Sexual Innocence

[Harlen Kelly]

@Preety_India What exactly are you ''saving'' by refraining from having sex, what are you preserving? 

Not condoning careless sex, I just want to understand your reasoning behind that thought pattern. 

[Preety_India]

@Harlen Kelly saving "innocence." 

Maybe from a male pov it doesn't make sense because men are always encouraged to have as many as they can. But I guess even men sometimes think twice before doing things because they don't want to feel used or ruined either. It's like once you feel used up too much, then the novelty wears off, innocence is gone, it doesn't feel delicate anymore is what I'm imagining, it feels like the passion or emotion is removed and only a raw sexual instinct survives, but this inhibits the emotion of falling in love, the beauty of it, the wholesome experience. I guess some men feel that way too 

 

[Roy]

There is something to be said about staying true to what you want and desire, whatever path that may lead you down........

This means following what your heart says and doing the thing that you think is healthiest for you, if that is sexual innocence then so be it.

If you want to be happy in that part of life you need to put blinders on, and not listen to what culture or others are telling you to do.

[Preety_India]

@Roy true. 

 

[mivafofa]

On 6/1/2021 at 7:53 AM, SamC said:

I think it is beutiful and a perfect explanation of female sexuality.

Absolute agree.  And I'm glad 1 man can see it. Those who oppose or feel resistant to this are usually men (unsurprisingly) who have a lack of understanding of how female psychology & sexuality work

Edited June 2, 2021 by mivafofa

[Preety_India]

6 hours ago, mivafofa said:

Absolute agree.  And I'm glad 1 man can see it. Those who oppose or feel resistant to this are usually men (unsurprisingly) who have a lack of understanding of how female psychology & sexuality work

Exactly. 

 

[cookiemonster]

It tends to follow a dimensional spectrum similar (albeit different) to some of of the other dimensional spectrums pertaining to sexuality: a dimension uniquely based in trust and emotional assessment.

One could say that it is feminine sexuality at it's most feminine, but it is not necessarily the same as the assertive/passive spectrum, nor dependent on biological binary.

Nonetheless, it is easy to make a biological analysis:-

A male creates millions of sperm every day. To use a Casino metaphor, he walks in and he's literally slamming down those chips on the Roulette table all over the place. There's no real need for an emotional dimension. There's no investment risk, because in a few hours he's simply going to regenerate a whole new bag of chips. It's like this: Bam, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam. (Thankyou ma'am).

A female walks into a Casino, she has just one chip, and she's not going to get another one for a whole month. That's a totally different investment strategy. She can't just be slamming that one chip down willy nilly. She's going to take her time, peruse the landscape, hang back for a while. make telepathic/psychological appraisals of each croupier, each table, each little variable. She has one bet. That's it.

So she needs to know:-

Is this man safe? Is he diseased? Is he a psycho who will kill me? Will he stick around for 9 months (at least)? Can I trust him? Does he have stable economics? Does he have a warm place under a roof which is dry? Can he fight with lions, and tigers and bears? Can he make fire and protect my baby?Does he have access to clean water? Does he have an orchard or a basket of fruit? Can he put up shelves? Will he stay loyal? Can I trust him? And so on...

Once those conditions are met, you put your chip on the table, make your bet, and then it's fireworks like everyone else.

 

[Preety_India]

@cookiemonster I don't think it's all about survival. 

Some women give up their whole lives for a man

Women have lived in very harsh conditions with a man even when he in unable to provide or be a protector when she could have easily married a richer man

I have myself dated a homeless man for years and I was ready to abandon all of my safety and security to live with him on the streets. Just to be with him even when such a decision would have cost me terribly in terms of safety and comfort. There was more comfort at my home than living with him in distressing conditions. 

But I was ready to take those challenges of dismal living just to spend my life with him. 

Scores of women who marry assholes and men who have been to prison only because they are madly in love with their boyfriends risking all comfort and safety to be with him despite knowing that he can't provide and can also be harmful 

 

This is because women are inherently looking for an emotional connection and they are ready to sacrifice even survival for it, it looks stupid but women do it anyway. 

So the whole idea that women do everything out of biological programming doesn't sit right with me after observing scores of women risking their future to be with a man who is their emotional drug. 

For women emotional stimulation is important. Not saying that the dating choices of a woman are healthy always, but this is how women are and can be. 

Women are emotional creatures. And even if a man gives them everything he can, they can still leave all of that for a man who makes them emotionally hooked to him

Biology is not enough in explaining how a woman thinks and most importantly feels when she is in love.