How to become the life of the party?

[StarStruck]

I see these dudes at the gym talking random shit, just joking around, basically gaming the room, attracting attention. I saw some girls just be drawn towards the "fun". They don't even need to approach. It creates massive rapport.

I befriended those guys so I thought I would join them but I'm just too much in my head. If I turn off the filters and just vibe around but... I'm just not able to spit game the way they do.

Sometimes I feel such a retard. Basically these guys are just themselves. They aren't try-hards. But I do try to become one of them. Should I just make my peace and accept that I'm not one of them?

[Windappreciator]

Why are you asking us when you have already made up your mind.

Edited July 7, 2021 by Windappreciator

[StarStruck]

Just now, Windappreciator said:

Why are you asking us when you have already made up your mind.

Why do you think I made up my mind?

[Windappreciator]

1 minute ago, StarStruck said:

Why do you think I made up my mind?

Whose advice have you ever taken into consideration that didn't already confirm your incel ideology?

[flowboy]

17 hours ago, Windappreciator said:

Whose advice have you ever taken into consideration that didn't already confirm your incel ideology?

Mine, amongst others'. This guy is actually growing fast as fuck. So tone it down with the butthurt please, sir.

Edited July 8, 2021 by flowboy

[Consilience]

A couple of very easy, very high yielding changes you can make. 

1) Feel into your body as you're in these types of social interactions. Actively relax your muscles, loosen you're joints, relax into a good posture... Get your attention out of your thoughts and into your body. Attraction is coming from the lower chakras. As odd as this may sound, your body, presence, and being are doing the communicating. What you say matters so much less than how you say it and what vibe you're giving off. The vibe and how you communicate comes from being in your body. The objective "what to say" will flow once you're tapping into the sensations of your body. The more relaxed you are, the more fun you'll be. Girls are attracted to fun.

2) Eye contact. Strong eye contact with men, women, while talking, while listening. Eye contact demands attention and can pull people in. There are incredible subtle, micro yet powerful communications happening through eye contact. Learn how to read and how to communicate with the eyes. (Notice this is still using the body and not the mind). 

3) Ask questions, lots of questions, talk to everyone. Get to know everyone at the party. Be authentically interested. Learn how to interconnect their replies with either follow up questions or share a bit about yourself. Being vulnerable is powerful, but don't let it devolve into being only about you. But don't forget, the one asking the questions is the one controlling the conversation.  

[diamondpenguin]

You need to just have fun, and everyone will come to you naturally. They'll be like "Oh he's having fun, lets go over there". Just release your soul and "HAVE FUN" at the party! don't get overly rational; logical about it, it's a feeling. 

Edited July 8, 2021 by diamondpenguin