Social exercises in college

[Noahsteelers34]

@Federico del pueblo

I think you are right, for the most part, my fear is irrational and mostly just an excuse not to do the work. Most people are in their own little world listening to music. Alot of my fear stems from doing the 100 Hi's exercise. On the one hand, it is extremely powerful and getting you extroverted, and when the hi's go well you seem like a cool guy, the problem is more in the first 15-20  when the hi's such and are kinda weird. If I'm saying hi to 100 people per day then overtime I will for sure be recognized. If I really think  about it though, its not like they have any idea what I'm doing, the worst that will happen is I will be the guy who says Hi to everyone. If someone questions me I can just say "I just love saying Hi to people. The other thing I do is stop around 20 people per day and ask some type of question to become comfortable approaching. I was always affraid of stopping the same person twice but really the worst that will happen is they question me which isn't that bad. 

The other thing is im only gonna be at pen state for 4 years, so my reputation, in the long run, doesn't matter. Im guessing Tod was on a smaller campus too, my campus has 40-50k so its different.

[Noahsteelers34]

16 hours ago, aurum said:

Remember, the drills are drills for a reason. They are NOT good game and their end goal is NOT to get you to be like that all the time. Their purpose is just to loosen you up so then you can do real approaches and meet women with confidence. So don’t get hung up on the drills. They’re a means, not an end.

I definitely agree, the drills are not the end goal. They are just very useful and powerful, and allows you to get into a really good flowstate. The other thing I noticed is the better you get at the hi's, the more you learn to draw women in with your eye contact and energy. Ive notice after ive done some hi's, all i have to do is keep that open energy and some people will say hi to me first, or ill look at a girl and she will smill. It allows you to correct your energy so that there is a girl, you just say hi and your approach is the most natural thing and you dont even thing about it.

[Federico del pueblo]

@Noahsteelers34

Sounds like you got it.

Maybe this video here could be highly beneficial:

https://youtu.be/7RDcxRcJZSA

It's Todd's college game manifesto

Edited December 27, 2021 by Federico del pueblo

[flowboy]

@Noahsteelers34

 

You seem to be burdening yourself with thoughts about how much you need to daily practice this and that.

That's a future-related burden. It creates extra anxiety and stress.

Come back to the present.

Want to be a person who starts conversations with people and takes initiative?

Great, you can be that today.

Assuming the identity of "someone who starts conversations spontaneously and takes social initiative", or however you would phrase it in a way that makes sense to you, is all you need to do.

From there, just take it day by day.

Decide to be that person.

Feel the resistance against that. That is the seed of ego backlash, telling you: "Hey dude, you didn't use to be like this. Look at all these past memories of not being like this!"

Letting go of that past and starting fresh today, is all you need to do. Every day anew.

Edited December 29, 2021 by flowboy