Is praise manipulation?

[Harikrishnan]

I was reading book on adler philosophy. he says all praise are manipulation. when u praise you are making others be inferior to you. like when mother say you did a good job, is unconsciously creating a hirearchial relationship and seeing the children beneath her.

To be honest i do feel good when i praise someone for a thing they did. 

[Flowerfaeiry]

Totally. Thanks for sharing this.  

[Harikrishnan]

16 minutes ago, Flowerfaeiry said:

Totally. Thanks for sharing this.  

Then you might like this book 

 

[Derek White]

Lol not just praise, everything you do is manipulation!

Otherwise why else would you do anything? Your purpose is to "manipulate" reality to the version of it you want. 

When you praise something, at the very least you want the other person to feel good about what they did. That's manipulating/changing reality. Why do you care if the other person doesn't feel good about what they did? Why do you want to make other people feel good?

If you were truly selfless, you wouldn't care to praise anybody. Everything would just be perfect as it is. When you accept everything as it is that's true love.

I'm not saying don't manipulate, just be mindful that you're doing it. Manipulate mindfully. 

Edited May 24, 2021 by Derek White

[Applegarden8]

Yes. Praise can be more dangerous than blame and ridicule.

It can make you arrogant. It can derail you from what you want to achieve e.c.t., make you relapse and be lazy, seek more of it or run into too much pleasure, procrastination. And we all know what an echo chamber is and that if you do something to be validated, you will burn out.

But i think it's about the reception, i wouldn't mind giving praise to somebody whom I want to, regardless of my hypocrisy, @Derek White pointed out.

Edited May 24, 2021 by Applegarden8

[realized]

the answers make big sense thats why we dont have likes on our post we just all know we are all equal and can be appriciated without big words cause all we need is our selfs and realize we are all one so we praise our selfs in a way witch means that it takes us further from knowing the truth from the ultimate perspective

[cupe]

On 5/24/2021 at 1:56 AM, Harikrishnan said:

Then you might like this book 

 

How is being disliked a Japanese phenomenon? What?

 

Anyway, to answer your question....

Of course it's manipulation. One act leads to another. You praising someone eventually might lead to them helping you. So you made them help you. That's just a simple law of causation. 

If we mean "manipulation" as in making someone do something they don't want to do, then no, praise is not manipulation. Because you're not making anyone do something they don't want to do.