GF found out I watch porn

[universe]

Why are you like this. Best way is to not think about having sex with other girls. Only your girlfriend. And when you walk outside never look at any other girl either. Your love is limited! Don't waste it on others, or there will be none left for your girlfriend!

When you are seperated for a few weeks because she is on a business trip and you get sexual urges they are impure! Filthy human body with these filthy sexual needs. Stop it. Only impure minds have sexual thoughts outside of marriage.

Also stop seing any female friends and never allow her to be with other men. Only one day per year she can go on an event with her coworkers. But make her wear a burkha. We don't want any jelousy to slip through the pure minds you both have.

[Shin]

5 minutes ago, universe said:

Why are you like this. Best way is to not think about having sex with other girls. Only your girlfriend. And when you walk outside never look at any other girl either. Your love is limited! Don't waste it on others, or there will be none left for your girlfriend!

When you are seperated for a few weeks because she is on a business trip and you get sexual urges they are impure! Filthy human body with these filthy sexual needs. Stop it. Only impure minds have sexual thoughts outside of marriage.

Also stop seing any female friends and never allow her to be with other men. Only one day per year she can go on an event with her coworkers. But make her wear a burkha. We don't want any jelousy to slip through the pure minds you both have.

You forgot the "beat the shit out of her" part.

It's not true love if he isn't "beating me cause he loves me too much !!!"

[Harlen Kelly]

1 minute ago, Shin said:

You forgot the "beat the shit out of her" part.

It's not true love if he isn't "beating me cause he loves me too much !!!"

I literally burst out laughing when I read that!

[Leo Gura]

37 minutes ago, Shin said:

I never understood how other men can fuck so much, it drains me way too much personally.

Go drink your soy milk

[Shin]

21 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Go drink your soy milk

Actually, I never tried it, thanks

[The0Self]

Just saying: almost no girlfriends I ever had cared if I watched porn. Not that I did very often. The type I end up with seems to rarely ever care about that. Most of them owned vibrators, etc, and sometimes watched porn themselves.

[egoeimai]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

She doesn't have to accept it.

But he also doesn't have to accept her.

You gotta find people with whom you fit. That's key. You can't really change people.

You quoted me? Lol 

That never happens. Lol lol 

You've changed. 

[integral]

I imagine it went something like this? 

Edited May 22, 2021 by integral

[Shin]

23 minutes ago, integral said:

I imagine it went something like this? 

[intotheblack]

4 hours ago, Harlen Kelly said:

Men don't owe you a monogamous relationship. Surprise, surprise. Wanting to have a monogamous relationship is mostly the female's agenda, not the male's agenda.

Something else that needs to be understood is the following: there is nothing transcendental about the craving of monogamous relationships. If you desire a monogamous relationship, fine. But don't delude yourself into thinking that you are ascending or something by virtue of the fact that you want to have a monogamous relationship. 

Obsessing over the idea of a monogamous relationship is equivalent to obsessing over the idea of having big house, or the idea of having a lot of power, etc. It's just another delusion and craving of the ego. 

This wasn’t my point. I wasn’t implying that monogamy is more transcendental. 
What I was saying is that certain things can be transcended like the need for acting out a certain desire, which could be satisfied in other ways like having other things going on in your life. Usually it comes down to boredom and lack of fulfilment in other areas of life that they search in other ways to get that fulfilment.
I don’t believe monogamy is the be all, end all.  And I don’t believe 1 relationship has to last forever. Some do. Most don’t. 
i was speaking of the attitude of people here, and how they were saying it’s just something the woman has to accept and get over, like it’s the absolute truth. It’s just about finding someone you are compatible with.  Most people aren’t compatible, so they start searching elsewhere outside the relationship. 
Both women and men fantasise about sleeping with others, this is not just a male thing. 
I was talking to a friend today, she told me she and her boyfriend had just opened there relationship, and it was HER who wanted that, not him.
Some people are happy with monogamy. 
If you aren’t happy with it then stay single or find a compatible partner who wants the same as you.  Why not stay single whilst you act out your innermost desires, don’t try to be in a monogamous relationship while you’re going through this, if it’s not something you want or are ready for, therefore minimising your collateral damage on others..

 

 

[Raptorsin7]

10 hours ago, intotheblack said:

It just depends on the individual men this is not the total truth.  Many men don’t care about that especially as they get older.  
 

Yeah this is some nonsense lots of guys have woman believing haha. I can see how at some point in their lives men seek variety, but at a certain point there is no point in seeking additional sex if you are in a relationship. It's degenerative behavior. Might as well say men have to go out and rape once in a while or the relationship won't work

[Depersonilized]

@JohnIsDoe Bro you've got no reason to stop. You're not "cheating" on her. I guarantee w/ 90% certainty the reason why she's so insecure about it is because she watches porn herself. Pretty much every human does and that's never going to change. You're good homie. 

