My porn addiction is starting to annoy me

[StarStruck]

On 26-5-2021 at 0:11 AM, Carl-Richard said:

You're acting like fap is your cryptonite. It's not. The cryptonite is the black and white approach. You go for 2 months and then you wonder why you fap 3-5 times in a row. It's not rocket science: it's unsustainable. If you're doing pickup and sports, that means you're capable of disciplining your impulses and taking a nuanced approach (there are "other ways than fapping"), so why the black and white approach only when it comes to nofap (why aren't there "other ways than nofap")? Let's say we took a black and white approach to pickup: do nothing else but pickup every day for 2 months. Does that sound smart?

You guys might have a point here. I'm very stubborn about wanting to be no-fap because it ruined by dating life but perhaps I should be more emotionally intelligent about it. Ideally I wouldn't fap but just find a girlfriend with benefits which I can sleep around with once a week or something.

On 26-5-2021 at 2:53 AM, Alex bAlex said:

? I feel like a champion if I go for two days without. 

 

Relax, this should not be a "life purpose". When your life will get in line with your life purpose or working on a new project or set up some dates, you'll likely to forget about porn when something exciting is going on in your life.  

Most of the time we rely on porn to give us a bit of pleasure when we feel down. 

 

Set goals and make some changes in your life and you'll be"cured" ?

I get ED from porn. It is a big deal for me.

Edited May 27, 2021 by StarStruck

[Carl-Richard]

1 hour ago, StarStruck said:

You guys might have a point here. I'm very stubborn about wanting to be no-fap because it ruined by dating life but perhaps I should be more emotionally intelligent about it. Ideally I wouldn't fap but just find a girlfriend with benefits which I can sleep around with once a week or something.

I get ED from porn. It is a big deal for me.

Nofap has teached you many good lessons and my advice is not about forgetting those lessons. I'm only concerned about the unhealthy approach. You can take those lessons with you and integrate them into a more balanced approach. The first step is to reestablish a more conscious connection to your impulses instead of outright repressing them, and that means you don't have to be afraid to fap. You don't have to go 2 months to get the benefits of abstinence. Experiment and keep doing healthy things.

Edited May 27, 2021 by Carl-Richard

[StarStruck]

17 hours ago, Carl-Richard said:

Nofap has teached you many good lessons and my advice is not about forgetting those lessons. I'm only concerned about the unhealthy approach. You can take those lessons with you and integrate them into a more balanced approach. The first step is to reestablish a more conscious connection to your impulses instead of outright repressing them, and that means you don't have to be afraid to fap. You don't have to go 2 months to get the benefits of abstinence. Experiment and keep doing healthy things.

Going to the gym really helps to get rid of that excess energy in my body. Problem is that I can't go to the gym all the time. Looking for a setup for home.

Nofap really changes me. I get so much sharper and energetic. I should have finished my 90 day streak to rewire my dopamine system and heal my nervous system.

This is why I want to do long streaks. Short streaks doesn't heal my body and brain. 

[Arcangelo]

On 5/23/2021 at 0:54 AM, StarStruck said:

With couple of clicks you get the best looking girls

No, you get a 2d image of the best looking girls formed by pixels.

Millenials and Gen Z are confusing Real Life with Virtual Life. I feel sorry for them.

[Arcangelo]

On 5/25/2021 at 6:23 AM, Dwarniel said:

Many of them are addicted to drugs or can't get out of the industry due to their financial situation.

hmmm.. IDK about that

On 5/25/2021 at 6:23 AM, Dwarniel said:

I read this case about a video of a baby being r*ped on p*rnhub

https://www.nzherald.co.nz/world/child-abuse-victim-says-pornhub-profited-from-her-child-rape/W2MFWK6XLXP5RFYETS7J7LVBSQ/

Here's where I lose all my faith in humanity and wish for that asteroid to wipe us out.

[Arcangelo]

I can confidently say that I am cured from my porn addiction.

If I could do it anyone can do it.

[StarStruck]

23 minutes ago, Arcangelo said:

I can confidently say that I am cured from my porn addiction.

If I could do it anyone can do it.

How did you do it? I keep relapsing.

[Arcangelo]

What helped me the most was Leo's videos:

-How society fucks you in the ass

-A Rant Against Culture

-and the Self Deception series.

 

Every time you PMO you are self deceiving yourself thinking those 2d pixeled images are real girls like you said on the other post.

For me watching porn is like being super hungry and watching someone eating a good meal. It just doesn't make any sense to me.

It's better to fantasize about the girl next door, or girls you know in real life (with your imagination not by stalking them through social media) IMO

 

[lmfao]

A random thought I had about porn use in my case. I think the mindset in which I use porn is important, whether a type of porn feels right to me in that moment. 

This is my specific case. But often I watch certain types of porn and read certain hentai manga with a sadistic mindset. So as a mini insight, I've found I feel a lot better jerking off when I don't have that sadistic mindset. 

It's not neccesarily the genre or type of porn that's the problem (excluding illegal exploitation of minors and anything else), its mainly the mindset and relation you make to it to feed. Spirit of the law vs letter, you know in your heart what you're doing. 

--

Scrolling past different things, "eh, maybe I don't read that hentai today, maybe this one instead" 

Edited June 3, 2021 by lmfao

[Carl-Richard]

On 31.5.2021 at 7:45 PM, StarStruck said:

How did you do it? I keep relapsing.

Do you meditate every day?