How Can I Stop Feeling So Guilty When I Procrastinate?

[The White Belt]

Heeeey guys.

Firstly let me apologise for if the formatting of the post is bad, as I'm doing it on my phone.

 

So I've been upping my game a little in the last couple of weeks, and doing perhaps double or triple what I've been doing in the past, but the issue is I always feel a sense of guilt or confusion.

This is because I still don't know if I'm doing enough. I look at my  work idols and I can see they've done a lot more but if I'm driven by guilt it makes me feel bad and probably do even less. 

I want to make this my life's work but sometimes distractions come and make me feel bad. Like the other day I was invited out by a work friend and I've not been out in a couple of weeks so why not.. I do my 'normal' job in the day. No time to do some work after work and I go straight out, all night until sleep. So a whooole day with nothing done and it makes me feel like I've wasted a lot of time and I feel bad for that.

 

Should I feel bad and guilty? Is it a good motivator? Or not? Am I trying to do too much and cram? I don't know.

 

Opinions please. Thanks :-)

[Shin]

Do you meditate ? If not, make it a habit.

 

There is no shame or guilt to have about whatever you do, because all you do is part of your conditioning, by society, friends, wife, whatever.

The sole fact that you truly want to be a better person, means that you're doing more than 99.999% of people.

You have the will to do it, and with that, you won't fail, not if you think strategically.

 

Also, If you think by doing more stuff, whatever it is, will complete you, it's not going to work (it's the exact opposite of how it works actually ^^).

I can't really answer to you more deeply about that, you should give more specifics about why you feel guilty, what you do, what you think you should do, and why you think you don't do it.

I'll try to answer anyway.

 

There is nothing wrong by feeling any kind of emotions too, that means when you feel guilt, don't suppress it, but ask yourself why, and try to understand very deeply why you feel guilty.

For example, I feel guilty if I play too much video games in the day, without any other activities.

My daily habits is to meditate and walk the dog, if I do only that and nothing else, the guilt comes because I didn't push myself.

So the thing is to do a bit more than your daily routine, but not too much either.

 

The best thing to do is to make a new habit of your free time, by using this extra time.

A habit sticks only if you start slow and try to make one at a time.

After some months, you can add a new habit if you are sure the old one has become a routine.

To know if a habit has become a routine, feel if you have any kind of resistance when you start it, if you do, then it's not a routine yet.

 

Top 3 habits to have:

Meditation -----> You become more conscious of how your mind works, how it deceives you, and how you can silence it (partially) to enjoy life in a much deeper way.

Sport -----> It's solely for having more energy, it also makes it harder to have any kind of depression.

Reading (especially psychology and spiritual books) -----> It will gives you all the insights you need to supress all the bullshit in your head, which leads to supress all the problems of your life. You will also have the maps of how to succeed to anything at life. (((I count Leo's videos and other teachers as part of this habit too, although it's a different format)))

 

 

Edited October 29, 2016 by Shin

[Bob84]

@BeginnerActualizer Not really. Atleast not compaired to long term goals. Focus on what you want and make it as visual as posible in your mind (and update and repeat to stay motivated).

[The White Belt]

@Bob84 Which part are you saying not really to?

[J. M. Wigglesworth]

10 hours ago, BeginnerActualizer said:

This is because I still don't know if I'm doing enough. I look at my  work idols and I can see they've done a lot more but if I'm driven by guilt it makes me feel bad and probably do even less. 

Working is not a talent but a skill. Don't expect to be able to play at their level when they've been going at it hard for decades. If you feel guilt, it's fine. Don't internalize it. Use any tool you can to push you forward(guilt included) but rely on nothing but consistency.

 

Keep stepping up. 

[Bob84]

@BeginnerActualizer All 3 questions.

[YaNanNallari]

Personally I think when I fail that it wasn't a complete failure. I tried, perhaps developed some willpower etc. (not thinking too much about it) and this allows me to find a positive side of my failures. Even if someone were to deem it as overly positive I think talking to myself encouragingly will have greater results especially since if I don't there might be a spiral of negative emotions on the other side. Also being overly positive rarely is an issue when I try hard to follow my intuition and ponder things. I think that my intuition will keep me on track quite well.