If you think you are attractive, you are; if you think you don't, you don't Yesterday I did daygame and this was my biggest insight. I always thought I was average or even below average. Why? Because girls don't look at me that much in public places.  Turns out this is just bollocks. Recently I have been getting some success and it really rubbed off of me. It is really not a thing you say or do but a way of being. It is confidence, entitlement, detachment, unbotheredness, charisma and a little bit of goofiness. Be like this, but in male form: