Do males experience sexual anxiety?

[Preety_India]

Do males experience sexual anxiety when they can't get a girlfriend or can't get sex?

Just asking out of general curiosity. 

And if men do experience this anxiety, what are the symptoms and how does it manifest?

Does it lead to intense cravings to watch porn? 

What exactly happens to men when they can't get a girlfriend? 

 

[Snader]

Of course we do. It's a strong biological need.

It can manifest many ways. It can be physical or mental or both. It really much depends on what your preferences are and where you're at with women and your sexuality in general. Some men may want a girl while others are fine with porn. For some going to gym lifting weights might relieve that very same energy/feeling. A strong factor in mainstream Western culture is of course social pressure as well.

Some men take responsibility for their own sexuality and find ways to fulfill their needs in healthy ways, while others do not, and end up jerking off to porn for the rest of their lives in bitterness. 

[Preety_India]

@Snader how does the anxiety manifest though? 

Do you experience symptoms like restlessness, insomnia, lack of appetite aggression or feelings of worry/fear etc? 

Does it lead to depression in men? 

 

Edited June 3, 2021 by Preety_India

[Snader]

6 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

@Snader how does the anxiety manifest though? 

Do you experience symptoms like restlessness, insomnia, lack of appetite aggression or feelings of worry/fear etc? 

Does it lead to depression in men? 

 

It's personal, so it depends.

Mostly being horny constantly of course. But it usually adds other negative emotions to the side. For me it's lack of creativity and focus and I see it affecting my general mood as well. Sometimes I sense stupid kind of worry, which I can already see through. 

By what I've heard it can be something like anger, fear, restlessness, worry. Whatever your system finds most effective  

[integral]

42 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

Do males experience sexual anxiety when they can't get a girlfriend or can't get sex?

It depends, everyone is different. If i don't ejaculate for a week, ill loss all interest in sex and ejaculation, i wont notice attractive women around me. The switch is completely turned off. It does the opposite of anxiety and stress, it gives mental clarity and high focus/motivation, deeper sleep, colors are brighter. Sex is just another object in awareness, give it less attention and its forgotten. 

For other men it spikes their sexual desire to an unlivable tortuous degree. Its really an issue of not being able to just let it go. They are stuck in a mind loop of sex or it could be a build up of zinc in the body, the body is trying to get rid of it. 

Edited June 3, 2021 by integral

[SamC]

44 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

Do males experience sexual anxiety when they can't get a girlfriend or can't get sex?

Just asking out of general curiosity. 

And if men do experience this anxiety, what are the symptoms and how does it manifest?

Does it lead to intense cravings to watch porn? 

What exactly happens to men when they can't get a girlfriend? 

 

This sub forum happens?

[Preety_India]

8 minutes ago, integral said:

If i don't ejaculate for a week, ill loss all interest in sex and ejaculation

What makes you not want to do it? Fear or boredom or anxiety? 

 

[Preety_India]

7 minutes ago, SamC said:

This sub forum happens?

Wink. 

[integral]

1 hour ago, Preety_India said:

What makes you not want to do it? Fear or boredom or anxiety? 

Oh no the desire is no longer there, freedom.

Its like a child is not thinking about sex. 

Edited June 3, 2021 by integral

[Preety_India]

@integral does it feel good, like freedom from a prison or trap? 

 

[integral]

@Preety_India yes it feels like a rush of optimism. "What have i been doing up until now? It was all so simple all along."  

[Chew211]

7 hours ago, Preety_India said:

Do males experience sexual anxiety when they can't get a girlfriend or can't get sex?

Just asking out of general curiosity. 

And if men do experience this anxiety, what are the symptoms and how does it manifest?

Does it lead to intense cravings to watch porn? 

What exactly happens to men when they can't get a girlfriend? 

 

Yeah, there's an anxiety when we're unable to get an object of our desire. This anxiety IS masculinity according to the Psychoanalytic perspectives.

