How to get laid?

[Vivaldo]

I am a virgin 

I don't know anything about getting laid and how to have one night stands

Can someone tell me the exact step by step process on getting laid.

What should I do? 

[Thunder Kiss]

Start going out and socialising with friends and form a social circle, and if you don’t wanna do that then you gotta go lone wolf and approach 1000s of women on the streets until you find one who is up for a 1 night stand 

[Vivaldo]

@Thunder Kiss is it even safe? 

How do I know the girl wants to rob me? Or will record a video of me through a hidden camera and not blackmail for money later?

[Thunder Kiss]

Just now, Vivaldo said:

@Thunder Kiss is it even safe? 

How do I know the girl wants to rob me? Or will record a video of me through a hidden camera and not blackmail for money later?

That’s why the safer more Naturell option is to meet girls through friends and In social circles. 

[Vivaldo]

Ok 

Let's say I even meet a girl.

What should I say to her ? "Interested in a one night stand with me?"

[Frenk]

18 minutes ago, Vivaldo said:

Ok 

Let's say I even meet a girl.

What should I say to her ? "Interested in a one night stand with me?"

[Vivaldo]

@Frenk yes exactly 

I don't know how to approach ? lol

[Thunder Kiss]

34 minutes ago, Vivaldo said:

Ok 

Let's say I even meet a girl.

What should I say to her ? "Interested in a one night stand with me?"

If she is drunk and you know her a bit, or have been hanging out all night then that might work.  But most girls aren’t looking for a one night stand with a random boy they just met.  Maybe if you approach every girl in the club then maybe 1 will be up for it (but then you also risk looking like a creep) 

If all you want is one night stands then the best bet is to go out to bars and get drunk and chat naturally with ppl. 
It’s also more likely that you will hookup with a girl from your social circle, if you are all out partying together.  This is the simplest way. 

But you should also be wary of having too many 1 night stands in your social circle because word will spread fast that you are a player and that your using girls for sex so it could backfire.  

[Vzdoh]

Work on your EQ my dear. I smell u have a very low level of it, and that's why u have this issue to start with. 

[Vivaldo]

@Vzdoh the reason I am virgin is because I am ? young

And I am just starting out and absolutely no idea about anything.

Sex is overhyped and I feel like I am unhappy because I didn't get it.

And I don't want to get embarrassed for exploring my sexuality and want to as much experience as I can in this field.

 

[aurum]

13 minutes ago, Vivaldo said:

 

@Vzdoh the reason I am virgin is because I am ? young

 

How old are you exactly?

The younger you are, in some ways the less theory you need. You cannot be taught anything until you have a baseline of experience. So often the best thing a young person can do is just socialize as much as possible.

[Nahm]

@Vivaldo

If you just want sex it’s actually very simple, just get a job / an income and a prostitute. If reading that feels a little ‘cold’ to you, allow what else you want to come to mind, that which makes it ‘warmer’ to you. Maybe this helps you see you don’t just want sex, but to have fun with someone, to get to know them and also yourself more through relationship with them. Maybe you want to do & experience things together, to discover new experiences together, etc. If so, put that first, and as unsatisfying as this might initially sound (try it and see) let it (getting laid) go from your mind, and paradoxically the sex will naturally follow at some point. 

[Bando]

Dude if your in highschool or college get out of your house and go socialize, focus on making friends first and let things happen naturally from there. Your age range is when everyone around you is horny and everyone is close proximity, don't even think about cold approaching.

They key is to make SOCIAL friends, not friends who are interested in playing video games and smoking weed all day, that way they can invite you to parties and events and you can connect with people there, don't worry about getting laid just worry about talking to more woman and not being a stuttering fool around them.

Also type your exact question on youtube and dive into the info you find

[Roy]

How old are you @Vivaldo?

The simplest way to get laid without "cheating" (hiring a sex worker), is to go to parties with young people. College settings are best and will give you the highest chances. Go to some house/dorm parties with friends, have some alcohol to get a buzz (but not drunk) and you'll find talking to girls and flirting to get laid actually isn't that scary or difficult at all. Just don't try too hard.

It's probably the best setting in the world to be in if you're just looking for sex. People at that age group are LOOKING to get laid and have one night stands. For example >

I kid you not at my very first college party I got laid simply from making eye contact with this girl across the room. She walked by to use the washroom and when she came out she stood by me. I whispered in her ear if she'd like to go to my room and that was that.

Thing is I'm not even that good looking or have James Bond level game, you just have to follow the signals and the "vibes" and things will happen for you.

Your only job is to simply be in those places where that stuff can happen to you.

[Vivaldo]

@Roy @aurum @aurum @aurum @Vzdohi don't want to reveal my age 

I am pretty young tho!

Thank u guys for the suggestions 

Quite helpful

[Vivaldo]

And I welcome more suggestions 

And smart ways of getting laid ?

[Vivaldo]

@Roy cool bruh! Sounds magical and naughty?

God is at his best when 'naughty'?

[roopepa]

People might experience this very differently, but if you are a bit like me, one-night stands are really fucking boring. It's really not satisfying at all. The best sex is when you build up an intimate relationship and have sex with the same person frequently. That's where the real fun is.

Simply, go somewhere where you can meet girls. When you have more interaction with women, you will start to find what works for you.

- Be intuitive

- Don't be creepy

- Don't talk down other men or make stupid remarks about women

- Be funny. If you are naturally really unfunny (as I am), just show them some good memes or videos of stupid animals or babies or something. You don't have to be a standup comedian.

- Go with the social flow. You don't have to be extraverted or talkative, just be you and have fun. Maybe gossip a little or something, but in a good way. That will show that you understand social situations.

- Open up about stuff you are comfortable with sharing. You can start building a close relationship in just a few hours if she's open to it.

- When you're ready to get flirty, say stuff like "you smell good" etc. Make a good eye-contact. Here you can also stand or sit physically closer to her.

This has worked pretty okay for me. I've always relied mostly on social and emotional intuition. You sense it quite quickly if she's into you.

Edited September 5, 2021 by roopepa

[something_else]

5 minutes ago, roopepa said:

People might experience this very differently, but if you are a bit like me, one-night stands are really fucking boring. It's really not satisfying at all. The best sex is when you build up an intimate relationship and have sex with the same person frequently. That's where the real fun is.

Simply, go somewhere where you can meet girls. When you have more interaction with women, you will start to find what works for you.

- Be intuitive

- Don't be creepy

- Don't talk down other men or make stupid remarks about women

- Be funny. If you are naturally really unfunny (as I am), just show them some good memes or videos of stupid animals or babies or something. You don't have to be a standup comedian.

- Go with the social flow. You don't have to be extraverted or talkative, just be you and have fun. Maybe gossip a little or something, but in a good way. That will show that you understand social situations.

- Open up about stuff you are comfortable with sharing. You can start building a close relationship in just a few hours if she's open to it.

- When you're ready to get flirty, say stuff like "you smell good" etc. Make a good eye-contact. Here you can also stand or sit physically closer to her.

This has worked pretty okay for me. I've always relied mostly on social and emotional intuition. You sense it quite quickly if she's into you.

This advice feels like it fits my experiences really nicely, thank you. I think this advice will work well if you're not naturally the most extroverted person but you have a good social sense nonetheless

Having said that developing some overt extroverted traits is probably still a good idea

[Vivaldo]

@roopepa I get your point, intimate relationships are far better but if I am actually not interested in the relationship and just the sex, then I am cheating on the girl and have to end it at an unhappy note which I will become infamous for after a while.

Like how long can I get into relationships in the hope of sex and end up breaking them?

Edited September 6, 2021 by Vivaldo