Low sexuality towards women, am I gay?

[spec300]

My friend is telling me that I am gay. I am not that much into pussy, i find it a bit dirty. I am not into anal sex for the same reasons. I do not like dicks, but I do notice if there are pretty guys in the room. I would (i think) never want to suck a dick, because I do not find them attractive. I am more into faces, pretty and cute girl faces. But not so much into dirty sex or less so into sex with guys. So, I am wondering what that is...

Recently, I have also been not that interested in dating/sex. I can go for a week or two without masturbating, and do it only for physiological purposes. If I open porn, I am not super turned on by it. If i do open it, i look for romantic clips.

So, I want to understand what is going on with me. Also, if I see girls shopping or doing other "superficial" things, i get very disinterested in them. I prefer someone who is super simple, but I have no idea where to find such people...

[hamedsf]

at first time of my datings, I wasn't comfortable going down on girl and lick her. you know it can get smelly as hell and you wouldn't believe that smell comes from that gorgeous face, but you should get yourself accustomed to such dirty behaviors. sex gets its meaning when it gets dirty. so I wouldn't go with vanilla sex, coz it's damn boring. 

otherwise, if you're not interested in women, I recommend check out your testostrone level. 

 

[somegirl]

You might be asexual or aromantic. Or just depressed.

Edited August 22, 2021 by somegirl

[Tudo]

15 hours ago, hamedsf said:

at first time of my datings, I wasn't comfortable going down on girl and lick her. you know it can get smelly as hell and you wouldn't believe that smell comes from that gorgeous face, but you should get yourself accustomed to such dirty behaviors. sex gets its meaning when it gets dirty. so I wouldn't go with vanilla sex, coz it's damn boring. 

otherwise, if you're not interested in women, I recommend check out your testostrone level. 

 

lol  Lick girl's pussy are one of the best things ever 

[Tudo]

When I find a girl attractive, one of the first things I start fantasizing about is licking her pussy. 

( Sorry if I'm letting anyone uncomfortable with my comments)

[Roy]

8 hours ago, somegirl said:

You might be asexual or aromantic. Or just depressed.

This^ 

It should be mostly obvious, you don't need to drive yourself crazy questioning everything because of a simple remark. Either you are attracted to guys, or not. You don't do this by logically thinking by the way, you do it by feeling. The actual thoughts that arise in your head are more reflections of those feelings.

Perhaps, and I don't mean to sound offensive, but maybe you just don't have a lot of experience and don't know exactly what you like. I'd recommend really putting yourself out there and exploring so you can get a better idea of what that is.

[Leo Gura]

Def either gay or asexual. Perhaps your hormones are out of whack.

If you were full on straight you couldn't go more than a few days without dreaming about pussy. It would drive you nuts.

If I were you I would definitely get my hormones checked. Check your testosterone levels and others. Check your vitamin D.

You may simply be repressing your desire for dick because you feel it is wrong or abnormal.

[Preety_India]

Not sure about your case. 

Low sex drive or low libido. 

Don't you feel romantic for the opposite sex? 

Have you ever felt like masturbating with thoughts of the opposite sex? 

 

If no, then it could be a medical problem. 

I don't think you're gay, if you were you wouldn't have questioned it. 

You seem to have a medical problem/mental problem with sex. 

Check with some sexologist. 

 

[diamondpenguin]

@spec300 You might want to do a bit more exploring, and just accept whatever you're into, and just be open to the possibilities whatever it may be. If you try both, you'll found out pretty quick which one you are. Just like go try to get down with a women, then a dude. You'll know pretty fast which way you're oriented. 

[Nos7algiK]

Sounds like you are asexual unless these feelings also weave themselves into other aspects in your life then it may be hormones. You'd know if you were gay and you would know if you were straight. Though bi-curious may be a bit more foggy to figure out without experience.

