My notes from Leo’s how to get laid series

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How to get laid 

 

 

Turn yourself into a high value man. 

Guys with no game are the creepiest. 

Guys who don’t know attraction theory. 

Isn’t it unethical to teach guys how to sleep with them? 

Teach the guy how to be boyfriend material 

Fake vs genuine attraction

Requires personal development

How to be come confident and better leader be highly social 

We need strong men. Not toxic masculinity 

Be deeply loving. be able to commit. 

Lots of men have deep insecurities 

How to get laid 

List of top reasons you’re not getting laid 

 

You’re not being social enough 

 

It’s impossible to get laid unless you’re social 

No trick will 

You need to be coming contact with new women on a daily basis. 

If you were meeting 200 mew attractive women every month a few of them would flirt with you. 

If you’re antisocial. You’re not meeting new women. 

 

You’re not going out 

 

You’re not being social. We come from linage if socializing face to face. We would have a feast together. 

Change your life style. I’ve been living an anti social life style. I’m going to suffer forever. The pain of being introverted is more painful than not going out. 

 

You’re not approaching 

You have no flirting skills. You’re not communicating with them in a 

Deep victim complex

You’re not willing to work hard to grow yourself into the kind of man women would find attractive. You think hot women should come to you. The slob you hard. You think girls should like you. 

 

Stop looking for easy solution. people who sell you these products are using you. You need to attack the root of the problem. 

The root. You’re not social. You’re not good with women.

 

You need to take responsibility for your dating life. Become much much more social. And attraction theory. 

You want to become good with women in general. 

 

Become good at socializing in general. Good at flirting secure man in touch with masculine and feminine energy. Position yourself around attractive women. Learn what attracts women. Learn the obstacles. 

You’re doing this to become a strong attractive guy. 

What you really want is love. You don’t really want a ONS. You want deep love. You got to build some game first. Deal with your victim complex. Your inner fame is awful. Low self esteem. Your don’t believe you have value. You believe you have to be fake. You think women don’t want what you have. 

 

You don’t believe it’s possible for you to get hot girls. You think they have more value than you. If you don’t feel entitled you won’t be able to main rain her. 

You’re too scared to take action

Make too many excuses

Must fix all this 

 

How does attraction really work? 

Your mis understanding of attraction has made it over complicated 

Men are attracted to beauty. We want to hottest guys 

Women don’t want the hunkiest most beautiful men.

 

Why are we mating with the opposite sex at all? From a biological perspective? What’s the man’s function from a woman’s function? 

 

Man

Hunter 

Defender 

Provider 

Leader 

Decisive 

Assertiveness 

Confidence 

Have a high position in the tribe. Easier to survive

Physical strength 

 

Women

Nurture children 

Motherly qualities 

Easily dominated 

Social skills 

People skills 

 

The masculine wants that which it is lacking 

The masculine wants mothering energy. Men are lacking in empathy and compassion. 

What does the women want in a man 

 

Usually you don’t get the perfect ten 

She’s going to settle for the things that are highest priority to survive. Leadership strength. 

Men and women need opposite and different things from each other. 

 

These qualities can be taught to men aka pick up

Biggest inner game problem is that dudes think they’re unattractive physically and think they’re stuck. 

 

You’re attached to being the loser that you’ve been. You can bite the bullet 

 

Limiting beliefs about attractive women 

I’m not good looking enough. 

The woman needs something deeper than good looks. She needs strength. Ask yourself are you not getting laid. Is it that your short or is it that you’re insecure about being short? 

If you’re mindset is “every girl belongs to me” you can’t go wrong. He saw what he wanted he went to her started hitting on her. 

 

Women want a man who knows what he wants and is not afraid to pursue it and is not ashamed of it. Feels completely entitled 

 

Studies show that women prefer men with perfect facial features and it’s all ‘objective’

This has nothing to do with attraction. Face to face interaction is different. You can exhibit charisma. You can have status. Dress in a certain way. Flirt. Be humorous. When a women is feeling a mate. She’s not choosing from 1000 options. 

