Problem Solving Thread

[Raptorsin7]

Hey, I thought I could try a fun exercise.

If you have a specific problem you are struggling with, give me a detailed explanation and I will try to give you a helpful answer.

I'll just see what comes to mind, and maybe I can provide valuable insight.

Ask me about anything, I am not an expert at anything but I believe if I have a loving intent to help you, I will generate helpful answers for you

[Someone here]

Hmm..

Anxiety. 

[Raptorsin7]

Just now, Someone here said:

Hmm..

Anxiety. 

What are you anxious about? How does it manifest in your life?

Is it a feeling in the body? If so where?

Does it spike are certain points, are there certain people or places that give you anxiety?

[Someone here]

5 minutes ago, Raptorsin7 said:

What are you anxious about? How does it manifest in your life?

Is it a feeling in the body? If so where?

Does it spike are certain points, are there certain people or places that give you anxiety?

It's general. Doesn't come about certain things. 

It's a tension in my chest and heart area. 

 

[Salvijus]

I have an answer to every problem in the universe.

Just watch your breath

? joking. but it's a little bit true ? 

[Raptorsin7]

Just now, Someone here said:

It's general. Doesn't come about certain things. 

It's a tension in my chest and heart area. 

 

Do you remember a point in your life when you didn't have it? When you were a kid did you still have the anxiety?

Do you have traumatic events in your life? Molestation, getting beat, are your parent's narcissist's or sociopaths (I'm Indian and lots of Indians have parents who are mentally ill and traumatize them), anything stuff like that?

[Someone here]

11 minutes ago, Raptorsin7 said:

Do you remember a point in your life when you didn't have it? When you were a kid did you still have the anxiety?

Do you have traumatic events in your life? Molestation, getting beat, are your parent's narcissist's or sociopaths (I'm Indian and lots of Indians have parents who are mentally ill and traumatize them), anything stuff like that?

No I didn't have it as a kid. 

And no I didn't experience trauma as a kid. 

[Raptorsin7]

5 minutes ago, Someone here said:

No I didn't have it as a kid. 

And no I didn't experience trauma as a kid. 

Hmmm, so what age did it start happening? Even if it's not an exact timing, clearly there was a time where you did not have anxiety and then you developed it.

So something happened between those two points that caused the anxiety.

5 minutes ago, Someone here said:

And no I didn't experience trauma as a kid. 

I think you have a blind spot. Everyone faces some form of trauma as children, otherwise we would all be saints without any need for inner work.

What is your definition of trauma?

[omar30]

Money and creativity I want to create stuff but don't know what

[Raptorsin7]

1 minute ago, omar30 said:

Money and creativity I want to create stuff but don't know what

I recommend checking out some of his videos and work.

You want to find your highest values, things you are naturally drawn to and give you intrinsic well being and motivation.

What are you drawn to do spontaneously everyday, things you do effortlessly without anyone reminding you, etc

 

[Someone here]

1 hour ago, Raptorsin7 said:

Hmmm, so what age did it start happening? Even if it's not an exact timing, clearly there was a time where you did not have anxiety and then you developed it.

So something happened between those two points that caused the anxiety.

Well it started happening about a year ago. For no apparent reason. 

[Raptorsin7]

1 minute ago, Someone here said:

Well it started happening about a year ago. For no apparent reason. 

Do you remember exactly when it started happening? 

Surely something must have happened, if it's within a year that means you likely have good recollection of the events surrounding the time you acquired the anxiety.

Did anything major change in your life this past year?

[omar30]

@Raptorsin7

[Gesundheit2]

8 hours ago, Someone here said:

It's a tension in my chest and heart area.

Dissonance between your mind and body.

Solution: follow your heart.

[Raptorsin7]

@Someone here Hey do you have any ideas on what your core trauma is?

I have an intuitive feeling that around a year ago you started to contemplate your own death, or realized that you will die.

The anxiety may be fear of death

[Someone here]

On 11/26/2021 at 1:49 PM, Raptorsin7 said:

@Someone here Hey do you have any ideas on what your core trauma is?

I have an intuitive feeling that around a year ago you started to contemplate your own death, or realized that you will die.

The anxiety may be fear of death

Yes its related to death. I have anxious thoughts about death. 

[Raptorsin7]

Just now, Someone here said:

Yes its related to death. I have anxious thoughts about death. 

Interesting. I think you will cure your anxiety when you learn to embrace death. You must fully accept death, and see what the anxiety is trying to show you.

You can start small, but I would start learning more about death and just become curious about it.

At least you know what the cause is, now you can address it.

[Fearless_Bum]

@Someone here just to add a little Insight along with what @Raptorsin7 said: 

Consider that death is the ultimate relaxation and that fear is a response to keep "you" here, hence why you tense up. 

[Nahm]

@Raptorsin7

Really nice. ???

[Someone here]

@Raptorsin7 I'm scared shitless of death. So terrified of it. I don't know how to face it or embrace it. 

@Fearless_Bum how do you know that death is the ultimate relaxation?