[Harlen Kelly]

@Raptorsin7 So, you are comparing the desire for sex variety to rape and labeled it as ''degenerative behavior? And you think what you uttered is a smart, well-thought out, sophisticated statement?

[Raptorsin7]

4 minutes ago, Harlen Kelly said:

@Raptorsin7 So, you are comparing the desire for sex variety to rape and labeled it as ''degenerative behavior? And you think what you uttered is a smart, well-thought out, sophisticated statement?

No, I am talking about who people let those desires drive their relationships. I have a desire to eat junk food, but imagine if I designed my diet around junk food.

And i think comparing the desire to rape and the desire to have sex outside of a monogamous relationship is valid. Why is rape bad, but being poly good?

Did i trigger you because you like cheating on your partner?

Edited May 22, 2021 by Raptorsin7

[intotheblack]

19 minutes ago, Raptorsin7 said:

Yeah this is some nonsense lots of guys have woman believing haha. I can see how at some point in their lives men seek variety, but at a certain point there is no point in seeking additional sex if you are in a relationship. It's degenerative behavior.

It also just takes up a lot of time.  Someone focused on their life purpose wouldn’t have the time to be searching for sex outside of a relationship. It’s mentally and physically draining. 

also people are forgetting one thing, love ❤️  

people in a compatible and loving relationship wouldn’t feel the need for it, because they are having their needs met, if it’s healthy.  (Yeah maybe it won’t last forever)  

(Now wait for attacks) 

[Raptorsin7]

@intotheblackMost of these people who are seeking more partners aren't satisfied with life, and so they are using sex with other people for pleasure like a fat kid uses cake.

If you were happy and loving, and you loved your partner, why would you want to do something that harms them just to satisfy sexual desires?

Also if people have kids then it gets even more squirrely. Where's mom?... She's off having sexy with Jim because your dad wants more sexual variety to feel content with life lmao

[Harlen Kelly]

29 minutes ago, intotheblack said:

This wasn’t my point. I wasn’t implying that monogamy is more transcendental. 
What I was saying is that certain things can be transcended like the need for acting out a certain desire, which could be satisfied in other ways like having other things going on in your life. Usually it comes down to boredom and lack of fulfilment in other areas of life that they search in other ways to get that fulfilment.
I don’t believe monogamy is the be all, end all.  And I don’t believe 1 relationship has to last forever. Some do. Most don’t. 
i was speaking of the attitude of people here, and how they were saying it’s just something the woman has to accept and get over, like it’s the absolute truth. It’s just about finding someone you are compatible with.  Most people aren’t compatible, so they start searching elsewhere outside the relationship. 
Both women and men fantasise about sleeping with others, this is not just a male thing. 
I was talking to a friend today, she told me she and her boyfriend had just opened there relationship, and it was HER who wanted that, not him.
Some people are happy with monogamy. 
If you aren’t happy with it then stay single or find a compatible partner who wants the same as you.  Why not stay single whilst you act out your innermost desires, don’t try to be in a monogamous relationship while you’re going through this, if it’s not something you want or are ready for, therefore minimising your collateral damage on others..

1 - The vast majority of men are inclined to sex variety not because of ''boredom'' or ''lack of fulfillment'', most men are attracted to the idea of sex variety because that is how the male mind works. Not understanding this will create unnecessary suffering. 

Does that mean a man has to always have multiple relationships and his partner has to accept it? No, he can definitely control his desires, but do not get it twisted, your boyfriend or husband is literally attracted to thousands upon thousands upon thousands of women weather you like it or not, and guess what? That will not change, why? Because that is how the male mind works. 

Men get attracted to women instantly and there is no limit to the amount of women a man can be attracted to simultaneously. 

Instead of denying and vilifying aspects of reality that you cannot change, you should strive to understand and transcend those aspects. 

 

 

 

[Harlen Kelly]

@Raptorsin7 Such a dull-witted perspective and comment could not possibly trigger me. There is no depth or sophistication to your thinking process, therefore, a rebuttal would be a complete waste of my time. 

[Raptorsin7]

@Harlen Kelly Haha

[intotheblack]

4 minutes ago, Raptorsin7 said:

intotheblackMost of these people who are seeking more partners aren't satisfied with life, and so they are using sex with other people for pleasure like a fat kid uses cake.

If you were happy and loving, and you loved your partner, why would you want to do something that harms them just to satisfy sexual desires?

This is what I’ve been trying to say lol. 
 

4 minutes ago, Raptorsin7 said:

Also if people have kids then it gets even more squirrely. Where's mom?... She's off having sexy with Jim because your dad wants more sexual variety to feel content with life lmao

Ahahah