Online Dating - Setting up a profile

[ValiantSalvatore]

I've read one book about online dating and took some action on what was good advice on the forum. As well asked around to see what worked for others. 

I know which two plattforms I will use for online dating which is Bumble as well as OkCupid. I can summarize what I've learned from notes for others. Yet, be mindful that I've never put that into practice, so I am unsure if it will work for others. I would highly appreciate advice from others who are more knowledgeable about this area. As well as where I can find high quality ressources to create a profile. Nothing black/red/blue pill stuff, yet something reasonable and applicable.

To give an example:

Number one thing to have as a man I'd say have a strong life purpose.

What I did so far:

• Did a shooting for high quality profile pictures
• Read the book of pook a couple of times
• Read double your dating
• Tons of notes about sexuality
• Defined what I want in a partner, I am looking for a girlfriend
• Know the distinction between first stage, second stage and third stage relationships
• Read an advisor about online dating
• Defined a love map of what I am interested in and what qualities I enjoy about a life partner

Online Course: 3 drives for everyone of us:

Attraction - > desire
Romantic - > Infatuation
Intimate Bonding -> Where the others feels like family

Video: Shy introvert notes:

• Giving first
• A little joke some fun
• Be centered in Yin (masculine energy)
• Take that energy and bring it towards others
•  Be in a power state neutral
• Being neutral or having courage is a power state
• Pride, shame etc. is a low frequency state
• Don't look for validation
• Give people energy with your yes let them feel what you are feeling
• Be willing also and positive
• Give them a look and let them receive validation from you

 

Book: Double your dating notes, combined with one integral section

• Open body language
• Don't smile to often
• Don't laugh to often
• Women smell insecurity
• Go to places where I can find women that I like to hang-out with (online)
• Set up a great online profile !
• Asked a women friend about a picture and tell her to be brutally honest
• If she is friendly and interested in conversation she is interested
• Keep advancing
• Asking for female perspective on things
• Ask her what it feels like to be a man or what she would do as a men
• Be cooky and funny
• Have character intelligenece, humour, integrity, compassionate
• Be unpredictable
• Don't accept controlling and demanding behaviour
• Talk deeper and slower
• Watch behaviour
• No means get me more turned on
• Notice small details, give compliments based on that 
• Something that reminds you of her/him
• Saying to a women you are beautiful gives her chill ? of deep meaning
• Smile less when talking to women
• Women love to figure out what you are really after 
• Tell dirty jokes or start talkin about sex topics
• Or sex programm on TV ? 
• She wants to sit on your lap ? Say no.
• Don't be to friendly
• Be calm and indifferent
• Misinterpret stuff on purpose for fun !
• Make inuendos
• What is currently funny ? 
• Don't laugh at your own jokes
• Call her up
• Go for the number
• Take her hand 
• Call her friend first
• Smell her neck for instance in bed, tell her how good she smells
• Repat and kiss her
• Women are turned off by arrogant men
• Unless you are funny and cooky 
• Keep up the hardto get character play
• Never look for a long-term relationship at the beginning
• Staying cocky and funny is important
• Humour mixed with arrogance wrecks havoc
• Don't be logical 
• Tell them they make a nice friend
• Don't do what all the other guys are doing
• Never give her what she exatcly wants and ask for (polarity)
• Send mixed singals always ( unsure about this one)
• Never be predictable
• Spank her, tell her you are here for fun !
• Is she having fun ?! Laughing, smiling.
• Tell her if she asks something superficial, do you have a list of questions that only superficial women ask ?
• Make fun of her quirks especially with hot and sexy women 
• Build rapport through imitation
• Lead the way as well as lead the conversation
• What is the best option for dating, online dating right now is the best for me for example
• Don't be clingy have options
• Don't go for courtship behaviour bring gifts, sending weird texts
• Women are looking for what other women are looking for
• Women want you to be in control of the situation, if she throws a tantrum, be assertive and calm. In that sense give her a spank, not physically.
• You say to her no you call me tomorrow
• Say no when giving a women a direct answer
• Tell interesting stories, fascinating history
• Imagine how she will look like
• What qualities she has
• Define what you are looking for a girlfriend ? One-night stand, a friendship, intimate partner etc.
• A man is needy when he craves attention and recognition
• Don't talk negatively about women that will make you look insecure
• Be confident, cooky, funny, creative , intelligent, cultured
• Positive mindset about negative aspects of your own body for example or mindset 
• Internal self-talk is important
• Out of 100 women 70 are not interested
• Get a tounge cleaner, use a deodorant
• Use power of sub-conscious mind to attract who you want
• Drama,games are normal parts of dating
• Games test loyality and commitment
• Don't let her get away with being a brat, treat her like you would your best friend
• Don't suck up being nice this is a test to see if you are commited
• She would rather sleep with a rich man, then with a faithful looser. You make her feel she reacts to you !
• Make a women feel good inside
• How would I talk to make a women feel good ?
• How would I walk to make a women feel good ?
• Invoke emotions that enrich her desire
• Look for authentic emotions
• Enjoyable attraction
• What are your feminine aspects of you ? 
• What are masculine aspects of you ?
• Strengths and weaknesses

 

Book: Double your Dating, Topic sex:

• Be soft and gentle
• Take your fingers run it over her head,neck
• Don't touch her breast
• Kiss her sensually then kiss her 100 times around neck and shoulders softly
• Talk slowly and sexy with a deeper voice ( takes practice I am definitely not here !
   

There is more: 

I have a lot of notes on this, yet never wrote an abstraction about higher levels of sexual polarity, because this is not a priority in my life right now, I've already defined stuff for myself. 

Looking for high quality ressources to create an awesome online dating profile ! Would love it if someone could share their ressources !

 

 

 

 

 

 

[ValiantSalvatore]

Any tips in this regard, I even spoke to my psychologist and she gave me a go, based on what I currently experience meeting new people would definitely help me in advancing my personal growth in this area. So... would highly appreciate some good res, so I can find a high quality mate.

Are there any positive ressources available here ? 

[SamC]

The natural lifestyles 

[ValiantSalvatore]

I'll see what I find on the net and create my own guide in that sense. 

@SamC I've read that including values is supposed to be good, as well as being a bit cheeky. I don't feel taken seriously. Can you give me a proper answer ?

This is quite important to me, so incase there are some better ressources out there, it would be nice if someone would share them. 

Obviously, Eben Pagan has online dating tools, yet I am currently not interested to spend money for a course. 

[Karmadhi]

This guys seems to give great results to his clients. Maybe check him out. People tend to complain about him being low consciouss but his products leave a lot of happy clients so idk.

[Jacob Morres]

tons of great insights - but i just want to wary on being too analytical about this stuff. because if you focus too much on outer, your inner will remain the same. it requires a healthy balance of both 

[ValiantSalvatore]

I was looking for specfic advice and or a ressource on how to create an online dating profile, this was just what I shared and saw, as well as regarded as a higher consciouness ressource.

The video above is good, yet I've found a way to get solid advice for 20 bucks. In that sense and I am not looking for hardcore advice, as well as a bootcamp. I will look up what I find on the internet for free and buy the 20$ advice for online dating. 

 

[ValiantSalvatore]

I created my profile, will update my progress in my journal. I was not able to buy the advice for 20 bucks, so I took some free stuff and patched it together. Will update my progress in my journal.