The wisdom of trauma - Gabor mate

[intotheblack]

Thought I would share a new documentary film from Gabor mate, it will be shown from the 8th June.  If you sign up you get free access to the film, and you can get other content for an extra donation if you want... 
 

The wisdom of trauma

 

Edited June 2, 2021 by intotheblack

[BipolarGrowth]

Gabor is a great gift to humanity. He’s a favorite of mine. 
 

Edit: the quote in your signature is great btw lol

Edited June 5, 2021 by BipolarGrowth

[Bojan V]

Gabor Mate is great and i look forward to watching this documentary.

[Grateful Dead]

@intotheblack Thanks for sharing! Looking foward to watch it

 

[intotheblack]

It’s available now for those who are interested  

[Heart of Space]

I don't like the premise that we are all damaged victims.  I think there's probably a lot of good and love here, but I think the framing of the "trauma" narrative is a bit problematic.  

[intotheblack]

6 hours ago, Heart of Space said:

I don't like the premise that we are all damaged victims.  I think there's probably a lot of good and love here, but I think the framing of the "trauma" narrative is a bit problematic.  

What Gabor talks about is that ‘trauma’ is the result of something that happened to you.  It manifests in your body. It becomes a part of you unconsciously. 
He talks about how this manifested trauma (basically something happening to you that you keep to yourself for years and years) creates illnesses and disease. 
why do you think the framing of trauma is problematic? 

Edited June 9, 2021 by intotheblack

[Heart of Space]

5 hours ago, intotheblack said:

What Gabor talks about is that ‘trauma’ is the result of something that happened to you.  It manifests in your body. It becomes a part of you unconsciously. 
He talks about how this manifested trauma (basically something happening to you that you keep to yourself for years and years) creates illnesses and disease. 
why do you think the framing of trauma is problematic? 

I think it creates the narrative that we are damaged by our experiences and need to work towards digging ourselves out of the "hole" of our damaged selves.  

I mean it's a useful perspective in certain circumstances, but I do not think it is a good idea to apply it so universally.  

That being said, if it works for you then it is valid for you.  I don't mean to diminish the idea for those it helps.  

[universe]

The film is super well done. You can watch it in full here.

https://wisdomoftrauma.com/movie/?fbclid=IwAR3UgEfFBkjD13PuvB3IVMjgNSvFLlAl5aM-7YpJ1wP5HlL1biOd8HtIjlo

[MatteO22]

On 09/06/2021 at 1:49 PM, Heart of Space said:

I think it creates the narrative that we are damaged by our experiences and need to work towards digging ourselves out of the "hole" of our damaged selves.  

You think correctly, that’s exactly what trauma is, that all human beings carry. It doesn’t make us damaged and broken in a sense where we should judge ourselves or feel less than, but we can be aware of our limits that are governed by the unprocessed pain of our past. That to me feels incredibly liberating, authentic and supportive.

[Loving Radiance]

Beautiful picture. I thought of making notes on the movie and sharing it here.

Edited June 12, 2021 by Loving Radiance

[Heart of Space]

On 6/11/2021 at 8:09 PM, MatteO22 said:

You think correctly, that’s exactly what trauma is, that all human beings carry. It doesn’t make us damaged and broken in a sense where we should judge ourselves or feel less than, but we can be aware of our limits that are governed by the unprocessed pain of our past. That to me feels incredibly liberating, authentic and supportive.

The way you describe it seems healthy to me.  

[RickyFitts]

Thanks for posting, @intotheblack,  this is such an important subject because unresolved trauma is something that profoundly affects the majority of people, even if they don't realise it, and it's so important that we bring attention to it.

Thanks again 

[knakoo]

On 09/06/2021 at 7:55 AM, intotheblack said:

What Gabor talks about is that ‘trauma’ is the result of something that happened to you.  It manifests in your body. It becomes a part of you unconsciously. 

He does make the distinction that it is not the event in itself that traumatise but how you feel about it. 

By the way the documentary is a great watch !

[asha176]

On 12/6/2021 at 2:59 PM, Loving Radiance said:

Beautiful picture. I thought of making notes on the movie and sharing it here.

@Loving Radiance hey pls share the notes of the movie . Would love to read them .

[Loving Radiance]

@asha176

1. Trauma:

Trauma disconnects us from ourselves, leading to emotional suppression, relationship withdrawal, and ignoring instincts. It also limits key brain functions like emotional regulation and empathy.
But the brain can rewire with safety, awareness, and support. Healing is about reconnecting with ourselves, processing emotions, and trusting our instincts. It’s about reclaiming who we truly are.

 

2. Child Fundamental Needs:

Children need both attachment and authenticity. When authenticity threatens attachment, children suppress their true selves to avoid rejection.
Healing is about reclaiming our authentic selves by overcoming the fear of rejection and reconnecting with our inner truth.

 

3. Systemic Change:

The system is built on trauma and unconscious needs for temporary relief, leading to harm, including environmental destruction.
True change requires a shift in consciousness—facing discomfort, reconnecting with true needs, and building lives rooted in awareness, not trauma.

 

4. Separation from the Earth:

The exploitation of the Earth mirrors our disconnection from our bodies. Healing requires restoring that connection, recognizing that the Earth’s well-being is inseparable from our own.

 

5. Compassionate Inquiry Therapy:

Compassionate Inquiry helps people uncover their truth through questioning, not answers. It guides people to see their conditioning, wounds, and inner wisdom. Healing starts with embracing the truth within.

 

6. Healing:

Healing is empowering. When we realize our triggers come from within, we stop being victims. We reclaim freedom by owning our responses and choosing not to let external factors control us.

 

7. Vision of Society:

A trauma-informed society values connection, emotional intelligence, and vulnerability. It understands that healing is collective. We may not see it in our lifetimes, but we can move toward it by creating spaces for healing.

 

8. The Healthy Self:

Beneath trauma lies the healthy self. Healing isn’t erasing trauma but making space for all emotions to coexist. Integrating pain and joy allows the true self to emerge, fuller and more authentic.

[Letho]

Most think trauma makes us fragile.

It doesn't.

It just leaves the psyche searching for a story powerful enough to hold the weight of what was never spoken.

Healing isn’t reversal, it’s our architecture.
A reweaving of meaning so sacred the wound starts whispering its own name back in peace.

Some people medicate.
Others meditate.

I chose to rewrite the myth.