being easily annoyed

[PurpleTree]

13 minutes ago, Nahm said:

@PurpleTree

Age is also a belief, we are all your kids, it’s within your power to forgive us all. If you’re not ‘there’ yet, that’s perfect too.  

Disrespect is a self referential concept. By self referential, I mean a thought or concept about a separate self  (‘I’m pretty easily annoyed’) which isn’t true. By belief I mean a thought, repeatedly given attention, which seems true, but isn’t and never was. Belief is tricky, because it definitely seems true when believed. In believing, one be leaving One, the ‘true self’, so to speak. Which is of course why ‘the true self’ is referred to as, the truth. 

Self Inquire /inspect the belief / thought… who is disrespected? Who is annoyed? 

‘Shoulds’ are major energy zappers. Everyone should be exactly as they are, evidenced by, that they are exactly as they are. Notice the theme, the subtle non-acceptance of what is, the subtle projection of emotion / feeling experienced, onto others as at fault.             

Get all those ‘people’ together, to celebrate life. ?? 

To look at everybody as you or your kids sounds good but i guess if adults strangers did the things your kids did, then you would have reacted differently. Or would you let your little kids drive a car by themselves? If not why not because they aren't old enough to learn how to drive? Or why shouldn't (there it is the shouldy) adults have sex with kids. So maybe age is more than a belief after all in this realm.

So there are different expectations at different ages etc.

So i have higher expectations for adults than kids.

But who knows, god willing, i'll sit on poop in a train in a few yrs time and luuuuv it

or maybe i'll create the 6th reich. Nobody knows those things.

Hare Krishna

 

Edited December 7, 2021 by PurpleTree

[Nahm]

@PurpleTree

You are right. 

[RickyFitts]

15 hours ago, PurpleTree said:

Yea thanks, i've been wanting to get into yoga for a while now. this could be another reason to do it.

Absolutely, yoga can be hugely beneficial in a number of ways - I highly recommend it, I know it helped me so much when I was suffering with chronic anxiety for example  

15 hours ago, PurpleTree said:

Maybe we're just more sensitive to sounds, feelings etc. so we get annoyed/irritated more easily than others in some ways.

As I say, I think what tends to be at the root of negative emotions like irritability is unresolved trauma and emotional upset, and once you resolve those issues (easier said than done, but definitely worth the effort) then the irritability gradually falls away be itself. You do have to do the inner work though, it can't be purely conceptual - 'you can only heal what you can feel,' as Teal Swan says.

15 hours ago, PurpleTree said:

And then we think, nooo i'm on the spiritual path and shouldn't even be getting annoyed by this dumb stuff, which causes further stress

Right, I can absolutely relate to this! But what you resist, persists, as Jung said - I know that learning the true meaning of self-acceptance has been so important in my own journey, because denial and repression only end up enslaving you. And again, it can't be purely conceptual, there has to be a physical softening into vulnerability and a willingness to allow the arising of uncomfortable or even painful emotions.

Edited December 7, 2021 by RickyFitts