Understanding What Type Of Girl You Like

[Shane597]

I am not sure what type of women I like. How will I know my type? I meet a lot of people every day, but the women that I meet I am attracted to in some sort of way. I think that I like the very intelligent women, that were not well admired in high school, but honestly, I also have taste for the women that are very girly and emotional. I don't know what establishes a connection? 

[avk123]

When you ask a person these questions and they respond back to you in  a heartfall way to you, thats the first step into connection. 

 

Read "Daring greatly" by Brene Brown.

 

Good luck, 

[aurum]

There isn't one "type" for you. Your tastes in women will evolve as you work on yourself and rise in consciousness.

That being said, if you want to know what kind of woman you like, just experiment. Dates lots of women and then you'll know.

[Pav]

Lose the idea of a 'type' of woman. No two people are the same.

Look at people objectively for as they are, without imposing generalisation from your web of beliefs or attempting to mould them into your preconceived types.

True love is only possible once you free yourself from the distortions of the egoic mind.

[jse]

On 07/12/2016 at 4:19 AM, aurum said:

There isn't one "type" for you. Your tastes in women will evolve as you work on yourself and rise in consciousness.

 

This is so true - the hot but superficial girls I used to fall for in my youth, bear absolutely no resemblance to the goddess-within women I'm attracted to nowadays.  That's life - we evolve.

[aurum]

5 hours ago, Mat Pav said:

Lose the idea of a 'type' of woman. No two people are the same.

Look at people objectively for as they are, without imposing generalisation from your web of beliefs or attempting to mould them into your preconceived types.

True love is only possible once you free yourself from the distortions of the egoic mind.

While this is true and what we all should be striving for, I don't know if this advice is going to be very practical for him right now.

Because if you honestly did that and looked at women without belief, there'd be nothing there. Just the unknowable source consciousness.

If you want to live in the world, you're going to use an ego. And some people you simply are going to have better chemistry with than others. Just because someone is Enlightened doesn't mean their ego gets along with everyone else's ego.

[aurum]

2 hours ago, jse said:

This is so true - the hot but superficial girls I used to fall for in my youth, bear absolutely no resemblance to the goddess-within women I'm attracted to nowadays.  That's life - we evolve.

Yup. And the quality of girl that is attracted to you will also change. That's because we don't attract what we do, but rather who we are.

[Frogfucius]

8 hours ago, Mat Pav said:

Lose the idea of a 'type' of woman.

This! I'm guilty of being physically attracted to a certain "type" of woman, but nothing about that is natural in the biological sense; it's all conditioning of the mind. All tastes you have, and that goes for your taste in the opposite gender, does not come from you. It's born from your culture, your personal experiences, and conditioned thoughts.

The danger, I think, of having a "type", is that something born from thought is naturally harmful. If you have a "type" of woman, then you are putting that mold of woman, which is completely a fiction, to a higher standard than all other potential mates. You risk becoming attached in an unhealthy sense, you risk acting unnatural, you risk hurting the other person, and you spotlight a particular person and put them on some kind of pedestal. These are destructive things, and I'd say nearly all men and women are victims of it. A deep, stable connection can not be built on a cracked foundation. Something will feel amiss.

Just be aware of the dangers of thought and the conditioned mind.