Dating apps

[Growly]

Do you think being ethnic ruins your chances in getting a girlfriend off dating websites? If so, is being slight above average enough to get a decent girlfriend?

 

 

 

 

[museumoftrees]

What's your ethnicity ?

[Growly]

@museumoftrees  I don't know because I never had a chance to know but maybe i'm hispanic. I look kind of liked Tyson Ballou because of my eyebrows n' midface. My skin is light skin sadly.

5,10 18yrs old

[Tanz]

Statistically Asian men and Black women are the least popular race on apps but at the same time, there are apps that are ethnic and religious specific.  Dont allow the environment to get in the way of finding love, adapt.  Television and media shape peoples ideas on what is attractive and that part of the culture can just be removed so easily.    

People have their preferences and there are instances where they are able to look past them when they get to know someone.  If the dating apps don't work, try to meet people the old fashion way and approach strangers.  

[Phyllis Wagner]

As a White Man you already have to look ridiculously good to have any chance of even exchanging a single message with someone. 

If you are ethnic you have to be in the 0.1% of Men and your photos need to be flawless.

 

So the good news is, if you are average it doesn't technically hurt your chances, because you can't go lower than 0 so you are on par with the average white dudes.

Edited May 12, 2021 by Phyllis Wagner

[Tanz]

2 hours ago, Growly said:

@museumoftrees  I don't know because I never had a chance to know but maybe i'm hispanic. I look kind of liked Tyson Ballou because of my eyebrows n' midface. My skin is light skin sadly.

5,10 18yrs old

 

Hispanic men arent high on the spectrum but there are so many Hispanic people in America if you are there.  I believe Hispanic men are 3rd least lucky.  Many Hispanic women that are close to their families are looking for people that understand their culture.  Money and ability to make money is always a factor that dissolves a lot of barriers.  

Edited May 12, 2021 by Tanz

[Bando]

Nothing good can come out thinking like this, learn to take and post high quality picture of yourself and put them out there, you entertaining this idea will only lead you to creating limiting beliefs which will prevent you from putting yourself out there.

[Nahm]

10 hours ago, Growly said:

Do you think being ethnic ruins your chances in getting a girlfriend off dating websites? If so, is being slight above average enough to get a decent girlfriend?

I’ve heard there are even parts of the world where woman are genuinely attracted to men who treat them with insensitivity, or, as petty / subordinate, but ‘round’ here, it does not seem like racism & self diminishing thoughts attract anything. 

[Growly]

@Bando  Nah, I know that it's over for most non white men, especially indian people because of the stereotypes. 

What do you mean by High quality pic? Like frauding your face by finding the best angles?

[Growly]

@Tanz I guess what you're implying is go to third world countries and use dating apps.

[JonasVE12]

1 hour ago, Growly said:

What do you mean by High quality pic? Like frauding your face by finding the best angles?

To get an idea, check on instagram some popular men lifestyle accounts. 

Something like this

https://www.instagram.com/iamgalla/

https://www.instagram.com/marianodivaio/

https://www.instagram.com/jimchapman/?hl=en

https://www.instagram.com/fabioattanasio/

https://www.instagram.com/johanneshuebl/

You get the idea. Don't do boring low quality selfies for online dating. Put in some effort. Or don't. But know that your results will reflect the amount of effort you put in. 

You can hire a photographer that does photoshoots for online dating. Combine that with a vacation to a nice place, take a friend with you, A DSLR camera with a 50mm lens and take some dynamic cool pictures. You want to show pictures that reflect your personality, have a mysterious vibe to it, some adventure & class. Do some cool filter/overlay effects on some of the pics and you're good to go. 

[Tanz]

2 hours ago, Growly said:

@Tanz I guess what you're implying is go to third world countries and use dating apps.

lol no, im saying meeting women by walking up and talking to them but an option is to go to other countries if you like.  there are also Hispanic apps out there in developed countries....

[Growly]

@Tanz

 'im saying meeting women by walking up and talking to them ' 

Only works if you're 6+/10 

 'there are also obscure Hispanic apps out there in developed countries....'

[Growly]

@JonasVE12  seems like a lot of frauding going on.  It'll work but I think the best option is to get generic surgeries

Pretty sad tbh

[Bando]

@Growly Its your life mam I can tell your young based on your posts, stop going down this black pill looksmaxing route it will only lead you to hating women and yourself and your going to waste away your youth years on this toxic bs.

You don't have to look like a model to sleep with a girl it's not rocket science, spend this same amount of energy trying to overcome your limiting beliefs about attraction, you dont need to bang every girl find what's right for you and keep it pushing

[Growly]

@Bando I know but it's deep inside me now and it's just making my mental health worst than it was before I discovered it.

I wish the dating scene was more fair so I wouldn't have to deal with this.

The only thing that'll fix me is being model tier and pray that I grow to 6ft so I can feel better about myself. 

[Tanz]

12 hours ago, Growly said:

@Tanz

 'im saying meeting women by walking up and talking to them ' 

Only works if you're 6+/10 

 

 'there are also obscure Hispanic apps out there in developed countries....'

instead of thinking what you dont have or what you are disadvantaged with think about what you have and what you can work on, whats in your control.  If you are a 2 out of 10 and looking for a 9 out of 10 woman then you will need to compensate with a sense of humor, money, good heart.  if you look like David Beckham then you can be the biggest jerk and it doesn't matter, that's life.  

I have known overweight dudes with women that are 9s and it wasn't because of their money because they were just comfortable.  

[something_else]

14 hours ago, Growly said:

@Bando I wish the dating scene was more fair so I wouldn't have to deal with this.

Consider that you don't know that much about the dating scene yet, and that you're extrapolating a lot from limited experience and hearsay from communities online like blackpill/redpill. What they preach is so so so easy to believe when you don't have a lot of experience socialising or talking to people in person, but really how do you know any of it actually applies to the real world?

I'm only a few years older than you so I can hardly say I'm that experienced with dating either, but accepting that you don't know how dating works yet leaves room for the idea that you can learn. You're just inexperienced, and that's normal. Accept it and start looking for ways to change that.

Online dating is kind of a crutch, even if you can make it work for you. At least, I have used it as a crutch, and I'm in the process of trying to change that