What is the role/job of girls in the dating dynamic

[Flowerfaeiry]

@cjoseph90

[Globalcollective]

3 hours ago, Karmadhi said:

 

Totally agreed however i feel like the base of your needs should be effortless. Then you can focus your effort into things like life purpose, spirituality, enlinghtement, self-actualization etc. Spending most of your time focusing on things like food, sex, shelter etc is simple poverty.

If only it worked like that, it's a privilege to have all your baseline needs met without effort.  Say your born into a rich faimily ect.

Anyway it's all preparation for the final boss fight right? You work and challenge your ass off and become sucessfull and your way more likely to awaken. 

Tho the buddha was a prince ahah

[Karmadhi]

@Globalcollective

17 hours ago, Globalcollective said:

it's a privilege to have all your baseline needs met without effort.

Females do.

 

17 hours ago, Globalcollective said:

Anyway it's all preparation for the final boss fight right? You work and challenge your ass off and become sucessfull and your way more likely to awaken

I do not mind working for things that are not basic needs. Meditation, life purpose and self actualization.  Even things like money, success and social skills are cool. Not basic needs though.

[Jacob Morres]

On 10/4/2021 at 4:13 PM, Karmadhi said:

Yes and then infinite friendzones

Be careful, there is a responsibility in your friendzones that when you take will remove the friendzoning (most of it) 

Edited October 5, 2021 by Jacob Morres

[Byun Sean]

You forget that the woman has to develop herself and present herself in an attractive way just as men have to do.

 

Women don't want a million low value guys creeping on her. She wants one strong man she can commit to.

 

Women become biologically and physically attached to the man she is romantically involved with.

It makes perfect sense if you look at both perspectives why the man needs to be the hunter and put in the initial effort. Because way 

more is emotionally at stake for the woman.

 

Men do the approach so the woman knows he is sexually attracted to her which kick starts the romantic aspect to the relationship.

[Derek White]

On 2021-10-03 at 8:00 PM, Flowerfaeiry said:

 

Do you have this idea that guys just go out and do all the work? I wish. It takes a lot to attract a man that's worth your time in even just the bedroom. 

 

Meanwhile men struggle to even attract a woman. Try being a 5’4” guy and let’s see if you can attract a woman let alone one that’s good in bed. 
 

@Karmadhi Don’t let anyone fool you, it’s not “equally hard” for both men and women. It’s just the way it is, and remember not to turn this into a grudge. 

Edited October 8, 2021 by Derek White

[universe]

You are trying to understand the dating paradigm within the male perspective. Which is why it won't work.

The male mind is wired to solve those "problems" you describe. So when approaching, leading, planning and making sex happen as you say. Those are all tasks the male mind is destined to do. Build for that. As men we rise to those challanges and get excited about them. Or get lost... whatever.

From a womans perspective this all doesn't even come to her mind. Her brain is not wired for that, instead it is wired to be very good at other stuff. Where she can rise to a challange and get excited about. But that stuff won't make sense to you and your male brain.

So don't worry about it.

If you want to understand women better you can start by watching this video and do the exercise towards the end.

 

 

You can also take a look inside the brain of women by reading/watching dating advise that's catered to women.

 

Disclaimer: These are all generalised statements. Some women can be more masculine and some men can be more feminine of course. And because we mostly live in a society that favours male brain wiredness, many women can understand men better than the other way around. Because they learned it from society.