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[Yoremo]

Hey!

I am going to try and overcome my introversion (basically just a clusterfuck of limiting belief I got from my parents) and try and socialize a lot more. I just thought about this first a couple of days ago, but my goal is to atleast "get rid of" my virginity but the best would be to get a girlfriend. I´m 17 and I am still a virgin and if I´m going to be completely honest I don´t have much else going for me. And I think I have figured out why I haven´t been able to make any progress in other areas in my life-- because I´m highly dependent on being around people and socialize to feel good, but since I grew up in a family where that wasn´t very important I don´t socialize one bit. So my plan so far is just to watch Leo´s series on "how to get laid" and then see if I need to research anything else from there. I watched the first video and what I got from it was that this is a lot about developing myself as a man and essentially all other aspects in my life and pull my shit together. So I´ll probably work on my self esteem and stuff in that line and also just be more passionat about life

because funnily enough the only thing that has motivated me really deep inside is having a girl. Because I have never had one and I have always been very socially anxious (I´m very good socially if I want to but usually I get scared or something and kind of hide and shy away). Anyways, I feel very motivated like never before and I should follow what I want, right?

Well my question is, I live on a remote island which mostly has old rich people on it (because people think it´s pretty here). And I looked it up and there´s around 5000 girls 16-24. And I don´t know at all where I can meet these girls, because it´s mostly private parties and all of that here. It´s a small place and I can´t get out of here in a couple of years. But do you have any advice on how I could meet up with them? I will try and ask around and that but the thing is I haven´t hung out with anyone in years because "it´s fun", so I feel completely out in the blue on this one so I´d really appreciate some help from someone who isn´t as non social as me and how I can get to meet people, because I have literally no idea as of now.

[Thought Art]

Go ask around and follow ya intuition. Stayed  safe and you’ll find them.

Edited January 1, 2022 by Thought Art

[Yoremo]

yeah, I just need to get some initial confidence and start socializing and start to engage in what I usually look down at (I don´t know why I´m so bitter, I think I´m bitter of seeing happy people socializing because I feel internally that I can´t do that, even though I know I want that part of my life). I´ll try and just have the intentions of getting more comfortable around people and then I think I have got the attraction down already—when I look back I see how many girls were attracted to me but I was just too stupid to realize or escalate it (thinking that "no, how could they like me" and doubting myself taking another step with them). But now I know that so I´ll be able to look out for it and do the right thing.

5 minutes ago, Thought Art said:

Go ask around

@Thought Art Ask around for what?

[Thought Art]

@Yoremo

what do you think

[Yoremo]

@Thought Art ah shit, my bad. Where to meet up with people of course