Is Not Wanting Children A Sign Of Trauma

[Emerald]

Could trauma be a reason why someone might have a resistance to becoming a parent? Yes.

Is that typically the case? No.

Most often, it's just a preference. 

It seems to me that nature knows what it's doing. The human population is getting to the point where it's elevated above what's normal for the species.

So, I think lots of people don't want kids as a deeper instinct that enables us to balance out our population as a species in future generation. 

It's kind of like how certain animals and plants respond in a feedback loop with nature. And if the populations of one species get too high, there tends to be other things in the feedback loop that balances the population out. 

I see the desire to have fewer or no children as an outgrowth of our more instinctual awareness about what's balanced. 

[Fandango]

Thinking that is trauma can be because you are trying to explain why you do not want to have children when you think (because of society, etc) you should.

I was thinking about having/not having children for years, and at the end I decided not to have. You should decide this things, because the default position is to have children because of pressure from society and how easy is to get pregnant.

I got a vasectomy at age 33 having no children. The doctor scheduled an ultrasound check before that in a hope, I think, that I will think about it in the meantime and I will not come back.

I did all the tests and got my vasectomy. I cried a few months latter watching Leo´s video on Reproduction is an illusion.

Positive side: I felt empowered that I am able to make that decision because of the place I live in (Spain and private health insurance), Down side: I have only shared this with one close friend because society is still not ready for this. Even for my open minded friend is difficult I digest I think.

My point is, self esquire about it. And make your decision, because we know what the default is...

[intotheblack]

12 hours ago, Willie said:

Damn, that was harsh.

Haha. Great short tv series, it’s on YouTube if youre interested: