I started having sex dreams with men, what does it mean?

[integral]

Recently something has lifted away and i feel less resistance. In my early years i would have identified as a heterosexual male (born that way by genetics). The porn i watch has always been male with female. But after this resistance fell away i feel attraction to some men, mostly submissive men. I've never in the past had sex with a man or watched gay porn, but it is now a part of my taste unexpectedly. Has anyone experienced something like this? I'm sure people will think "you where always bisexual", i guaranty with 100% certainty that i was not. I have never had any attraction by looking at a mans body and i have never desired a man, until now. What is this? 

[StarStruck]

It could be temporal. I never had bi-fantasies but I do recognize what happens after no-fap: sex fantasies.

[Bando]

Go have sex with a guy and see if you like it

[Roy]

4 minutes ago, Bando said:

Go have sex with a guy and see if you like it

 

[EddieEddie1995]

watch gay porn and see what happens hahaha

this is how I checked hahaha 

I think there is some gayness in me, I might test it out in the future 

whats your number? hahahaa 

[integral]

@EddieEddie1995 haha just realized my post is basically a gay mans wet dream come true. "Straight best friend wants to experiment and he loves it" fantasies.  

So i did some exploration, turns out gay porn is not appealing, i think what is attracting me is the intimacy of being with a man i connect with. This is arousing. Maybe there is a kind of deeper connection that only men can have with each other that a hetor pairing cant? Maybe im looking for deeper connection with a woman and feel i cant find it so the mind is wondering else where. All relationships with women have been one sided because im more vertically developed then they are, its me adapting and catering to there needs, they dont understand me. 

Edited May 6, 2021 by integral

[Shin]

16 minutes ago, integral said:

@EddieEddie1995 All relationships with women have been one sided because im more vertically developed then they are, its me adapting and catering to there needs, they dont understand me. 

Can you elaborate on that ?

Does a hot woman makes you hard, even though you don't know her (in reality, not on porn/instagram) ?

[integral]

4 minutes ago, Shin said:

Does a hot woman makes you hard, even though you don't know her (in reality, not on porn/instagram) ?

Yes if i intentional ogle their features, women stand out as sexual opportunities. Also she doesn't have to be hot or human, there just needs to be intimacy or a connection. With men it cuts through the bullshit, there has to be high intimacy and connection, with women no connection can still get the job done (like porn). It could be its just that i haven't been with a man, maybe after some experience gay porn will be more attractive.

A separate issue is not being understood in relationships do to the development gap. 

[EddieEddie1995]

Just now, integral said:

Maybe there is a kind of deeper connection that only men can have with each other that a hetor pairing cant? Maybe im looking for deeper connection with a woman and feel i cant find it so the mind is wondering else where. All relationships with women have been one sided because im more vertically developed then they are, its me adapting and catering to there needs, they dont understand me. 

This was the case for me. And we are the ones limiting that connection. I had traumas that made me not find the woman I want so I couldn't connect (love myself), so my mind started wondering elsewhere. Porn, weed, alcohol, man, what ever! We need it! This is why people rape ☻

Why do you think they don't understand you? 

 

I sometimes get aroused when I pet animals. It doesn't mean I want to have sex with them. lol 

Actually. I make Love to my cats everyday hahah we pet, they kiss me and I kiss them. We rediate Love ? Check it out https://www.instagram.com/p/CNx1Omflqea/?igshid=3s5h2kspx8g

 

Make Love to the world! The world is You! ?

 

 

[Forestluv]

There are spectrums of attraction along different dimensions. Having three categories of straight, gay or bi is way to simplistic. There is a plethora of attraction dynamics. 

[EddieEddie1995]

Just now, integral said:

A separate issue is not being understood in relationships do to the development gap

Have you had awakening experiences? 

I thought I needed intellectual connection with my GF until we had mystcal orgasms eheh 

What about green chicks? 

Connection with God is all we are looking for hehe 

[Opo]

6 minutes ago, Forestluv said:

There are spectrums of attraction along different dimensions. Having three categories of straight, gay or bi is way to simplistic. There is a plethora of attraction dynamics. 

Could you elaborate? 

I know masculine and feminine is one dimension but idn about others. 

[EddieEddie1995]

Just now, Forestluv said:

There are spectrums of attraction along different dimensions. Having three categories of straight, gay or bi is way to simplistic. There is a plethora of attraction dynamics. 

Indeed! ?

 

[Opo]

11 minutes ago, EddieEddie1995 said:

This is why people rape ☻

Why did you put a black face after that sentence? Check your biases. 

Lol jk

[EddieEddie1995]

@Opo Ahhaha

For me it represented dark sarcasm hahaha

But it is equality  hahahhaahha make sense  now

 

Edited May 6, 2021 by EddieEddie1995

[Shin]

Bottom line is:

Maybe you are attracted to men now, just have fun with their asses.
You seem to be more on the masculine side, so it's not your ass that will get pounded anyway.

Am I making sense ?

Edited May 6, 2021 by Shin

[EddieEddie1995]

Just now, Shin said:

You seem to be more on the masculine side, so it's not your ass that will get pounded anyway.

Haahhahahahhahaha

[fopylo]

I understand a bit. Sometimes I have been questioning whether I'm gay and I'm just subconsciously hiding it from myself out of fear. I tried thinking about gay sex, tried masturbating thinking about men - All of it really disgusted me. I had to do it and I realized that I am (like I thought) attracted to women. However, something important that I've realized is that my attraction isn't 100% straight. It's not either straight/gay/bi, but more like mostly straight with some light degree of gay. I can admit that I find men attractive at times but not to the extent of wanting to get sexual and very intimate

[Osaid]

I've had weird sexual dreams before. Not with the same sex, but rather with family members. I'm not sure if it is accurate to any of your actual sexual desires, we do a lot of things in dreams that you would never do irl. I had a dream before where I was a serial killer killing people for fun.

[Espaim]

It can mean something or mean nothing. People have wacky dreams about lots of shit. Haven't you ever entered a school and shot everyone in your dreams? You're missing so much.

Now being serious, if you think you are developing attraction to men: it happens. That may be confusion too.

For me, what happens is that the overwhelming amount of sexual and intimate attraction i feel is geared towards women or feminine creatures, idk ?

I need to admit maybe I've been romantically and sexually attracted to men before but looking back, it was of such low intensity and a fleeting experience. I could even have confused it for anxiety ABOUT being attracted to them(search about Homosexual-OCD). I don't remember enough to have a final word.

When I feel attraction to women it's just undeniable. It's polar, magnetic and I just can't lie about it. It's different shit man.