Getting back the excitement in life ?

[Sauvik]

I am a 28 year old now,  I started personal dev at 24 , initial 2 years I felt like I was actually growing and am on my path. 

Not anymore, I have lost that excitement about my future!

Has this happened to you , how you tacked it?

is this a phase ? what should I do handle this healthily

 

My background:

I started working in sales to learn and get better at sales , I loved sales for about 2 years but these days I have started to hate it.

Particularly i am hating that I am not actually creating anything of value in sales , except revenue for my comapny.

I have made myself learn coding and now giving interviews to get a job and change my field.

I started meditation in 2017 and have been meditating almost every day since then till 4-5 months back, have not been that regular since last 4 -5 months.

I also sucked at dating . had zero experience with opposite sex. So I had started pickup pretty heavily as well when I was about 25. Got decent at it and am satisfied with my results .

Recently I realized how immature pickup is really and decided to leave pickup for good. It was a part of my life I used to have some excitement towards as I was relatively good in it.

 

    

Edited September 28, 2021 by Sauvik

[BlackMaze]

Start working out. Also have a hobby you are mastering the more creative it is the better. 

[Sauvik]

I am working out almost every day, spend 1.5 hours before starting work on 45 mins of pranayama and wim hof, 40 mins of weight training and exercise and about 10-15 mins of mindfullness. 

 

Currently learning code and Software dev , which I think will count as a hobby for now 

 

I used to have a vision though a vague one but I had one and it was beautiful and precious for me , it used to "make me cry" when I'd feel it . I have lost that . 

 

Edited September 28, 2021 by Sauvik

[Bob Seeker]

Same here. definitely no power to my visioning anymore. 

Do you do psychedelics?

Do you feel like spirituality has made things feel more meaningless?

Do you have fantasies of leaving your life behind to wander or to just live simply and give to others your time/presence/wisdom?

Apart from coding, do you have anything you are passionate about?

Do you see coding as an art form or just something cool to learn?

[Bob Seeker]

It sounds also like you have no purpose. This might be your biggest issue. I've had trouble finding mine, but you may have more resources than I do to find one for yourself. 
 

i would guess it’s either lack of purpose, living an inauthentic life, or ignoring a desire to go deeper spiritually, maybe with psychedelics or more retreats and stuff.

Edited September 28, 2021 by Bob Seeker

[Sauvik]

15 hours ago, Bob Seeker said:

Same here. definitely no power to my visioning anymore. 

Do you do psychedelics?

Do you feel like spirituality has made things feel more meaningless?

Do you have fantasies of leaving your life behind to wander or to just live simply and give to others your time/presence/wisdom?

Apart from coding, do you have anything you are passionate about?

Do you see coding as an art form or just something cool to learn?

No I don't actively used Psychedelics.

nor am I planning  to as of now.

I by mistake had a Psychedelic experience this march when I accidentally overdosed on edible marijuana ( called bhang on Holi, an Indian festival). I started to feel I was about to die, had a massive panic attack. then kept on having those few more of them on the following weeks.   

My relationship with my dad improved after having it and I left pickup , these are 2 positive things that happened.

But the experience got me scared.

 

yes after 4 years of spirituality I kinda do feel that spirituality and meditation  brings in meaning less ness.

 

yes a lot , I feel like doing something like that , wandering around the country, but never considered anything like that seriously.

 

I am exploring coding now , I have allways been  interested into tech, but I am at my best when I  am creative and artistic so I am looking for areas in coding where I can utilize my creativity.

 

[Sauvik]

what about you @Bob Seeker  how old are you ? do you take psycedelics , what other things are you doing to allign your life more towards your purpose? 

[Egzoset]

>> ...accidentally overdosed...

[something_else]

It sounds like you're heavily settled into a routine, I can see that getting boring. I know I need to change things up every now and then otherwise I get similar feelings. Maybe start trying some radically different and new things from what you've done up until now? That's a good way to build some excitement

Bear in mind I'm only 21 and have far less life experience than you, so I could be talking out my ass 

[Bob Seeker]

On 9/29/2021 at 4:08 AM, Sauvik said:

what about you @Bob Seeker  how old are you ? do you take psycedelics , what other things are you doing to allign your life more towards your purpose? 

I’m23. I have done mushrooms like 5 times, 1-3 grams per. 

it’s easier to start if you take 0.5-1 grams on first couple goes. I find weed to be scarier than that.

I have spent a lot of time over the past year and a half since graduating college just thinking about what I want to do with my life. I’m better at searching now but I don’t have clear answers yet. When you question things a lot and really don’t know what to do things seem more meaningless and it Can get depressing. 
 

instead of trying to get the perfect life purpose I’m going to start on a smaller project I’m a bit passionate about and take it from there. I also may enter the tech industry to get a decent income.

 My biggest limiting resource is money rn, so I’m gonna work on that.

I honestly think personal development should not be treated as a philosophy. It is a bunch of tools to help you experience what you feel authentically called toward. I think the majority of us may benefit from a lot of searching to find what kind of life really fits us and personal development Can help us get there. 
 

i think that in itself is pretty exciting. That we get to discover and create something new, unique, with our lives. It takes bravery to go in an unknown direction, but that is good. 
 

so part of my goal now is to be more open when looking at paths to take
 

 

 

 

 

[hyruga]

To get back the excitement in life, you have to act excited. Fake it till you make it!

[Sauvik]

31 minutes ago, hyruga said:

To get back the excitement in life, you have to act excited. Fake it till you make it!

Sound's like that could work , will try it .

[Sauvik]

I see, well I don't plan to start up any thing any time soon, I am not mentally at my fittest , so currently working towards it.

I think my 15-20 mins of meditations are not working anymore for me and i have to increase the duration again .

 

Thinking will never really give us answers , I guess go with something which is the most logical choice for you atleast it will get you started,

 

IT will definitely solve your finance woes, who knows you might find something in it youre passionate about as well.

And all the best to you , for whichever path you choose to venture on !

 

 

 

 

Edited September 30, 2021 by Sauvik

[Sauvik]

 

I see, well I don't plan to start up any psychedelics any time soon, I want to be mentally at my fittest , so currently working towards it.

I am not getting the time as of now because of my sales job, and I think my 15-20 mins of meditations are not working anymore for me and i have to increase the duration .

 

55 minutes ago, Bob Seeker said:

When you question things a lot and really don’t know what to do things seem more meaningless and it Can get depressing. 

Thinking will never really give us answers , I guess go with something which is the most logical choice for you at least it will get you started,

 

Tech sector will definitely solve your finance woes, who knows you might find something in it you're passionate about as well.

All the best to you , for whichever path you choose to venture on !

[PurpleTree]

maybe it's also a bit because of covid, climate change, u.s. vs. china and so on

because some things are looking bleakish in the future

Edited September 30, 2021 by PurpleTree

[Bob Seeker]

3 hours ago, Sauvik said:

All the best to you , for whichever path you choose to venture on !

Thanks! Yes. Planning to take everything I’ve learned, even when feeling most stuck and let it help me going forward.

I’ve come to believe the universe is interested in us finding our way in life, and by remaining open and sensitive, we will be doing well.

good luck!

[Sauvik]

2 hours ago, PurpleTree said:

maybe it's also a bit because of covid, climate change, u.s. vs. china and so on

because some things are looking bleakish in the future

Yes, Covid had hit India harder this time add to that  working from home,  has increased loneliness and  anxiousness.

But I think that If you are someone who is on your path on your purpose you won't really be at the effect of the situation really.

I had been like that in the past but seem to have simply lost that, It hurts more when you know what the right behaviour is but are not really matching your own standards.