How To Get Laid - Part 1 - The Foundations Of Success with Women

[The Rainmaker]

 

7 hours ago, Flowerfaeiry said:

I'm like "aw he's nervous, that's sweet" and then already I feel like I'm more experienced/higher than him. The old me would have been like "guess I'm going to be the one taking control here" but now I just let things fade away because a man who's that afraid won't be leading us anywhere very deep and that's not my place. 

You're "higher than him?" What does that mean? That you're superior to people who aren't as good at social interaction as you?

[Jacob Morres]

@The Rainmaker I agree with u. We must see the human behind the anxiety 

[Terell Kirby]

13 minutes ago, The Rainmaker said:

I feel like this forum is merciless towards people with social anxiety. As someone who used to be unable to make eye contact with women and who can because of psychedelic intervention and years of meditation, most of the time when a dude's too nervous to talk to you it means there's something the matter with his brain. I don't think it's the type of thing to be shitting on people about. 

Masculine energy grows through challenge, feminine energy grows through praise.

Having a mediocre sex life is not something to comfort an adult male through. Men must be challenged to become better at this, even if it's through occassional ridicule.

[Jacob Morres]

@Terell Kirby I disagree, trying to help people with ridicule is mostly emotionally unintelligent. It's like a short term strategy 

Edited November 9, 2021 by Jacob Morres

[herghly]

Leo's recent videos have been amazing. I hope you don't get discouraged from the poor comments @Leo Gura and you realize the vast majority of people love it!

[herghly]

9 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

When a hot chick is grinding on your dick in the nightclub, no-mind dawns. Thoughts vanish like ashes scattered to the wind

I think you could put that into Haiku form:

Chick grinding on dick,

Club music blaring,

Thoughts nowhere to be found

BAHAHA I SPAT my coffee out. Made my god damn day

[The Rainmaker]

19 minutes ago, Terell Kirby said:

Masculine energy grows through challenge, feminine energy grows through praise.

Having a mediocre sex life is not something to comfort an adult male through. Men must be challenged to become better at this, even if it's through occassional ridicule.

That's idiotic for more reasons than I can count but with regards to spirituality the most obvious is that the duality between men and women doesn't exist in the first place. 

[Terell Kirby]

1 minute ago, The Rainmaker said:

That's idiotic for more reasons than I can count but with regards to spirituality the most obvious is that the duality between men and women doesn't exist in the first place. 

Sexual attraction comes from duality. You can kid yourself that the laws of human biology don't apply to you, but recognize it's only because you are denying your sexual cravings, and the work it takes to satisfy those through some of the methods discussed in the video.

Don't use spirituality to maintain the lifestyle of an in-cel, you can use it in so many more productive ways, champ.

[The Rainmaker]

@Terell Kirby Sounds like you're just trying to bully people into suicide. I was born with brain damage and I had to spend years working on eye contact, selective mutism, etc. I promise you that when I was at the peak of this medical trouble that I was by no means a "pussy" even though I might have been deemed such by neurotypical people who were judging me on my abilities relative to normal functioning.

Anxiety and awkwardness tend to be biological obstacles. It's a much more complex issue than just making people feel bad so that they magically develop new skills that are beyond their current programming. You're just a douche. 

Edited November 9, 2021 by The Rainmaker

[The Rainmaker]

1 minute ago, Terell Kirby said:

Sexual attraction comes from duality. You can kid yourself that the laws of human biology don't apply to you, but recognize it's only because you are denying your sexual cravings, and the work it takes to satisfy those through some of the methods discussed in the video.

Don't use spirituality to maintain the lifestyle of an in-cel, you can use it in so many more productive ways, champ.

Maybe those incel weirdos wouldn't be so goddamn weird and angsty if people like you weren't making them feel constantly uncomfortable about their achievements. 

[Lyubov]

1 hour ago, Terell Kirby said:

Masculine energy grows through challenge, feminine energy grows through praise.

Having a mediocre sex life is not something to comfort an adult male through. Men must be challenged to become better at this, even if it's through occassional ridicule.