 

How many guys have the abilities to excite her and be emotional with her? 

 

Girls only want the chad. Alpha extroverted guy. 

Guys tend to want to be attractive to all women in general. Only about 10% of chicks will find you attractive. 10% is actually very high. 

There are women that like the type of guy you are. Even 10% is enough. 

All you want is 1 really good  

 

Girls want muscles and dick 

You won’t get laid from your big muscles, developing your humor will get you laid more. 

Attracting hot girls requires you to be rich 

Hot girls will get attracted to you without knowing anything about you and knowing you’re not rich. 

If you brag you lose attraction. 

Women are attracted to emotions. 

I’m too much of an introvert. I’m not naturally funny or charismatic. 

You can become way more funny and extroverted 

Pick up is a scam. 

It’s purely a numbers game 

There’s a big difference between a noob and a master. 

Get good at talking to women.

You’ll be able to only get fat girls. 

You can get ridiculously hot girls this way. 

It’s not fair because it’s so easy for girls and so hard for guys. There’s truth in that but there’s a deep asymmetry. Girls want commitment from a quality guy. A lot of girls can’t find quality guys because they’re just not that hot. Guys can work on ourselves more. We can do more to improve our attractiveness. I can increase my attractiveness 10 fold. 

Some guys don’t have to work hard, why do I have to work hard? 

We are all born different. Genetic luck is involved. Some guys started early. 

Feminist have emasculated men. 

No one is going to emasculate you more than you 

Me too has made cold approach canceled. 

It’s possible to approach in a responsible Manor. Going up to girls and telling them you like their style she’ll be very flattered. 

Girls are sluts, liars, cheaters, gold diggers 

Men demonize women because they can’t get pussy. 

Most girls are pretty sweet honest and loyal 

There are too few good girls out there. They’re too rare. 

You only believe this because you meet so few women every month. Meet new girls every month you’ll realize there’s a crazy abundance 

 

Usually takes 100 approaches to get a lay. You’re skills become exponentially better. You can have so much sex that you get tired from the sex.. if you’ve tried and failed you’ve done something wrong. You went about it the wrong way. 

There’s no place to meet girls in my area. 

It’s too late to start 

 

Your bad inner game holds you back the most 

Negative 

Overly rational 

lazy 

You miss understand what women need 

 

What are women attractive too?

Masculine energy 

Strength 

Confidence 

Charisma 

Cocky funny 

Wit 

Fun  

Adventure 

Playfulness 

Drama 

Charm 

Humor 

Romance 

Highly social guys 

Positivity 

Emotional stimulation 

Strong personality 

Passion 

Ability to express himself spontaneously

 

Take her thru an emotional 

 

5 steps 

Envision yourself attracting cute girls 

Study attraction theory

Socialize every week 

Work on your victim complex and destroy all limiting beliefs. Do this by talking to girls and getting contradictory evidence. 

Be tenacious and do not quit until you get results

 

Your looks matter much less than you think 

Money doesn’t matter either 

 

Part 2 

The best game looks so effortless and natural it doesn’t look like game 

“That’s not game he’s just a cool extraverted guy”

 

What is game 

Game is learning how to approach doing a solid direct confident natural approach requires practice

Women expect men to be able to approach in a smooth way. 

Takes thousands of hours for antisocial 

Game is learning how to flirt, Be playful, and be emotional with women

Learning wit and verbal skills 

Women are unforgiving about verbal skills 

This is a bit shallow for women to judge men so much on verbal skills 

Learning to be highly social and calibrated. 

Being able to small talk with any one in any room 

Be able to understand the subtle que’s women are sending you. 

Once your calibrated you can be natural. Will be awkward until then probably 

Be smooth and natural. Make women feel comfortable around you.

Game is removing the awkwardness when it comes down to meeting a new person. 

Making her feel comfortable with your physical touch. How do you do this quickly after meeting her that doesn’t creep her out. How can you make her love your touch?

Learning to deal with logistical problems. 

Women will throw obstacles to you. 

