Going To Start Pickup Any Advice?

[Huz]

Ok, so this year i decided that one of my goals is to get good at attracting woman and develop deep intimate relationships with girls. I currently suck at that.

I live in London and want to join a community or PUAs whom i can learn from this year does anyone know of some connections? Also some advice on how i could get started. I joined RSD inner circle London already. I dont have that much money as am a student at the moment. Would that effect results?

Thanks

Edited January 1, 2017 by Huz

[SFRL]

4 hours ago, Huz said:

Ok, so this year i decided that one of my goals is to get good at attracting woman and develop deep intimate relationships with girls. I currently suck at that.

I live in London and want to join a community or PUAs whom i can learn from this year does anyone know of some connections? Also some advice on how i could get started. I joined RSD inner circle London already. I dont have that much money as am a student at the moment. Would that effect results?

Thanks

Attracting women and forming deep intimate relationships are two different things. But to form a deep intimate relationship you first need to attract a woman. 

I have no RSD experience but I am sure you can learn a lot there. There is also a lot of technique that you can find on the internet to read up on. 

Also very effective is online dating. (Finding girls on dating sites in your area and then taking them out on real world dates.) The great thing is that you will get to be with the girl one on one. That's half the battle won. In clubs, at parties, etc it's going to be more difficult to single her out. Between her friends, your friends, and strangers there will often be someone trying to cockblock you. You don't have that issue with online dating. 

The combination of online research for dating techniques and online dating sites to meet women is very effective. Once you know what you are doing its ridiculously easy. It will feel like you are cheating the system really, it's that easy. But you have to understand the psychology of dating, pick-up, and women. So that's where the research comes in. 

The truth is the more exposure you have to dating women the easier it's going to get. Then you start getting more confident and then you start to radiate that confidence. Making things even easier. 

* If you go learn pick-up within a group, I am sure you will have some succes. But it is not the groups objective is to get you a girlfriend. Because then you leave the group and that is a threat to the excitance of the group. So if it's me I rather operate alone. All I want is to have sex with the girl, and if the sex is good and she is nice then I want to make her my girlfriend. I don't care for the whole sideshow with some dudes. 

Edited January 2, 2017 by STC

[Spiral]

If you want to make things a lot easier and do not already do this, then...

Do:

• Exercise
• Eat healthy
•  If you are able, get a nice haircut. (short on the sides, long on top, works best generally)

Women/girls really likes a man whom cares about him self and his looks

Don't:

• Watch porn
•  masturbate

Avoiding porn and masturbation will increase you willpower/motivation as well as testosterone/confidence levels among other benefits.

P.S: Don' t spend too much time watching videos/reading, make sure you do the practice as well.

Edited January 2, 2017 by Spiral

[Wind]

Few tips/advice:

• Most importantly, focus on having FUN and SOCIALIZING rather than GAME. Look at socializing like a main meal, and game just like a seasoning on top of that meal. In my case, that was a huge epiphany, because I was focusing all my effort on learning game, where my main problem was basic socialization which I lacked skill at. If you're cool, social, fun guy, comfortable in your environment, women are going to be attracted to you as a by product of that.
   
• Focus on EMOTIONS, FEELINGS and WORLDVIEWS rather than TECHNIQUES. Techniques are good, but they are really helpful if you're advanced and want to reach the maximum level. But when you're beginning, your main focus should be on emotions and worldviews - your core. Because you literally have to change your beliefs on this journey. Also, it's very easy to get stuck in your head by analyzing techniques too much and trying to reconcile paradoxes logically. Learn techniques, but don't get lost there. Game is all about emotions.
   
• Understand your MOTIVATIONS and INTENTIONS. Write down a list of all the reasons why you're doing it. Because that will keep you going and that's what gonna ensure you that you're on the right path. Your motivations and intentions will affect the kind of girls you're going to be attracting and the kind of relationships you're going to be building.
   
• Write infield reports which is basically a breakdown of your infield reference experience. It's CRUCIAL if you wan to become fast, because you have to interpret your experiences and find the things that you've done good and the things you need to change and improve at. Don't overestimate the power of infield reports. Look at experience as if it contributes 49% to your pick-up learning and field reports as 51%.
   
• Read MODELS by Mark Manson - hands down the best book on how to both attract women and maintain intimate relationships. There are so many gems there. I learned more from this one book, than from 2 years of watching RSD.
   
• Go out with somebody who's better than you are, so you could model him and learn from. Going out with your level and lower level friends is good too, but try to have some advanced friends in your social circle.
   
• Buy a product from a teacher you resonate the most if you're willing to spend money. That will cut down your learning curve tremendously. To the same, you will have a concrete action steps to follow and concrete exercise and drills to practice in one place which gonna make you motivated. It's very easy to get lost in the sea of "dating" advice. One I could highly recommend: "The Natural" by RSDMax (Don't say that you can't learn everything from a free content and practice, but it's just MUCH MUCH easier and focused that way.)
   
• Do NoFap challenge - gonna rocket your social motivation and sexual energy to the sky.
   
• Once you get macro momentum (e.g. seeing girls every day) don't loose it and try to keep it up, if that's your main focus).

Intended to give you one advice, but then I got into it

Good luck buddy

Edited January 6, 2017 by Wind

[SFRL]

You may find this model to calculate your Sexual Market Value useful as well. 

http://revolutionarylifestyledesign.com/calculate-maximize-sexual-market-value/

It's food for thought. 

