PMO Addiction

[Rinne]

Hey guys, i wanted to come on here and ask for some advice regarding my PMO addiction (Porn, Masturbation, Orgasm). I think its just getting out of hand at this point. i started atound age 11 ish and im now 23. I just dont know how to overcome this at this point. I want to heal myself cause i think im really overdoing it now. Not to the point of like 5 times per day but somewhere to once or twice per day somtimes. Do you guys recommend anything? 

[caspex]

Bump. I need help too.

[Opo]

Lmao 1 to 2 times a day is normal. 

[Rinne]

1 hour ago, Opo said:

Lmao 1 to 2 times a day is normal. 

1 or 2 is not is bro sorry. or atleast its not healthy. i honestly feel like porn is destructive the more you do it. 

2 hours ago, Swarnim said:

Bump. I need help too.

for real. i find myself falling of the deep end. 

the videos i came across as hardcore and super stimulating. 

its like being on the dark side of porn. nothing weird but jus over stimulating videos. its not healthy. 

[Rinne]

2 hours ago, Opo said:

Lmao 1 to 2 times a day is normal. 

btw can u stop shit posting all over this forum. ur post r really low quality 

[Wilhelm44]

What would happen if you stopped judging yourself for watching porn ? 

[Tudo]

I'm trying to stop watching porn too bro. I know how difficult it is. 

I gave up trying to spend a long period of time without watching it. Instead, I try to spend two or three days without it.

It's been working,  the amount of porn that I watch weekly, for example, has been reduced drastically.

Edited September 12, 2021 by Tudo

[gettoefl]

the odd occasion i run into porn i just feel such deep compassion for the women being butchered and the men battering the helpless woman and trying to prove how macho they are

just sadness all around, how messed up those poor souls are, and putting this misery on display for the world to witness

should i look at it, i am absorbing their misery, their pain, their barbarism 

Edited September 12, 2021 by gettoefl

[Roy]

@Rinne Out of the amount of times you masturbate per week (on average) how much of it is because you're genuinely horny and need a release vs using porn as a distraction from something else?

[Opo]

1 hour ago, Rinne said:

btw can u stop shit posting all over this forum. ur post r really low quality 

Gimme some examples. 

[Tudo]

2 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

Last thing I'd like to say is, masturbation is not bad. Get that out of your mind. Stop justifying your lack of focus, purphose and interesting things to do for "I have a brain fog, cause of PMO" even if you do experience brain fog, it's certainly not due to porn. Just focus on higher consciousness things, or start going out all the time. It's up to you. Ideally both.

Masturbation not. But porn is.

[Tudo]

6 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

 

However, I don't believe in the bro science that nofap movement spreads. There's certainly some fucked up, degenerate shit in there, but also a lot of beautifull porn, that I would clasify as art almost. So yeah, it depends.

 

But guess what most people watch. I can almost guarantee you, that what most addicted porn people ended up watching are pretty  fucked upand toxic, to say the least. This can easily destroy their relationships and life completely and even the lives of other people.

Edited September 12, 2021 by Tudo

[Rinne]

1 hour ago, Roy said:

@Rinne Out of the amount of times you masturbate per week (on average) how much of it is because you're genuinely horny and need a release vs using porn as a distraction from something else?

I would have to say its somewhere 60% of the time out of being horny and 40% of the time out of distraction. 

It be like this i feel a need to at least masturbate once per day. But sometimes ill go extra just for the hell of it. i guess you can see it as "over eating" like eating even tho you dont need to. i would say 40% i do it as a procrastination. I been trying to detox from social media and music so like PMO, and junk food are the only sources of "high" dopamine that i get. Within the last 20 days i masturbated like 28 times to porn and like about 6 other times without porn that i didnt track. 

I have this issue where i feel i need to masturbate to porn so that whn i go outside i dont feel so much lust for women. I hate feeling high levels of lust for women bc it feels like they would be able to control me ironically. So this is one reason why i masturbate. Before i was masturbating every other day and my masturbation session were actually enjoyable but i feel like im getting to the point where i just do it as a crutch now. I was smoking weed and masturbating back 1 or 2 months ago and those sessions that i had were insanely pleasurable. In total i probably smoked weed and masturbated at the same time like 7 or 10 times total but it has left me with some "damage". I just crave doing that again. Thankfully i threw out the weed but i been having strong craves of just wanting it to do it again. it was insanely pleasurable cause of the kind of over stimulating content i came across where your like flashed 20 girls within 1 minute. I would advise everyone to stay away from those. It might have been hypnotic to. I dont know if its really possible to get someone addicted to porn thru hypnotic porn videos. I dont really crave watching porn as much as i craving watching porn WHILE HIGH and watching those over stimulating videos. 

Its rough out here : ( 

2 hours ago, Wilhelm44 said:

What would happen if you stopped judging yourself for watching porn ? 

i did that for like a whole year last year. i was doing it like once every 2 days. I actually enjoyed my sessions and i wasnt watching over stimulating videos but like just one video instead. 