Busting limiting beliefs. Building confidence. You should feel like you’re coming from a place of high self esteem. You should feel comfortable being the center of the room. 

Finding your authentic style of game. 

What’s the best way for you to express romantic feelings 

The end goal of game is you become your best self. Smooth out your edges. Not shy or fearful. 

Your own self love will shine thru you. 

 

Outer game 

 

Find best locations for approaching women in your city. 

Research. When are the best times 

 

How to approach. 

Scan her up and down and determine if you’re attracted to her 

Don’t over think it. Shut off your mind. Clear mind of all doubts. Walk straight to her. You’ll feel anxiety and fear. Push yourself to approach her

Get her attention firmly

Don’t do a half ass approach. Do a 100 approach. It needs to be clear you’re approaching. 

Say hey. Pause. Excuse me. Pause. 

Before you run any game. Get her attention. 

Eye contact and Then silence. Give her a second to realize what’s going on

Deliver opener. 

You don’t need a perfect opener. 

“Hey I know this is very forward but I just saw you and I felt very attracted. I wanted to come over and speak to you”

“Hey I know this is random but I find you cute. I found you cute as you were walking by”

“Hey my name is Reagan, what’s you’re name?”

Find something non sexual that you’re attracted to her about 

“I don’t know there was something about you that I like that I can’t quite put my finger on” 

“Something about you literally draws me towards you”

Be at ease and relaxed. 

She’ll feel Any anxiety you feel.

Be happy and playful.

Be there to have fun.

Be as genuine and honest as possible

Make statements about her and informed guesses instead of questions

Make observations. Make assumptions. Tease her. 

“You look like the type of girl that ____”

“You like to smoke weed don’t you”

Make assumptions about her major 

Don’t be logical be emotional. 

What are you most passionate about in life”

What do you like most about yourself?

Riff on the answer to these questions

Flirt x exhibit sexual intent. 

Make her feel like this is not a friendly interaction or a business interaction. This is the beginning of a dating opportunity 

“You seem like a trouble maker, I can already tell you’re going to give me trouble”

Act like your above her. 

Be so confident. That you’re assuming you’re higher value than her. You have a lot to offer here. Don’t half to sell yourself. Assume already you’re very attractive and valuable. She’s getting an opportunity to meet you. Give her one compliment. That’s enough 

The Frame is “she’d be lucky to date you” you’re screening her. You’re subtlety judging her. You’re evaluating. You’re the guy. You’re the leader you know more than her. You might have to fake it. As you develop your game. These things will begin to become true. A girl wants a guy she can look up to. Who’s a bit above her in value. 

Keep the convo going as long as possible

Keep plowing. Build a bond between each other 

Towards the end of the conversation start pushing for phone number or insta 

All of game can be summed up as follows

 

Approach

Be playful

Express romantic desire

Lead her somewhere 

Stay with the girl as long as possible

 

Magic line “can I come with you” 

 

If she’s interest in you. She won’t work hard to make something happen. You’re going to handle logistics. 

Girls won’t lead you to sex. You’ve got to lead it. 

 

 

Learn kino escalations.

Touch her shoulder

Poke her 

Tell her ill hug you 

Calibrate by her mood. Tell her mood by her face.

If she’s laughing great. Even if she says no, if she’s smiling then its a yes. 

Push it. See how far you can escalate.

Grab her by the hips and pull her front to front. rub her legs. Grab her ass. 

You can politely ask ‘can I squeeze your but’

 

Build rapport intimacy and emotional connection.

She has to know and trust you. 

She has to be able to trust you. Stick in the set as long as possible.

Handle logistics

 

Who are your friends

How do you know each other

Are you a local

How’d you get here?

What are your plans? 

How long are you staying out to knight

Where are you going

Do you have a roommate

Do you live alone 

 

Friends will create lots of drama

Befriend her friends

Find away to make it comfortable for her to leave her friends at the end of the night. 

See if she’s comfortable following you. 

 

3 phases

Attraction; approach/ hook point. 5 min

Rapport; make her comfortable with you. That she can trust you. 2 hours.

