Went on a Date - Treating it as an experience

[Karmadhi]

15 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

That's when you'll learn the sting of true rejection:

I would rather get stung by a bullet ant than to go through that kind of true rejection again  

[Lyubov]

1 hour ago, Thought Art said:

@Lyubov totally agree. I’m am working on just feeling, and observing my cognitive behaviour. 
 

im looking forward to the next one. 
 

im just gonna be myself for the most part… take me or leave me. 

This is a good approach. I think from there, how much you “take yourself” subconsciously will be how attractive you are or rather how cool and relaxed you can be in your body. From there your social skills and stuff will sort of fall into place from experience. And you can do a bit of contemplating when you feel really calm and good. Going into that stuff when you’re feeling bad isn’t productive and can actually cause all sorts of emotional problems and entanglements. Do the reflecting when you feel good. For now just give yourself love and accept the feelings. Painful feelings like this are good because they are basically telling you there are some needs you have that aren’t being met and it’s usually self love and acceptance. It will pass