advantages of not getting laid ;)

[mamad]

 

Edited December 3, 2021 by mamad

[mamad]

it is good to have it but do not afraid of not having it.

[zazen]

People who haven't awakened enough to bypass their sexual desires can use reasons to rationalise why they shouldn't pursue sex as a cope, only repressing themselves and hurting themselves in that process. Spiritual work will shed or weaken such desires as a snake shedding its skin, but its not repression. The problem with sex and a lot of the studies done on it that the video talks about is not that sex is bad but that casual hook up sex can be bad, because it objectifies the other person and isn't actually intimate, the other doesn't feel 'seen' which is our most important need. To be in a crowd and still feel lonely is the worst feeling, to be so close to someone that your literally inside each other and still to feel like you haven't been seen deeper thank your skin is even worse and makes us question, ashamed of the whole act.

 

But to add to that, knowing that casual sex can cause suffering as it can cause emotional baggage for others to deal with would be another reason to not engage in sex with lots of partners. Engage in lots of sex with a partner, but not lots of sex with lots of partners to minimise human suffering. Check this video out, particularly from the time stamp:

 

Especially for us on the spiritual path, being conscious of the suffering sex can cause others as it attaches them to you biochemically and you become their major source of pleasure of which if you part ways causes a massive feeling of loss, yet not being conscious enough to the point you don't feel the need to have sex with others, puts us in a bind/paradox. Sometimes we can know too much for our own good.

Edited December 4, 2021 by zazen

[mamad]

@zazen

good points... it was mostly about hookup culture but some of the points was about the sex.

being a monk and avoid it for a lifetime is not a reasonable option in my mind. 

it is another form of toxic relationship with sex (avoidant.......secure........anxious). it should not be repressed it should be transcended and when it is transcended the moderation will come naturally.

but it is good to know the downsides in order to not being anxious about it.

[Salvijus]

14 hours ago, zazen said:

 

 

 

Really good video.

[Terell Kirby]

Transcending the need to get laid only happens after you burn through the cravings by satisfying them.

Please guys, the life of a virgin is not a good one .. especially for males. It’s a bullshit if anyone tells you otherwise.

Edited December 4, 2021 by Terell Kirby

[zazen]

54 minutes ago, Terell Kirby said:

Transcending the need to get laid only happens after you burn through the cravings by satisfying them.

Please guys, the life of a virgin is not a good one .. especially for males. It’s a bullshit if anyone tells you otherwise.

True, for most people their only method of burning the desire is to live through it as most won't feel the need or be pulled towards experiencing a higher high that makes the appeal of sex diminished in comparison, such as living on your purpose, deep meditation, flow can provide.

Its possible but not probable for most unfortunately.  A lot of advice given has to be looked at as possibilities, of which many things are possible, but we have to deal in probabilities also. 

 

@Salvijus It is, the explanation of energy being stuck in the lower 3 chakras explains a lot. When higher chakras open up it doesn't mean we can't partake in lower desires of sex etc just that they no longer have such a grip on us. We can be in them but not engulfed by them, or partake in them but not be taken over by them. 

Edited December 4, 2021 by zazen