Seduction 

 

Top things to learn infield.

1. Approaching without excuses. 

Strong direct approach. 

Squaring up to her face to face. 

Strong eye contact.

Smile. 

Firm vocal tone and be loud

Slowing down your speech and movements. pausing between

Be relaxed and present

Be positive, playful, and self amusing

Building state. Put self into fun relaxed social state. Build state by approaching and approaching. Fail to build state by staying in your head. Build state sober. Without drinking. You’ll have more fun sober. 

Sexual intent/ man to women interaction. 

Physical escalation. Kino escalation. 

Asking screening questions/ handling logistics. 

Flirting small talk/ not running out of things to say

Not asking boring questions. 

Being emotional rather than logical. Push pull. Be challenging.

Talking about yourself. The secret to extroversion is extroverts talk about themselves endlessly. 

Charisma. 

Improvisation/ free association. Dog = hot dog = baseball =

Self deprecating humor. Disqualify yourself. Tell her how horrible you are. 

Don’t say anything sexually explicit. 

Not bragging/ trying to impress her 

Dealing with her friends. Give her friends a compliment. 

Not ejecting the set. Stick there til the bitter end.  

Get smooth at asking for her number. 

Practice instadates

Leading moving bouncing around

Managing own mood and self doubt. 

Building rapport and intimacy 

Have stories in your own life worth telling. 

Getting good at dealing with shit tests

Handing objections and token nos 

Compliment a women on anything besides her looks or sexiness 

Telling her why you like her why she’s special 

 

Basics to get results

Find clubs

Go out

Approach consistently and build state

Do a solid / direct approach

Strong eye contact smiling firm voice

Be happy

Keep talking do not eject from set

Keep talking until she tells you to lead

End interaction with insta date phone number or bouncing to new location 

 

Approach anxiety should go away as you gain state. 

You will get a lot of rejection.  

 

Pt 3 

 

The dumber you act the easier it is to get laid 

 

Fake value vs true value 

What are you providing in terms of value?

 

What do women want most?

Player who she can tame. She wants an impossible thing. 

She wants to be the special one. 

Most players end up settling down. 

If you’re a nice guy. Be a player. 

Set the player frame and she’ll sleep with you the same night. 

Fulfill her fantasy. Be the player. Find the right girl and let her feel she tamed you. 

Your working 4x as hard to develop capacity to provide and to be a player. 

It’s valuable because it’s rare 

 

Let’s talk about hook point. 

You’ll reach book point within 1 second to 5 minutes 

Hook point. You can clearly tell she’s attracted to you. Develop an intuition for it. Feel it. 

Happens so fast. If it’s not with 5 minutes it will never happen. 

Don’t bother trying to butter a bitch up for months. You can trigger attraction in minutes. You don’t need to wait a long time. 

Does not take that long to build attraction. 5 minutes. Or less. 

Be charismatic enough and present yourself properly. 

It can happen within 5 seconds. 

Even within a single second. 

Sometimes you can tell by eye contact. 

You know she’s into you, you can get away with so much more 

Before hook point : weird 

Reach hook point : make out

Register when it’s happening and capitalize it. 

Physical openers. You’ll reach hook point immediate or she’ll blow you out. 

 

How can you tell you’ve reached it?

Her attention shifts to you. 

She’ll be very attentive to what you’re saying 

Something about you is special 

She’ll let you touch her

Hips. shoulders. 

Walk up to a girl and immediately start hugging her. 

Hands on her hips. 

Use touch to test for if you’ve reached hook point. 

She cares about what you’re saying/ doing

If she forgets about you she didn’t hook

If she walks back to you

Your goal should be to grab her attention so strongly that she’ll be coming back to you all night. 

She wants to know more about you. Starts asking questions. 

She will qualify herself to you 

Job 

Money 

Her good qualities

She’s trying to impress you. 