Getting laid, getting a girl, finding a partner etc, all these could be desires. To word it simply: we feel not man enough when we can't get what we want. 

There's 2 ways to deal with this:

1. Jouissance (Enjoyment)

We DON'T go after what we want, and so we feel frustrated. When the frustration becomes unbearable we have a temporary release (porn, complaining on this subforum, etc). Then you feel okay for a while, then frustration starts to build up, and it's this endless cycle. 

Most ppl go with this. 

 

2. Going after our desire

This is difficult because our ego is constructed in a way to cope NOT getting our desires. It keeps us from going after our objects of desire.

Also this can involve failure, which can be emasculating. 

S you have this cycle of feeling emasculated and bettering yourself. 

When you get the object of desire, then it no longer is the only object of desire, so the cycle continues. 

Desire could be other chicks, or a family with the girl he got, or something in a completely different field of life. 

 

The first cycle is a hamster wheel and you stay the same place in life.

 

The second cycle, you're moving forward and growing. 

 

The two cycles apply to women as well. 

 

[Harlen Kelly]

1 hour ago, dflores321 said:

@Preety_India yes. 

It's totally healthy and normal. It's like starving, you're gonna feel a lot of discomfort eventually. 

I personally get angry and start freaking out lol, but my case may be unique idk. 

So you think getting angry and freaking out is totally healthy and normal? 

@Preety_India Depends on the male and his level of psychological development but most do. 

[Harlen Kelly]

@dflores321 Didn't know freaking out and getting angry was a healthy response, I guess I learned something new today. 

Edited June 3, 2021 by Harlen Kelly

[Harlen Kelly]

2 minutes ago, dflores321 said:

@Harlen Kelly So if you repressed your sexuality for a while you wouldnt feel frustration or get angry? 

The question was: Is getting angry and freaking out a healthy response? 

Nobody is talking about repressing anything. 

[Preety_India]

@Chew211 I don't think it applies to women. I've never experienced any kind of frustration, anger or impatience while not having a man. Being and not being in a relationship did not make much of a difference. In fact not being in a relationship sometimes felt like freedom.

 

[Harlen Kelly]

2 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

@Chew211 I don't think it applies to women. I've never experienced any kind of frustration, anger or impatience while not having a man. Being and not being in a relationship did not make much of a difference. In fact not being in a relationship sometimes felt like freedom.

 

You don't think there are women in their 30s or 40s who can even get depressed because they haven't stablished a family or a long-term relationship yet? 

[Preety_India]

Just now, Harlen Kelly said:

You don't think there are women in their 30s or 40s who can even get depressed because they haven't stablished a family or a long-term relationship yet? 

Nope. I have observed a lot of older women in my life and they seem completely fine. Some of them were single all their lives. These women were in their 50s. But they never complained. 

This sub forum itself is an indicator. Where do you find females coming in and complaining? It's always males all day every day. There are so many women who are single or don't have boyfriends or never had one. If they were frustrated, wouldn't they be complaining about not getting a man over here? 

 

[Harlen Kelly]

11 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

Nope. I have observed a lot of older women in my life and they seem completely fine. Some of them were single all their lives. These women were in their 50s. But they never complained. 

This sub forum itself is an indicator. Where do you find females coming in and complaining? It's always males all day every day. There are so many women who are single or don't have boyfriends or never had one. If they were frustrated, wouldn't they be complaining about not getting a man over here? 

 

So, from your point of view there is no woman at all who experiences depression or other negative emotions for not having a family or long-term relationship by the time they are in their 30s or 40s, right?

Edited June 4, 2021 by Harlen Kelly

[LostStudent]

8 minutes ago, Harlen Kelly said:

You don't think there are women in their 30s or 40s who can even get depressed because they haven't stablished a family or a long-term relationship yet? 

I don't think this is limited to women in their 30s or 40s. I'm in my early 20s and I've felt anxiety, frustration, and jealousy when I see friends in committed long-term relationships.