What makes a "good" friend?

[Terell Kirby]

I am working on improving my friendships after years of being taken advantage of by narcissist, who used the friendship for selfish reasons.

The goal is to be more conscious, emotionally intelligent, intuitive and holistic about opportunities for friendships.

Thanks.

 

[Lyubov]

I like having different friends for different experiences. I would say that it really comes down to avoiding toxic people and just setting boundaries and cutting them off when you have to. Don’t waste your time hanging out with toxic people. Aside from that I’ve also felt sorta jaded with friends that were depressed and broke all the time. Other than that I’m pretty open to different kinds of people from all walks of life. 

[Terell Kirby]

5 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

I like having different friends for different experiences.

Totally, I'm working on implementing this more as well. It requires me to be open minded so I don't judge people for their unique interest. Often times, we can learn a lot from our friends just being themselves. Instead of trying to shape them into what we want them to be.

[Jacob Morres]

Genuine intent to be friends 

Being emotionally intelligent, and respectful 

Similar interests/Values 

I also think friendships can vary person to person. Personally my best friendships also include a lot of vulnerability and understanding 

Edited November 2, 2021 by Jacob Morres

[hoodrow trillson]

Them letting you shine as the person you are 

[Preety_India]

One thing is trust and loyalty. The other is they shouldn't break your boundaries, if they do that, cut them out. Some people make fake shallow friends as in they act friendly on the outside yet they don't have the same feelings on the inside. 

If they block you even once, they aren't worth it. 

What I have realized from my private experience is that people are like blueprints. They don't change much. So choose carefully. Once they act a certain way, don't give them anymore leeway. Once they have shown their true colors, just throw them out for good. 

A genuine friend will never say anything hurtful to you. They won't alienate you. So if you see signs where they are acting fickle, as in they suddenly flip or talk about breaking off despite you putting in months of trust in them, it's time to say goodbye because they didn't honor your trust. 

How and what kind of friendships you keep very much depends on your own experience and expertise. Have a keen sense and don't be vague about how you want things. If something doesn't feel right, make your decisions in advance before you get betrayed. 

I recently felt betrayed by someone I trusted for quite a long time. Betrayals are quite common. 

Treasure those people who know how to treasure you. 

 

[Terell Kirby]

@Jacob Morres @hoodrow trillson @Preety_India this great, thank you

[Karmadhi]

One word: Integrity

[Flowerfaeiry]

I would say, live up to your values and you will attract people doing the same

[henrylmosley]

1 hour ago, Flowerfaeiry said:

I would say, live up to your values and you will attract people doing the same

 

Well said

[Jacob Morres]

@Terell Kirby np hopefully it was helpful 

I'm trying to figure it out with you tbh 

I really like @Karmadhi s answer

I think integrity is a corner stone of healthy relationships in general. Almost like it's the foundation of friendship 

Like if you're integrous you go in with good intents and no manipulations. Both people would be very happy and it would create a foundation of trust 

 

Edited November 3, 2021 by Jacob Morres

[gettoefl]

you call me i call you i call you you call me

in a word friendship is reciprocity

nothing else

[Terell Kirby]

8 hours ago, Flowerfaeiry said:

I would say, live up to your values and you will attract people doing the same

Wise words! Speak truth to power.

2 hours ago, gettoefl said:

you call me i call you i call you you call me

in a word friendship is reciprocity

nothing else

yes