Edited January 7, 2017 by STC

[aurum]

Yes, hold the fuck on cause you're about to go on a wild ride.

Hit it hard. Half-assing is not going to get you anywhere and will probably only frustrate you. Go out like a mad man, but also study the theory and breakdown your nights like a complete nerd.

Never underestimate the power of logistics and a solid strategy over "game". Do whatever you can to place yourself around the highest quality girls you can find.

If you're not leaning into your fears, you're doing it wrong.

[eskwire]

On 1/6/2017 at 7:15 PM, aurum said:

Do whatever you can to place yourself around the highest quality girls you can find.

High quality. Interesting. I'm a female. What determines my quality?

[aurum]

22 hours ago, eskwire said:

High quality. Interesting. I'm a female. What determines my quality?

 

22 hours ago, eskwire said:

High quality. Interesting. I'm a female. What determines my quality?

Can you snort like a pig

[eskwire]

@aurum Jeez!

@Huz Did you check out Leo's video on this?  I think that women understand that our looks are deeply, deeply important from the male perspective.  It may just be a fact of life that we have to accept, even if it hurts or disrespects us as whole humans with many aspects.  Pickup emphasizes this, of course.  Pickup isn't trying to help you get with "low quality" aka not-hot chicks.  It's not even necessarily trying to get you something serious or meaningful.  If you are looking for a strong connection with a woman, the biggest obstacle you will encounter from pickup is getting your mentality shifted toward the douchey side of life.  Advice from an outsider would be to just watch yourself -- try to keep your head on straight through the whole thing.  Good luck on your adventures.  

 

[Key Elements]

@Huz

There is no easy way for me to say this or ask you this question. I'm just going to try my best, but you don't have to respond or answer the question(s), ok? This is only for you to think about. You said that you're in London. Fine. However, originally, you mentioned that you're from some place else. 

Now, Leo, in one of his clips, talked about cultural transendence. PUA/RSD in and of itself is a totally "different" culture than your place of origin. It will be very interesting and maybe very rare experience for you to join PUA/RSD and watch yourself pick out a girlfriend and return to your place of origin with your girl, and both of you transend both cultures. Where are you going to settle? Best of Journey. But, if you don't get what I'm talking about, you don't have to respond.

Edited January 17, 2017 by Key Elements

[Wind]

13 hours ago, Captain Flint said:

Your looks, obviously.

This goes first for guys indeed, but for me high quality women is also a combination of good looks and fulfilling lifestyle a.k.a. high self-esteem.

Edited January 18, 2017 by Wind

[ajasatya]

On 15/01/2017 at 7:59 PM, eskwire said:

High quality. Interesting. I'm a female. What determines my quality?

 

[Huz]

On 1/17/2017 at 6:15 PM, Key Elements said:

You said that you're in London. Fine. However, originally, you mentioned that you're from some place else. 

I was born and raised in London (want to move out pretty soon). But i am of Indian origin. Some say I am like a chocolate Bounty bar - brown on the outside, white on the inside and sweet as fuck hehe.

 

 

Thanks for all the support guys. Yeah I generally suck at attracting girls so I want to get better at that. 

Quick question. There is this girl in my class whom I met this term, she's cool, but likes to tease me a lot. Can this be a good sign that she is into me?

Edited January 19, 2017 by Huz

[SFRL]

56 minutes ago, Huz said:

I was born and raised in London (want to move out pretty soon). But i am of Indian origin. Some say I am like a chocolate Bounty bar - brown on the outside, white on the inside and sweet as fuck hehe.

 

 

Thanks for all the support guys. Yeah I generally suck at attracting girls so I want to get better at that. 

Quick question. There is this girl in my class whom I met this term, she's cool, but likes to tease me a lot. Can this be a good sign that she is into me?

That's always a good sign. Definitely something you can work with. 

[Martin123]

@Huz Yeah she might be.
 

On 15. 1. 2017 at 10:59 PM, eskwire said:

High quality. Interesting. I'm a female. What determines my quality?

Not just looks. Like FUCK NO!
Your whole energy and shit.
The way you carry yourself, your whole body-language, your ability to make eye-contact, your values, your speech.

But on first sight... ye looks matter, but if a guy sleeps with a girl just because of her looks, it won't even feel good (lol) if the rest is not alright.
Ofc every guy is different so...

[Martin123]

@Huz if you want teachers I'd recommend RSD Julien and Tyler (only latest content though) and then NaturalLifestyle (Australians =D).

All these do what I would call conscious pick-up.

[Key Elements]

On 20/01/2017 at 4:18 AM, Huz said:

Quick question. There is this girl in my class whom I met this term, she's cool, but likes to tease me a lot. Can this be a good sign that she is into me?

We can't really tell if it's a good sign or not. That's between you and her.

Are you both non-quitters? Think long term. The both of you have a long road ahead of you if the relationship is to happen.

 

On 20/01/2017 at 4:18 AM, Huz said:

I was born and raised in London (want to move out pretty soon). But i am of Indian origin. Some say I am like a chocolate Bounty bar - brown on the outside, white on the inside and sweet as fuck hehe.

What will you become if you transend what others say?

@Huz

I just want to add something here and be a little more bold. I grew up in CA. Far too often, relationships are only short term, and they break up easily. It's a huge distraction in life to have so many heartbreaks. It's time to think ahead on what a successful relationship is about.

Edited January 21, 2017 by Key Elements