the reasoning for my answer is very different from someone who is securely attached. And this happened many times in the times resulting in my Secure result. 

[The0Self]

Secure

Score Mother/CG1: Anxiety: 1.00 | Avoidance: 2.17

Score Father/CG2: Anxiety: 1.67 | Avoidance: 1.50

Score Partner: Anxiety: 1.67 | Avoidance: 2.67

[BigDogRaven]

Dismissive/Avoidant

 

I have much work to do......

[Carl-Richard]

I'm a privileged white kid.

[Space]

Secure

[Girzo]

Secure

[Cubbage]

Secure

[WikiRando]

My Attachment style is Dismissive/Avoidant. Which is good to know because I've always thought myself as a secure and independent person, and all the more especially after years of this work. Reading about it though, it all makes perfect sense. Emotional intimacy? That's the last thing I know. Lol. 

Edited January 4, 2022 by WikiRando

[SgtPepper]

I got Anxious/preoccupied 

@Roy I feel that.

Edited January 5, 2022 by SgtPepper

[Danioover9000]

10 hours ago, Zen LaCroix said:

According to the test I'm Securely Attached. However, I know that's absolute nonsense lol. 

The test is too simple and it doesn't take into account the reason for your answers. Also its biased since you are doing a self assessment. People say I don't open up much about myself but I don't feel that way about myself so I just put how I feel about myself on the test.

When the test asks something like are you afraid of being abandoned or something along those lines I'm not afraid of people abandoning me but the reason is because I kind of expect it. See the reasoning for my answer is very different from someone who is securely attached. And this happened many times in the times resulting in my Secure result. 

   Furthermore, even if I scored secure, this does not correlate to anything in the future of a person's life. It's great I'm a secured attachment style, but I don't want a long term relationship at the moment, or any new relationships or deepen any that I have, so what was the point of the test?

   But hey, nice to know that I have huge potential for stabilizing an intimate relationship from short to long term relationships apparently. I'm just too detached to care about romance.

[Gabriel Joy]

Secure! Let's ignore the green dot though...

[Yarco]

Dismissive/Avoidant

I feel like the questions were too heavily weighted about parents. I don't know how much they contributed to me being avoidant. My childhood with them was pretty fine besides that I probably could've used more love and encouragement. I think stuff at school much more shaped my personality and avoidance.

I feel secure in my partner, but even still, there are some deep dark thoughts that I don't feel comfortable even sharing with my closest person.

My black "other close relationships" dot is off the chart because I don't really have any close friends of my own that aren't mutual friends through my wife, I don't have anyone besides my partner or people online that I would feel comfortable opening up with.

I don't really know how to interpret this or what to do about it to correct it tbh, especially the black dot.

Edited January 5, 2022 by Yarco

[NatureB]

Dismissive Avoidant/Disorganized.

With my mother I love her then I hate her, which comes from being enmeshed with/by her. The other end of the enmeshment stick is emotional abandonment. These 2 facts explain why I am hot and cold in romantic relationships.

With my father I seek his approval but hate him. He was emotionally not present (emotional abandonment), and due to the enmeshment with my mother we had a slightly competitive attitude. With my male friends I am sunconsciously afraid of abandonment so I have a hard time letting them in. And carrying over feelings from my relationship with my father, I project that anger onto them.

[Flowerfaeiry]

Healing dismissive avoidant/disorganized in an amazing relationship  

Read the book: Attached by Amir Levin and Rachel Heller for more on attachment theory! 

[Windappreciator]

leo gura is my attachement style  ?

Edited January 5, 2022 by Windappreciator

[erik8lrl]

Secure.
 

[kray]

Secure  

[inFlow]

Anxious / Preoccupied