Unexpected doesn't exist

[Gabith]

The notion of Destiny/fate is valid because the unexpected does not exist, it is a projection of the ego/thinker on Reality.

This is what it looks like when I try to demonstrate it through language:

Everything that happens, happens. And therefore what happened was planned because it happened.

What makes us believe that the unexpected exists is that we expect a situation to happen in such a way and as soon as something does not please us, surprises us, in short what we did not expect. We want to believe that it was unexpected or "that it should not have happened like that".

Example: If I speak with a person and I try to show him by the language that the unexpected does not exist. I will have a hard time convincing them because they may not take the time to do the necessary introspection or simply not want to open up to the possibility that the unexpected is just a belief.
So I can use a situation to push the reflection;

I can say "look, I'm going to show you something that is planned" and then I try to kiss him.

The person will react, either he will kiss me or he will push me away. It doesn't matter, it's what they do that is planned. If she kisses me it was planned and if she pushes me away, that was planned too.
After her reaction, I can tell her "That was planned."
Why? Because that's what happened.

And the funny thing is that if she pushes me away and I was waiting for her to kiss me, my ego / "I" wouldn't like that because I don't like rejection and I wanted her to kiss me for example. And it's precisely after that that I would have easily believed that this situation was unexpected.

But no matter if I like her or not, everything that happened, is happening and will happen in my life and in the lives of "others" WAS / IS / WILL BE planned. Because it is the only thing that exists, an unforeseen event has never existed and cannot exist, it is simply our imagination, a projection of a belief / thought that we emit on Reality. Examples of other similar projections: chance, coincidence, phrases like "it should not have happened like that".  

This implies that we don't really have control over our life, we live our life as a spectator.
And having integrated this, we can easily decide to choose our emotional reaction and our interpretations on everything that will happen to us.
This means that being afraid/frustrated or feeling other negative emotions serves no purpose except to lower our morale, since everything that happens must happen, it is inevitable.

So since it is totally inevitable and expected, let's learn to love everything about Reality, love everything that comes our way and life will be much easier.

I thought about it from many angles with an open mind to see if it was right the way it was, but once I integrated it, it seemed so simple and logical.
And now I'm wondering how it's possible that I was fooled into believing that the unexpected existed / could exist. And why do we all take it for granted?

Why did we invent this strange concept and how did we manage to believe in it so easily? And why is it so difficult to question this belief?
And once it is done, we realize how much a belief / a collective thought can become "reality" because what we believe very strongly to the point of not considering it as a belief anymore, a questioning is almost impossible because it will seem absurd or useless. And so we see Reality subjectively according to the thoughts we project on it.
The thoughts in which we believe very strongly become our reality because we interpret everything through "our bubble of meanings and thoughts".

After this realization, regretting an event that happened / getting into negative emotions and resisting what seems like pure madness or sado-masochism.
Why continue to do this when everything is planned and therefore inevitable? Everything that has to happen happens. There is no other possibility, it is enough to observe what is.
Denying or wishing for something else than what has been/is is just fantasy.
A form of collective unconscious madness.

If we realize this questioning in its depth, to the point of integrating it, we naturally decide to adapt our emotional reactions and learn to love everything that comes our way.
This is the most natural change to adopt since we all want to be happy.