How do i fill my cup with love , leo?

[mememe]

10 hours ago, Ramzi08 said:

@mememe it seems like a good strategy.
like you said, she seems to have a one on one communication personality. she therefore does not voluntarily and maliciously neglect our friendship.
I wonder if this friendship is really worth it and if she will really change in the future.

mh, yes, might be she can’t be different. if you understand that, it might be that you can relax a bit more around her and also then really not put too much effort into fixing the relationship, rather try to keep it and find also more friends, so you don’t get into a feeling of disappointment with her again. the only part which is not nice is that she was so direct, at least it sounds a bit cruel out of the context. (i‘m maybe too fast to see a bit of narcissism in that, its out of context and was probably not deliberately to hurt you but as an explanation)

wish you good luck with finding more friends and deciding on how you want to proceed.

[Loba]

You shouldn't have to bend over backwards to maintain a friendship with someone.  I had this happen to me in the mental hospital.  I became close to someone quickly and they found a younger girl to connect to.  They really avoided me then and got awkward, which it would not have been if they had just... chilled out; I had no qualms with the other person and didn't really care, but they had to go and make it awkward.  Oh well...  I just wanted a friendship, they thought I wanted more, I think.

Anyways, if you have to jump through hoops and can't just "chill", then the friendship should probably take a backseat, keep her as an acquaintance, but you're not there to entertain her, either.  Do you have any pets?  If you are lonely and need someone to bond with, getting a dog or cat can be a big help.  Plus, if you have a dog, a lot of times women will approach you to pet the dog.  You can go to the dog park, make friends there, ect.

As for filling up your cup - visualize a golden chalice in the the present moment and imagine you are filling it up with self love, from your heart, your chest, then imagine drinking it.  Refreshing yourself, breathe deep.  It is a feeling in your body - know that part of you is a small child, we all have this part, talk to it, tell it how much you care and love it and want to protect it.  Nurture that small child.

Try doing a few things a day just for you, out of self love, and keep love in mind as you do it, like a nice bath, or a good meal, or anything, really, that you would give to another, give to yourself.

Edited November 20, 2021 by Loba

[Nahm]

@Ramzi08

Fill a cup with water. 

Make a pot of tea. 

Pour the tea into the cup. 

[PurpleTree]

cacao is love

that's what i'm drinking right now

[Ramzi08]

@mememe

I admit that I felt she was very direct. she was obviously sincere but cruel. and that's the most disappointing thing. it proves that she just wants to have a good time and she doesn't care who to spend it with. I feel like  she used me to spend some time with me, and then she let go of me. 

Edited November 20, 2021 by Ramzi08

[Ramzi08]

@Loba

thank you so much. you are absolutely right. I must not invest my energy and my time on someone who is not ready to invest in the same proportion. she used me to spend some time with me, and then she let go of me. 

[Loba]

@Ramzi08 That can happen, is she more extroverted?  Sometimes extroverts get people crushes, and they will invest a lot for a while, but they need a constant amount of new people in their lives to be happy.  Sorry that happened to you, it's the pits.

[Ramzi08]

@Loba

yes, she seems a little addicted to the adrenaline rush of the first weeks of relationships. 

Thank you for the support.