Desiring To Be

[Dodo]

Hi gang, so most of us would probably agree with the wise words of Buddha and almost every other sage that desire and attachment are the main enemies of peace and happiness. 

But since it dawned on me that I always am, (whatever that I actually is is beyond the point) hence one should definitely desire to be, since he will never be disappointed! A safe desire to have, because it is always fulfilled, right?

We can also put in the category of safe desires the desire for the present moment, since it always is as well. Actually not desiring those things would bring the suffering in this case.

The I am and the Present moment, could they be the same thing?(thats a bit offtopic)

So hey, what do you think about this? Why would desiring these things that you will always get bring you suffering? Or attachment to those things - since they can never be taken from You, why is it bad to be attached to them? 

Happy Holidays

Edited December 27, 2016 by Dodoster

[Key Elements]

@Dodoster

Happy Holidays.

This is what I noticed and recommend. Try to understand what is the ego.

Then, you could be more in touch with the present moment.

I would say half the journey is understanding what is ego. It's a huge chunk.

[Bob84]

@Dodoster I must disagree. Desire is absolutely fine and amazing and it doesn't lead to suffering. Only the attachment does.
I so desire a steak for dinner today. And i am literally going to go now and buy one ones if finish writing this. I am however not attached to this desire as i see if for what it is. So if they don't have any steaks today (very unlikely ), it doesn't cause me any suffering, since i wont be standing there mentally masturbating for a hour about not getting steak, ill just buy chicken wings instead .

[Dodo]

13 minutes ago, Bob84 said:

@Dodoster I must disagree. Desire is absolutely fine and amazing and it doesn't lead to suffering. Only the attachment does.
I so desire a steak for dinner today. And i am literally going to go now and buy one ones if finish writing this. I am however not attached to this desire as i see if for what it is. So if they don't have any steaks today (very unlikely ), it doesn't cause me any suffering, since i wont be standing there mentally masturbating for a hour about not getting steak, ill just buy chicken wings instead .

What if you desire something so much that it causes you suffering. Meat is a small desire!

[Dodo]

38 minutes ago, Key Elements said:

@Dodoster

Happy Holidays.

This is what I noticed and recommend. Try to understand what is the ego.

Then, you could be more in touch with the present moment.

I would say half the journey is understanding what is ego. It's a huge chunk.

Very nice video to rewatch, thank you for bringing it up to the present again ?

[Bob84]

12 hours ago, Dodoster said:

What if you desire something so much that it causes you suffering. Meat is a small desire!

Thats probably the reason for the teaching. If you desire love (like everyone) and are not attached to it, would it still lead to suffering?

[Key Elements]

On 27/12/2016 at 10:06 PM, Dodoster said:

Very nice video to rewatch, thank you for bringing it up to the present again ?

You're welcome. Since you mentioned, "desire," "attachment," and "suffering," I thought I bring up the ego because the ego has a lot to do with one's emotions and telling the difference between those and one's true thoughts and nature.

Here's another one of Leo's interesting clip that may help. I find this one creative:

 

Here's a passage from Robin Sharma, the author of Who Will Cry When You Die:

 

Be More Than Your Moods

For much of my life, I believed my thoughts were beyond my control. They just entered my mind automatically and did whatever they wished to do. Even worse, I believed that I was my thoughts. Instead, we are thinkers of our thoughts. We are creators of the thoughts that flow through our minds and, given this fact, we can change our thoughts if we choose to do so.

This seemingly obvious insight was an epiphany for me. I soon became far more aware of the thoughts I allowed into my mind and the inner dialogue that takes place within everyone of us every waking hour of every living day. I began to pay complete attention to the quality of my thoughts. This awareness was the first step to changing them. Over a matter of months, I trained my mind to focus only on positive, inspiring, and enlightening thoughts. And in doing so, I saw the outer circumstances of my life change. 

Just as you are not your thoughts, you are not your moods. You are the creator of the moods you experience,  moods that you can change in a single instant. If you choose to do so, you can feel peace in a moment of stress, joy in a time of sadness and energy during a time of fatigue.