Im fairly asexual myself you could put a 10/10 nude woman, or man, in front of me and there would be zero sexual arousal unless I had some emotional/intellectual connection with them. All I would see is a person who is naked as an objected truth to what is happening. Though I'm not disgusted or see genitalia as dirty.

It was a bit confusing in my teens and early 20s, but after meeting others who are like this within both sexes helped me realize it's just the way I naturally am. There is nothing wrong with it. Again, unless you are feeling this way towards life then it may be hormones.

[spec300]

Apologies for a delayed response.

No, when i dream at night or imagine, then i think of girls and pussies. I never wanted a dick nor ass, the idea of sucking or touching someone else's dick just does not appeal to me.

I can go without jerking off for 1-2 weeks without a problem. I never watch gay porn, it just does not turn me on. But, when i did have sex with a girl, i would cum immediately and stop being interested right away.

I do like girls, how they look like, the faces. But not soo much into long sex though.

Today, and yesterday, for some reason have just become suddenly better. I enjoy the weather, being outside, talking with people and have a good mood. I want to connect with people and hang out. It came all suddenly, after weeks of lethargy and apathy. I think i was (still somewhat) depressed, but it just comes and goes, and it seems i have little control over it

[Opo]

Are you interested in increasing your sexual energy or are you ok with it being low?

[The0Self]

“Am I gay?” = almost certainly not straight. Unless it’s a sort of a mere thought experiment or open-mindedness exercise.

Perhaps try gay porn. If that doesn’t work, get your hormones checked — particularly testosterone. Could be a number of things even including low histamine. Or just depression.

[TripleFly]

I don't understand you guys. Do you think gay people are less into sex or something? if ANYTHING gay people are MORE sexual. They got that pride guys!

Hey, so I was in a position that sounds really similar to you, thinking about that maybe I am gay, and noticing that most of my friends are so much more into women and sex, sexual thoughts, and everything... Yet I just didn't care.

I am 26 now. and only in my 24 or 25 I can say that something busted my doors completely open. 

Now I feel like all guys, looking at boobs and butt instantly without even thinking... It's not fun because it's so instinctual and forceful...

 

Do you work out? 

Do you get enough sun?

Do you get enough sleep?

Are you depressed?

If you are just stuck in front of a computer all day, and you look slim, or skinny fat, and your skin is pale. Then no freaking wonder.

Edited September 22, 2021 by TripleFly

[Opo]

20 hours ago, The0Self said:

get your hormones checked — particularly testosterone. 

Surprisingly estrogen is really important for this. 

[soos_mite_ah]

On 8/21/2021 at 3:00 PM, spec300 said:

My friend is telling me that I am gay. I am not that much into pussy, i find it a bit dirty. I am not into anal sex for the same reasons. I do not like dicks, but I do notice if there are pretty guys in the room. I would (i think) never want to suck a dick, because I do not find them attractive. I am more into faces, pretty and cute girl faces. But not so much into dirty sex or less so into sex with guys. So, I am wondering what that is...

Recently, I have also been not that interested in dating/sex. I can go for a week or two without masturbating, and do it only for physiological purposes. If I open porn, I am not super turned on by it. If i do open it, i look for romantic clips.

So, I want to understand what is going on with me. Also, if I see girls shopping or doing other "superficial" things, i get very disinterested in them. I prefer someone who is super simple, but I have no idea where to find such people...

It sounds to me you are mainly experiencing aesthetic attraction and romantic attraction rather than sexual attraction. It happens. Doesn't mean you're gay, might mean you're asexual or you have a low sex drive in general 

[SriSriJustinBieber]

http://www.asexualityarchive.com/under-the-ace-umbrella/

[The0Self]

18 hours ago, Opo said:

Surprisingly estrogen is really important for this. 

Yeah, nothing tanks the male sex drive like low estrogen, counterintuitively. High estradiol is usually associated more with excess water retention than low sex drive. In fact. high estrogen in the presence of adequate testosterone can actually increase libido.