Can feeling be false ?

[Gabith]

Can feeling or intuition lie?

At the beginning of a virtual training, the first time I saw one of the girls, I had a feeling that I was attracted to her, I liked her calmness, she had a beautiful face.

As the weeks went by, I learned that she was interested in meditation and that she sometimes spoke wise words.
So I decided to send her an email to talk about it and she answered me quite quickly. When I read her email, I had a kind of feeling that we should and would meet for real, become friends or lovers and that it would happen.

I wondered if I was wrong or if the feeling was still reliable?

 

Edited June 29, 2021 by Gabith

[Tim R]

Your feelings are never wrong.

To ask whether your feelings are "wrong" is like asking "can colors be wrong?" and the answer to that is obviously "no". They are what they are and they present themselves to you in and as the direct and unmediated way how they actually are. 

However, we human beings never keep it at that. We interpret our feelings, mostly within the context of our desires (which is essentially also feeling) and thoughts. We also project all kinds of things onto them and them onto other things or people. 

So when you're asking "are my feelings wrong", what you're actually asking is "can there be a discordance between the interpretation of my feelings?" and I thinks the answer is yes. 

For example, when you break up with someone you love, you might experience a confusion in your feelings. On the one hand you still kinda love the person, on the other hand you don't anymore because they did something bad or whatever.  But this confusion is not "wrong feelings". You feelings are exactly right the way they are, but the frame in which you interpret them now, is in discord. 

I suggest you ask @Nahm, he is a pro when it comes to feeling.  

[WelcometoReality]

@Gabith Intuition usually guides you what to do in the moment but from my own experience it never expect the outcome of that doing.

You might had the desire that you wanted to be friends or lovers (feeling/thought) but should is usually thought that is anticipating/demanding.

[Nahm]

Truth can not lie, but can appear as a lie by appearing as a human talking. 

[JosephKnecht]

3 hours ago, Gabith said:

Can feeling or intuition lie?

Feelings are true.

Your interpretation of a feeling might be wrong. 

[kinesin]

@Gabith  Feelings can definitely be wrong, intuitions can absolutely be misleading.  That said, I believe that sometimes the subconscious mind has done far more processing of a situation than we could possibly imagine, and the gut feeling which arises as a result can be genuinely true.  I've had that same feeling as you only twice in my life, when meeting a girl and somehow just knowing that we would be together, and both times it turned out to be true.  That said, it's hard to ignore the role of confidence in all of this - because if you feel in your gut that you will undoubtedly end up in a loving relationship with that person, that feeling is going to affect the way you interact with them, and it'll probably make it more likely to happen.

But of course, sometimes these feelings turn out to be misleading.  We've all heard examples of people who become certain that they'll end up with someone else, but then it doesn't happen because the other person just doesn't feel the same way.

[Bodhitree]

Thinking that you and any girl you meet are going to be friends and lovers is always more a pleasant daydream than anything you can rely upon. It should make you hopeful, and if things go well you can make it happen. If things don’t go so well maybe not. 

[WaveInTheOcean]

Feeling can never be false.

But your thoughts ABOUT your feelings can - relatively speaking - be misguided.

Ego controls the mind.

Heart controls your emotions.

Wisdom wise, heart --->>> mind.