Limited In Emotion- Bored, Not Intrested

[Phoe99]

What about this situation in which you lead perfect life- good education, then possibilities for stable carieer, loving partner, good health, no money problems. Then you decide there is nothing you care about, no belives, everything seems to be boring. Piece by piece- losting belives in God, loyalty, money, carieer, physical appearance, sex. I realized there is nothing that can make me happy- going parties, dancing, doing hobby, playing musical instrument, sport. Im only happy for minutes. Sometimes I wake up and my first thought is ''Its only 8h and I will be home sleeping again''. I dont feel depressed, only empty and bored. How to teach yourself to feel again? 

[MIARIVEL]

@Phoe99 Of course you feel something. Being bored can be a feeling. Ask yourself: why don't you enjoy life? why don't you want to achieve anything? Why aren't you allowing yourself to feel anything? 

Sure these things are the way life goes ( having a career, getting married, buying a house) but to have all these things is hard work and an achievement. Not many people have what it takes to achieve happiness and success because they simply don't care too much about life or anything and they lack self-love. You don't need to be depressed in order to be bored, you just need something worth living for, something that gives you life meaning and purpose and then you will start to feel again. Life is so short despite hours and days going by of you being bored and before you know it, you can die at any time. Wouldn't you want to achieve something? stand for something? made the most of your time while your here? made a difference to someone elses life? make people and yourself proud? don't you want to own that nice car, nice house and be set for life? 

Too many people want things and they are not willing to put in the work and then they wonder, why they are bored and life seems shit and meaningless. If you want to start feeling something - you got to really want it. Not like 'oh it would nice I guess to have it'. You have to really want to feel something and go out there and make it happen. Every day turns out the way it does because you make it that way, your decisions, your mindset, your values and beliefs, your outlook on life.... You need to really address what needs to change in order for things to change for you. 

[Elisabeth]

On 22. 11. 2016 at 8:37 PM, Phoe99 said:

I realized there is nothing that can make me happy... I dont feel depressed, only empty and bored. How to teach yourself to feel again? 

Actually, not being able to feel joy is one of the hallmarks of depression. When I was diagnosed depressed, I wasn't very emotionally aware. It wasn't until after the diagnosis that I admitted to myself the negative emotions I was feeling. Sometimes we don't want to feel a negative thing, so we supress all emotion. 

Now, I don't know if you're depressed. You may really be just lacking purpose. Or, you could also be exhausted - if you go on and on without propper time off, you can get into states close to depression or burn out. 

What helped me (re)gain and expand my emotional bandwidth over the years, was

• Therapy - simply paying attention to and trying to describe again and again how I feel (started my jouney into awareness)
• Falling in love. Now, that is probably not very useful, but I think some other life change could work too.
• Exploring sexuality. Closely tied to self-acceptance. Tantra is really good with these things. 
• Interacting with people who do have passion, and especially some spiritual groups (both christians and "new age hippie") where they "force" you to express gratitude, or express anger, or do some connecting ritual, or or... 
• Lately, meditation. Do you meditate? If not, please do. It could help you get more from all the other experiences.

All and all, rediscovering my capacity for positive emotion was a pleasant journey once I stopped working on problems only (the therapy I had, which was very useful on a foundational level, but not that successful in opening me up later) and discovered more constructive ways to personal development. 

Edited November 25, 2016 by Elisabeth

[Phoe99]

Thank you Mia and Elisabeth for your concern, wise advices. It already feel better when i know, where i need to look closer.

 

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