Online dating advice

[Javfly33]

Ok I know the "real deal" to grow as a man is being out there approaching women But i thought It wouldn't hurt to try to have some dates in an "easy way".

 When you get the match, you open the Girl and What do you say?

Explain like i am five... How escalation in text Game looks like until successfully accomplishing the goal of the Girl meeting you in real Life? 

[Raze]

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[Lyubov]

Tinder is pretty simple. She is either willing to meet you or not and that’s usually mostly decided and dependent on how she feels on any given day and how much she likes your profile when you matched. There isn’t the complexity and depth to it like real life and it isn’t really the space to “turn things around” so to speak. 

Text game isn’t really a thing. In a way it is but it isn’t exactly a helpful model. I would say there is more so “texting etiquette” and “not fucking it up.” 

I had a simple opener on tinder.  “you look cute but dangerous.” She would usually laugh or respond “why?” and I would tell her it’s my intuition. From there just introduce myself and get acquainted with some small talk before asking for her number. If she went along with the few acquaintance messages and number request then that is basically all the screening I need to know if she is interested or not. How quickly she responds and how friendly and open her messages are is another indicator. If it’s just cold don’t even bother. 

Once I got the number I would usually strike while the iron was hot. Basically do the same thing over again, small talk and send a meme or two before asking her out. These numbers go pretty cold quickly and you usually can’t keep these girls around as options a month or two later. It happens sometimes but most will spoil like food. 

a lot of guys mistake disinterest as some opportunity to run their little game techniques on tinder or through texting. Trust me, you’re wasting your energy and the payoff like this is rare. You’re better off just screening for girls that wanna meet and putting in time meeting them then over convince tinder girls that aren’t replying to your messages.

if you aren’t getting matches and replies you need to work on your profile. 
 

Edited December 18, 2021 by Lyubov

[Javfly33]

@Lyubov Thanks, I'll have to try that approach. I do get matches after uploading profesional Photos But i am having a hard time with Girls replying. 

By the way, i have a question, how many days/week usually pass from the match until you go out on a date with the Girl?

Also, for example right now i am messagging with one Girl that is replying fast and friendly But no idea how much small talk should I do until asking out

Edited December 18, 2021 by Javfly33

[ValiantSalvatore]

@Javfly33 I am still running sort of "testing" what works online to not experience a lot of bullshit I can give a general rundown from a course. I am currently in the 47'th day of online dating challenge. I will keep it simple without concepts. I am not the best I am getting better...way better...
 

• Something about what was in her profile she mentions she likes golfing,cycling,tattoo,weird t-shirt, weird pose, vacation, values etc. great talk about that. Commonalities I wrote one girl we both have a lactose intolerance and we matched for example.
• Ask for her number when you basically would also in real life when the conversation is at it's high point, ya'll both have a great time
• Never call it a date it's a get together of some sort
• Zoom meets can work you can prepare stuff also and it's a low pressure enviroment for her
• Some chat longer yet you can ask to meet 3-4 text messages in approx. so you can fitler out the girls who will flake faster you can see for yourself
• Asking about her schedule is good
• Generally ask Leo 
• Check out how the algorithm of tinder works tinder and bumble have an elo score
• Tinder also changed their algorithm to be more lenient
• Online-dating is a marathon more than a sprint
• Silent girls can be meet with humour although most of the time she won't be interested (my experience)

I can type more depending on the question I am currently implementing still stuff from the course. So these are ideas that can be put to test. I am in no way an expert yet.

I am on OkCupid I do think this plattform is great for testing as the algorithm can be bent towards your favour more. Also, you won't be punished for messaging many girls and can test what kind of inital messages work. 



 

Edited December 18, 2021 by ValiantSalvatore

[ValiantSalvatore]

Being online consistently also puts you ontop of the algorithm you are basically rewarded for being online IIRC, this is how tinder works currently.

Edited December 18, 2021 by ValiantSalvatore

[Lyubov]

8 hours ago, Javfly33 said:

@Lyubov Thanks, I'll have to try that approach. I do get matches after uploading profesional Photos But i am having a hard time with Girls replying. 

By the way, i have a question, how many days/week usually pass from the match until you go out on a date with the Girl?

Also, for example right now i am messagging with one Girl that is replying fast and friendly But no idea how much small talk should I do until asking out

How many days or weeks? hmm. I would say it usually moves pretty fast for me like this but there have been some exceptions. Usually it’s like a week after or a few days. Once we start texting I usually meet the girls that are interested a week or two after max. It’s rare but sometimes the numbers you get from tinder will be good a few months later if you text them out of the blue. It’s rare though. Just keep moving things forward with the girls you want to meet, you’re overthinking things a bit here. 

[hamedsf]

dating and attraction is like math, if a problem solved easily, it means that you've solved it in the wrong way. 

of course, you can improve your talking and flirting skills with women on that site but NEVER EVER expect a date from there.

she's one person and literally hundreds of  guys messaging her left and right, do you think she'd not get distracted when talking to you?

you might feel that you're unattractive just because you can't get results with it. 

hitting on a girl in your social circle or cold approaching is ultimately the best option if you improve your flirting skills on dating sites. 

 

[Terell Kirby]

19 minutes ago, hamedsf said:

dating and attraction is like math, if a problem solved easily, it means that you've solved it in the wrong way. 

I would challenge this in saying dating and attraction are nothing like math at all.

It's highly illogical, and counter intuitive.

[hamedsf]

On 1/31/2022 at 11:10 PM, Terell Kirby said:

I would challenge this in saying dating and attraction are nothing like math at all.

It's highly illogical, and counter intuitive.

be careful...I didn't mean the whole process.