Implementing theory into practice

[Yoremo]

Hey guys, hope you´re all well and happy new year!

I have had some difficulties implementing theory into practice, I don´t really know how I should convert theoretical information into practical, concrete action. I watched the episode "learning=behaviour change" and much of it was about that I need to clearly know what would change in my life of of theory. I just find it really tough to convert theory into something actionable. Like for an example, I have taken notes on the "how to get laid" series, but I don´t know how to 1: take any action on it, and 2: how to sort through the sheer amount of information, I took like up to 30 pages of notes, so how do I make all of these pages of notes into something I can do something about?

[Yoremo]

@Medhansh yeah, have to be careful not to go down the mental masturbation path. But it´s weird that there is not much advice on this around, and I thought about this and maybe the solution is just that you have to make yourself concretize it, that´s what I find hard but maybe it´s just as simple as that: look at what you have information-wise and see what you can think of in terms of change in action and thinking. 

What I find really hard is these statements of how you should be that I tend to find sometimes in self help, (like be confident) and I guess that that is just not really any advice and that in that case I need to find something concrete. It´s like when I learnt about self-esteem, and what self-esteem is, that doesn´t really help (it just clarifies the term), but maybe that is helpful but that I can´t just see it. Like does everything have to have a technique for me to change? 

[hyruga]

You need to change the way you see yourself (eg Achiever) and then you will be able to take action because you want to achieve.

 

[Yoremo]

@hyruga how would do to change the way you see yourself?

[Yoremo]

The only way I have discovered of changing myself is through affirming myself whenever a hard situation arises and trying to prove to yourself that you are what you are affirming. But the downside to that was that I felt it was really hard to do this on several things at once. So I could change myself so that I didn´t care about what others thought about me (that´s what I affirmed to myself and tried to live by) but it was hard to do several self-image changes at once.

[Yoremo]

I feel like there has to be some kind of process where I discover the answers myself, and make them my own aswell as changing how I view myself. Some kind of contemplation or something (don´t really know what contemplation is and haven´t really done it). Because just getting answers doesn´t feel satisfying enough to embody them in some way, and I feel that to make something your own you have to slow down thoughts and contemplate it deeply. I feel that there has to be some practice where I can focus on something I want to learn and make it my own (don´t know how to say it better, just feels like I make it my own). 

[Yoremo]

I really feel like finding my own answers is a responsibility which I have to take! And I feel that I have been a bit too dependent on answers from other people on this forum on things which I could find out myself if I just used my mind and focused on that singular problem. But I feel that I want to have help with getting the tools or techniques to do this and I would really appreciate it if someone could help me 

[itachi uchiha]

@Yoremo take small small tiny steps each day so tiny that u can do it with ease.over time your ability increase and then u can increase the actions

 

Learn to love everything u do,every action u take.it is trainable and doable

[Rishabh R]

@Yoremo I also face the same problem so in that case I have to remind myself again and again, watch that particular video on which I am working on over and over .However ,the video series about which you are talking about Leo said in that video to spent 10% time on theory and 90% of time outside practicing (in that particular domain of life ).? Maybe almost all domains of life that one wishes to master and is related to personal devlopment.

Edited January 3, 2022 by Rishabh R
Forgot to include a line

[hyruga]

15 hours ago, Yoremo said:

@hyruga how would do to change the way you see yourself?

I am sure you have read the book Psycho Cybernetics by now? Focus on building a strong self-image of yourself and remembering your past successes.

Edited January 4, 2022 by hyruga

[Yoremo]

@hyruga no, haven´t read psycho cybernetics.