I may have reacted unappropriately here

[ilja]

On my way to groceries i met a father with apparentlly 5 of his children. One girl of it was crying much the others were laughing at her and when she went to the father he laughed at the daughter as well, pointed at her and signaled me to laugh with him as well.

As i was not amused about it, gave the man hatred in an attempt to shift the focus of attention onto the father's responsibility so to say and give the girl an emotional window.

the man looked a bit in contempt and ashamed i suppose.

Afterwards my conscience kept nagging me because i wasn't present at a time to fully grasp the hole situation.

Not sure what i could have done else, he was hardly able to speak german (probably a workforce from eastern europe), not sure if i could have reached him via explanation towards a more compassionate/responsable behavior.

Edited April 28, 2021 by ilja
Addition

[Shin]

1 hour ago, ilja said:

Afterwards my conscience kept nagging me because i wasn't present at a time to fully grasp the hole situation.

Do you mean  the girl something like maybe the girl who was crying was actually happy and there was nothing "bad" happening at all ?

[ilja]

@Shin no, more from the perspective whether i could have reacted lovingly/holistically, but how? Maybe the father will burden the child more for this negative experience.

maybe my reaction was too strong and the situation was not hard.

maybe i should have not interfered at all. Felt like there was too little background info

is what was occupying me at that time.

Edited April 28, 2021 by ilja

[Tetcher]

You gave him hatred you mean you said something to him or just your behavioral reaction ? In any case it's not a big deal it was just a kid's tantrum this shouldn't have far reaching impact.

[allislove]

@ilja this is the past, let thinking go, that was the best possible scenario. Next time just try to relax in any such situation, without trying to analyse what you should or shouldn't do. You (as separate person) are not doing anything, life living itself, as one. You may deep breath, focus on the bodily sensation, etc before reacting. It's all good.  

[OneHandClap]

All beings occasionally partake in behavior that is less than noble. What you did was inspired by what you believed was correct. Have some compassion for yourself as well as the children, the father, and all the rest. All is fine

Edited April 28, 2021 by OneHandClap

[ilja]

alright you guys thanks for the heads up