This is a thing David Deida says that I think needs more unpacking so to speak so it can be better understood. I wouldn't reduce this. Masculine energy does grow through challenge and I've found in general women tend to grow much more through praise. Men also need praise too. It depends how it's done. Some men may respond much better to a gentle fatherly tone and even praise mixed with a wise challenge. Every guy is different. I don't think ridicule is the way to go. I can't speak for all men but harsh challenging ridicule does not help me. Frankness, honesty, words of integrity, challenge and praise do.

[4201]

1 hour ago, The Rainmaker said:

I feel like this forum is merciless towards people with social anxiety. As someone who used to be unable to make eye contact with women and who can because of psychedelic intervention and years of meditation, most of the time when a dude's too nervous to talk to you it means there's something the matter with his brain. I don't think it's the type of thing to be shitting on people about. 

All judgement is self judgement. People who shit on others are likely the most anxious, scared off being shit on themselves.

[integration journey]

Thank you @Leo Gura for this series. Really much needed. Approached 5 girls today at my  college campus. I just gained the balls to talk even though I wish the interactions went better. Will work on it though 

[Leo Gura]

12 minutes ago, integration journey said:

Approached 5 girls today at my  college campus.

Good work!

[Michael569]

On 08/11/2021 at 2:00 AM, Carl-Richard said:

When you deny the lower aspects of self-development, you close yourself off to the higher aspects. If you want more people to become spiritual, you start by fixing the socially awkward incels.

[Shin]

On 08/11/2021 at 3:00 AM, Carl-Richard said:

The highest consciousness people don't need teaching. You teach the people with lower consciousness so they can raise their consciousness. When you deny the lower aspects of self-development, you close yourself off to the higher aspects. If you want more people to become spiritual, you start by fixing the socially awkward incels.

That's assuming I care about other people.

I only care about me, hence why I complain why the video is not like it should be !

[Space]

I thought it was a great episode. Very grounded, practical and covered a lot of the important fundamentals. This kind of information is absolutely essential for guys to understand and put into practise. There really aren't many men telling other young men to go out and talk to shit tons of women and be more social. The only other guys saying this are the RSD guys (who don't even talk about it anymore) and then the small number of pickup related youtube channels. There does seem to be a real lack of quality education for men on how to properly socialise. Most men on social media are just bitching and complaining about women.

The trouble is that there is still a big taboo against talking about this kind of stuff. Most people don't make the distinction between weird pickup tactics and then talking/approaching girls in a socially calibrated way. Even my close male friends don't really get it.

[Leo Gura]

37 minutes ago, Space said:

Even my close male friends don't really get it.

It's not possible to get it without doing it.

Only after a few thousand approaches does one start to understand what game is. And it's extremely counter-intuitive.

[Space]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

It's not possible to get it without doing it.

Only after a few thousand approaches does one start to understand what game is. And it's extremely counter-intuitive.

What are your thoughts on the process of actually improving/getting better. Is it largely just a matter of doing the reps and learning through trial and error? Do you reflect on/evaluate your interactions the next day/same day? Do you/have you ever worked on very specific things for a whole night? Do you ever get feedback from other guys? 

[Leo Gura]

32 minutes ago, Space said:

What are your thoughts on the process of actually improving/getting better. Is it largely just a matter of doing the reps and learning through trial and error? Do you reflect on/evaluate your interactions the next day/same day? Do you/have you ever worked on very specific things for a whole night? Do you ever get feedback from other guys? 

Game cannot be learned mindlessly. Every interaction has be to scrutinized and analyzed for points of improvement. Hundreds of very subtle distinctions must be made. Yes, I work on very specific and technical parts of my game. Not just for one night, but for weeks and months. Yes, I have gotten feedback from some of the best coaches and wings in the world.

As a newbie you just want to focus on approaching consistently and hooking sets. But as you reach the intermediate level and beyond, you should start to get technical about your game.

I reached a point where I would split test very minor things. For example, if I open a girl at the club using a should tap, should I tap her shoulder 2 times or 3 times? And how much pressure should I apply to her shoulder? And then when she looks me in the eyes, how big should my smile be, and should I already be smiling before she locks eyes with me, or after she locks eyes?

And so I would have to split test all that to see what works best.

It can get that technical. But as a newbie you should not be thinking about such things. Just approach and have fun.

Game starts to become really fun when you reach intermediate level and start getting technical about it. It becomes the mastery process, like perfecting your golf swing.