My ex is living with my family

[henrylmosley]

So my girlfriend and I went out for several months and then all of a sudden in mid to late August she asked for a break in the relationship b/c she lost her job, place to live, and everything was just chaotic in her family life.  Anyways, she felt she wasn’t ready for a serious relationship at this time so I let her go cause she needed to figure things out. 

We still kept in contact then after about two or three weeks she had nowhere to go cause of her living situation and her family is unaccountable and fragmented so my parents and I offered her to stay at our house and live for free as she gets back on her feet.  I confronted her after a week and asked her what our status was and she said we are still on a break even though she is living in my parents house now which has made it really difficult for me.  Is she just leading me on and using me?  Or does she just need time to open up again since she hasn’t set any time frame of when we’ll be back together???  I’m really concerned and don’t want to get real hurt in the end of this.  I still have strong feelings for her but I don’t feel she can give that in return right now with the way her life is going.  From an outsiders viewpoint what do you take on this entire situation??  Thanks.

[Gili Trawangan]

I think you shouldn't have offered her a place to stay if you had ulterior motives. It's only a nice gesture if there are no strings attached.

You need to let her go for real, and in the future what will be will be. Maybe it'll work out, maybe not. But if I were you I would separate the living situation from the possible relationship.

[henrylmosley]

5 hours ago, Gili Trawangan said:

You need to let her go for real, and in the future what will be will be. 

Sounds easy, but in fact ... quite difficult. Maybe I need help