She gives you compliments: cute handsome good looking guy wonderful amazing 

Laughs at things you say that aren’t funny 

Difficulty maintaining strong sexual eye contact 

She follows you around when you try to move her

She won’t walk with you unless you’ve hooked her 

 

As a newbie Your job is to Approach consistently and hook as soon as possible 

 

Top principles of game 

Go out. Game doesn’t work if you don’t go out. Fuck theory bruh. Allot of theory is a waste of time. Spend 95% of your time going out. Learn from the field. 

Infield is king 

Most shut will auto correct when you go out. Trust that gaining experience and running tests when you’re out takes a lot of going out to integrate various aspects of game. 

Don’t ask a question in a forum. Go and test your theory. 

Law of state transference 

What you feel she feels. Your emotions are leading the interaction. Emotions transfer between people. Posture vocal tonality. Women read these subtle ques. They need to know if you’re weird or if you’re creepy. You got to put yourself into a good playful mood/ state to attract them. You can’t be hiding your attraction for them. Be in a flirtatious sexy mood. That’s how you want her to feel. Your state will rub off on her. 

A newbie will feel anxious and terrified. Get loose in your body. Has to feel casual and easy. Remove all anxiety in your eyes. Be having fun. Laugh and hug a girl while your laughing and she’ll laugh too. 

Man to woman communication. It has to be sexual without making it. Every time. How do you do that. Subtle hints. Compliments. Touch. How you look at her. Look at her like a wolf looks at a rabbit. A cat looks at a mouse. Sexy but at the same time playful. Imagine the look you’d have while having sex with her. You’re not talking about the weather. You’re talking about her and you.  Frame it as it’s you and me against the whole world Or as if she was your girlfriend Already 

Let her feel your raw sexual desire for her 

We’re taught to hide this. Don’t jerk off so you feel sexual and with this sexual energy you find a girl you’re into. That energy will be transferred onto her. Nothing sexual needs to be said. It’s energy. I’m out I want that girl that one tonight. We’re making it happen tonight. She’s going to feel this off of you. 

What are you willing to do to make it happen? 

Practice transferring raw sexual desire into her while talking to her. Don’t jerk off 

Allow your true self to get rejected. 

Remove all masks and monkey acts. Walk up to a girl as your true authentic self try to get her to reject you as your true self. The best game is just being your chill authentic self. Be man enough to take that rejection. You want her to love you for you. Plenty of girls are attracted to your true self. 

Be positive. Bring value and energy.

Don’t leach energy. When entering set add humor. This guys cooler than us. He laughs more than us. He has more energy than us. 

Attraction is not a choice

3 second rule/ 30 second rule 

Or else you’ll make rationalizations and excuses and won’t approach anyone 

Context sensitivity and calibration.

Everything must fit context 

What you’re doing is training a neural network 

This is happening when you’re going out failing over and over again. Figure out how to make her comfortable with you. 

Congruence. Whatever words are coming out of your mouth have to be congruent with how you feel. If you’re having a shitty day own it. Admit you’re scared or awkward. 

Build up state and momentum by getting rejected 

The best thing you can do is get tongue tied up in front of a girl and relax. It’s no big deal. The ideas you have of rejected are worse than they are. Psyche yourself up to get blown out. 

Warm up. Don’t judge yourself for the warm up sets. Your first 10 sets don’t have to be special at all. Just walk up and talk. 

Become comfortable in your own body. You need to be at ease in the club. 

clear your mind as you approach. 

Do the analyzing afterwards. When you’re in the club your only objective should be to have fun. Throw out all logic. Especially when about to approach. You’ll be in unconscious execution mode. You don’t want thoughts interfering. 

Don’t script out your approach. That will be a shifty approach. Trust your spontaneous ability to intuitively run your game in her. 

Chill and friendly method over flash game 

The best game looks simple. Doesn’t look like game. Tone the crazy shit down. 

Do not supplicate (beg) do not chase and do not brag to women. 

She will get attracted to the witty things you say. The logical things you say don’t matter. 

You can be completely illogical with girls and it’s fun. Men spend so much time in logical mode that 

Be polarizing. Not a girls should like you. If there’s something you don’t like about her, express that. Push her away and pull her in. 

