Literally everything in this world can come from a place of either elimination or compassion. Think about it. Compassion will involve acceptance whereas a lack of compassion involves rejection and elimination  Now the meta perspective here is of understanding. Learning the difference between  understanding, which is a superlative position compassion.  

Meanwhile you can always have and show compassion, sometimes something that is toxic needs to be carefully and consciously avoided This basically means cultivating understanding. 

However understanding should not seep into needless and pointless justification but build over a solid foundation to bridge the gap between compassion and toxicity. The elimination approach is very stage Orange. Based in Ego and Game A The  acceptance approach is based in stage Turquoise and is Game B
 At the end of the day, the spirit wins over the ego. Mind over matter