What I hate about a former friend

[Guardian]

I was friends with for about 14/15 years at this date.

Doesn't inquire, but rather judge proudly, people's, with regards to his  mind, "unusual" perspectives. Judges continuously others as unreasonable.

Never questions or introspects his position of how he is determining a degree of truth to something.

Tries to cover his fears with artificial apathy or anger or pride. Never challenges his fears through reflection or cognizance.

Doesn't emotionally grasp people are crazy all the time.

Low emotional life outside of resentment and fear. 

Low courage or authenticity. His resentment based opinions need to be kept private. Can't stand up for his perceived injustices.

Doesn't want to work together on dreams and goals, but complain and romanticise.

Doesn't value his own psychological and physiological health. Whenever some point that addresses his self limiting or harming position is made he dismisses it by relativising or rationalising.

Edited September 15, 2021 by Guardian

[PepperBlossoms]

If he/she lacks skills, you could feel sorry for them and try to help them grow - be a friend on their path of development - a lighthouse in the dark.

Why do you care so much about whether this person is developed or not?  Why is it inspiring hate?

Take it a step further and look at how they see you and come up with a bullet list for that.  Come up with a list of the things that you personally need to work on as well and not just them.

Everyone is at their own level of development and one of the things to learn is to notice where everyone else is and accept where they are at and be grateful that the relative you is past that.

Maybe you still struggle with some of those things in the list you gave and so that is why it bothers you that they are how they are? 

Edited September 15, 2021 by PepperBlossoms

[NoSelfSelf]

Understand that hes where hes at in his development the more you do the less you hate and more you come to peace with it.If you cant see it then you lack the understanding