Your cute sorta. But are you smart? She needs to feel like she’s chasing you. 

Physical escalation right away. Sooner than comfortable. Become the type of guy who’s touchy with everything. Amp it up around a girl 

Lead her and test for compliance 

Baby step it. Talk to her for 2 minutes and try to get her to move to the left or right. Sometimes you forget to lead. You should have moved her like 5 times already within an hour. It’s too hard to go from the same place to 

Air on the side of making a move instead of not making a move 

 

Newbie mistakes 

Not going out and making excuses about it 

Victim mentality. Blaming others for results. 

Crippling self doubt and negativity. Obsessing over looks. Stop doubting the process. 

Not approaching 

Oneitis. Putting focus on girls in general. Your girls not special dog. 

Decide you’re approaching and give a 100% 

Not staying in the set long enough

Being too nice too friendly. Over investing all pull no push 

Asking too many interview questions. 

Trying to be her formal boyfriend. Start with the player frame. 

Being too sexually explicit

Being in authentic. Trying to act alpha. Bragging. Qualifying self. You should be disqualifying yourself. Tell her you scrub toilets at Taco Bell. 

Trying to logically convince her into sex 

Not escalating off the bat.

Hesitating when making a move. Make the move. 

Not Leading. 

Hiding raw attraction to her. Let her feel it. 

Being too gamey. Don’t be gamey. 

Not being socially calibrated. Not asking a girl how she knows the friend. 

Not going for a close. See how far it can go. Even if you’re not trying to have sex. Have the intent to close. 

Asking women for attraction advice. Most women don’t know what they’re attracted too. 

Quiting after less than 1000 approaches 

Not moving to a big city

Getting invested before sex 

Buying her drinks and shit. Girls should buy you drinks 

Quitting the night early. 

 

How do you get girlfriend or wife?

Same was as attracting a one night stand 

Select her from a position of abundance. From those girls select one for yourself. 

She wants to feel like she’s the one. 

You don’t know what you want until you’ve fucked 30. 

What kind of personality should she have? What do you need from a long term partner?

 

What do I say? What do I say when talking to girls? Conversations with girls are so chaotic. You cant have scripts and routines for all of them. Bite the bullet and learn game without routines. Have fun with friends. Partying. Learn to party. Be random and spontaneous. Emotional. Don’t preplan what you’re going to say. Fully embrace the improvisational nature of game. Learn to sink or swim. Put yourself into the right frame of mind

 

How to not run out of things to say 

Make observations. Her shoes face dress ethnicity, club, country, friends, everything. 

Simple observational 

Make dumb assumptions. I bet those two guys are gay lovers. You look clumsy. It looks like those tattoos were painful tiger 

Stop being logical and just state stupid things. Amuse yourself with ideas and games. Shit talk. Learn how to shit talk

Tell fantastical stories and role play. We’re going on a honey moon. Where are we going? Hawii, Bahamas, scuba diving 

Read pop culture and news before going out. 

Talk about yourself. Plans. dreams. what you’re working on. problems. someone you hate. someone’ that pisses you off. Assume she’s going to be interested in. 

Free associate 

Watch and listen to infields with guys who have good verbals

Make a list of funny lines. Don’t memorize long sequence of routines. 

Drops phone: “this is why we can’t have nice things”

“Don’t be racist”. (Best used in irrelevant times)

“It’s okay I’m very gay” 

“I hate you”

“Can’t we all just get along”

“You’re so predictable”

“We would never get along”

“How dare you”

“You just hate me because I’m black”

“Don’t worry, I’ve only murdered 3 people and they all deserved it” 

If she has a boyfriend “it’s okay I’m not greedy I can share. Is your boyfriend greedy?

“I feel like you’re tying to use me for my body”

“Just pretend none of this is real. All a hallucination” 

“Dumb girls make me depressed. In the dick.”

“Be gentle with me I’m very shy.”

“I wanna shave your head so that other girls here can feel good about themselves