It did nothing tho so me judging myself or not wasnt helping

2 hours ago, gettoefl said:

the odd occasion i run into porn i just feel such deep compassion for the women being butchered and the men battering the helpless woman and trying to prove how macho they are

just sadness all around, how messed up those poor souls are, and putting this misery on display for the world to witness

should i look at it, i am absorbing their misery, their pain, their barbarism 

i guess everyones somewhat different. i guess thats just the way you see it. i dont see it like that lol 

 

1 hour ago, Opo said:

Gimme some examples. 

im not gonna entertain you

[Wilhelm44]

@Rinne   "i did that for like a whole year last year. i was doing it like once every 2 days. I actually enjoyed my sessions and i wasnt watching over stimulating videos but like just one video instead. "       Sounds like not judging yourself was actually working for you.   

[Rinne]

29 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

If you don't find something productive or enjoyable to do while you're home, and you don't go out much, then what do you expect to happen?

first of all i wake up at 430am 630am and attempt to start my day productive. im probably more productive thn u are. I also go outside EVERYDAY for at least 6 - 10 hours.

 

31 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

You're gonna be jerking it all the time, cause you have nothing else to do. Seriously, this is so obvious, it doesn't even deserve a topic of it's own, and yet someone still posts it here once every 2-3 weeks.

Well clearly some other people struggle with it if it gets posted a lot. smh

 

32 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

And if your answer is "but I'm going out and doing productive shit", I don't buy it. Clearly you aren't doing them enough. You are not focused.

Literally go outside everyday. N start my mornings on a productive note. 

 

33 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

Last thing I'd like to say is, masturbation is not bad. Get that out of your mind. Stop justifying your lack of focus, purphose and interesting things to do for "I have a brain fog, cause of PMO" even if you do experience brain fog, it's certainly not due to porn. Just focus on higher consciousness things, or start going out all the time. It's up to you. Ideally both.

Masturbation isnt bad but porn can be detrimental if over used. No one said anything about brain fog. 

 

32 minutes ago, Tudo said:

Masturbation not. But porn is.

^exactly 

 

16 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

I'm kind of mixed on that. I do have some ethical problems with porn, cause of the way they are exploiting women, men, even children sometimes. The industry is kind of fucked up, when you take a closer look at it.

However, I don't believe in the bro science that nofap movement spreads. There's certainly some fucked up, degenerate shit in there, but also a lot of beautifull porn, that I would clasify as art almost. So yeah, it depends.

And once again, if you want the real thing, it's not the problem of pornography that you're watching it. It's your problem. (I mean that in general sense, of course, not directly you).

moderation is the best but in some cases some people fall into addiction. 

 

[Rinne]

3 minutes ago, Wilhelm44 said:

@Rinne   "i did that for like a whole year last year. i was doing it like once every 2 days. I actually enjoyed my sessions and i wasnt watching over stimulating videos but like just one video instead. "       Sounds like not judging yourself was actually working for you.   

nope. once every 2 days is still a lot. so clearly didnt work. all that happened was that i didnt beat myself over relapsing as others do. At the end of the day over doing it comes with consequences down the road

[Wilhelm44]

4 minutes ago, Rinne said:

nope. once every 2 days is still a lot. so clearly didnt work. all that happened was that i didnt beat myself over relapsing as others do. At the end of the day over doing it comes with consequences down the road

Where is it written that once every two days is bad ? I still feel that the less we judge ourselves for watching porn the less of a compulsive thing it becomes. Trying to cut porn out completely while not having a girlfriend is just torturing yourself. 

[Rinne]

18 minutes ago, Wilhelm44 said:

Where is it written that once every two days is bad ? I still feel that the less we judge ourselves for watching porn the less of a compulsive thing it becomes. Trying to cut porn out completely while not having a girlfriend is just torturing yourself. 

omg. thats not what im saying. 

"where is it written that eating junk food is bad?" no where! theres still consequences!

ofc cutting it off completely is torture im just asking how can one heal themselves to moderate it to like at least 2 or 3 times per week instead. 

 

13 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

Perhaps you're doing it as a reward for the hard work then?

it was in the past but it got out of control 

You've mentioned you're also doing it sometimes as a form of procrastination, try to find some other form. I know you mentioned you're abstaining from social media and whatnot, but those forms are perhaps better than jerking off.

in my imo there not. time is everything. i would waste more time on social media just to get the amount of satisfaction i quickly can thru PMO. 

Try to find some other, healthier ways to find dopamine. For example, binge watch some funny videos and laugh your ass off. Then you can slowly rid off that dependency also, untill there's no longer problem.

I'm certainly not as productive as you, but me being a up and comming writer, I find procrastinating valuable sometimes, since writing is highly creative endevour. I try to do it in a more active form though, while meditating for example. Perhaps more meditation could be helpfull for you also, or mindfullness exercises in general. I don't know, only you can know yourself. I know it helped me a lot, not just with urges and impulses, but also made me happier in general.

gotchu

 

 

[Wilhelm44]

@Rinne   How about going to a good tantra teacher ?   Can be useful to explore your own sensuality in new ways.

[Rinne]

Just now, Wilhelm44 said:

@Rinne   How about going to a good tantra teacher ?   Can be useful to explore your own sensuality in new ways.

could b a possibility