Do you come off thirsty if you do direct approaches to women?

[Hardkill]

Now, I get that mentioning right off the bat to a girl you just met for the first time that you want to have sex with her is obviously super thirsty and creepy. I also know that several people on this forum have told me that talking about very sexual stuff like porn, very sexual jokes, or what have you with girls I just met or barely know me is also creepy and makes me seem too desperate for sex. 

However, what about doing a direct cold approach on a random girl where I right away start off the conversation by immediately being clear or direct about my true intentions with her. For example, let's say that I see out in the street during the daytime, a random girl I find physically attractive. I walk up to her and open with "Hey, how are you?" Let's then assume that she doesn't walk off or at least seem interested enough in some way to want to stop for moment to know what I want from her. So, she'd say "Hi. I am good. How are you?"

Now what if afterwards, I'd be like "I am good. Listen, I know this is a little random, but I thought you look attractive and so I wanted to come say hi"? I know many dating experts/coaches have advocated for something like this, but do you guys think that this would make me come off as being too thirsty or being too sexual with a girl too early?

 

 

Edited April 26, 2021 by Hardkill

[Preety_India]

I don't think you said anything sexual there. Where is the sexual part in it?

 

[Hardkill]

26 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

I don't think you said anything sexual there. Where is the sexual part in it?

 

“I am good. Listen, I know this is a little random, but I thought you look attractive and so I wanted to come say hi"?

Does that make her think that you have a sexual agenda with her? Why or not?

[Preety_India]

@Hardkill if you said that to me, I don't see why it would be sexual. 

You don't seem to have used sexual language there. 

Am I missing something?

 

 

[Preety_India]

@Hardkill  I assume if you had said something like "are you down for it?" would be considered sexual. 

You seem to be going round and round in circles and confusing yourself. 

 

[Hardkill]

35 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

@Hardkill if you said that to me, I don't see why it would be sexual. 

You don't seem to have used sexual language there. 

Am I missing something?

 

 

 

33 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

@Hardkill  I assume if you had said something like "are you down for it?" would be considered sexual. 

You seem to be going round and round in circles and confusing yourself. 

What I don’t totally get is why saying something like that’s doesn’t make her immediately think or feel like “oh, this guy is really hitting on me. So, he wants to get into my pants instead of just starting out as friends”?

[Preety_India]

43 minutes ago, Hardkill said:

 

What I don’t totally get is why saying something like that’s doesn’t make her immediately think or feel like “oh, this guy is really hitting on me. So, he wants to get into my pants instead of just starting out as friends”?

You get what you want to get. 

Don't think what she thinks 

 

You're giving excuses for hard work. Either sit and lament or go out and pursue and get what you want. 

 

[Jacob Morres]

not at all. it's somewhat culturally acceptable if it is done in a normal way 

Edited April 26, 2021 by Jacob Morres

[Lyubov]

yes, you do to a small degree depending on how forward/direct you are but it doesn't really matter cause you will filter out the girls that aren't interested in fucking with you now and if you have an abundance of opportunity to approach and meet girls it won't matter if tons slip by cause your approach wasn't tailor fitted to them. sometime due to life circumstances you may not have the perfect opening for every girl and everything won't always go your way. it doesn't matter, focus on your principles, energy/emotions and opportunities to meet girls.

[Hardkill]

4 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

yes, you do to a small degree depending on how forward/direct you are but it doesn't really matter cause you will filter out the girls that aren't interested in fucking with you now and if you have an abundance of opportunity to approach and meet girls it won't matter if tons slip by cause your approach wasn't tailor fitted to them. sometime due to life circumstances you may not have the perfect opening for every girl and everything won't always go your way. it doesn't matter, focus on your principles, energy/emotions and opportunities to meet girls.

Right, but why does it seem okay to go up to a girl you just met and say “I know this is a little random, but I thought you look attractive and so I wanted to come say hi" whereas talking about porn with a girl you just met comes off too thirsty or too creepy?

[OceanRiver]

@Hardkill You've just got to learn to read the room, master that and you won't need to ask the question. I do business consulting on a daily basis and these skills translate into all other areas of my social life.

[Arcangelo]

4 hours ago, Hardkill said:

"I am good. Listen, I know this is a little random, but I thought you look attractive and so I wanted to come say hi"?