Get Rid of Negative Thoughts

[Infinitians]

All right, so sometimes you must have noticed that a certain negative thought comes into our mind which is really hard to forget as it kinda gets stuck in there forever. It keeps on pestering us again and again, which makes us quite uneasy and apprehensive, and we wanna get rid of that negative thought as soon as possible.

This predicament has two solutions basically.

Oh, and btw, if you are too lazy to read the rest of the article but at the same time can’t afford to miss it as well, I may have got the perfect solution for you. Enjoy listening to my melodious voice:

 

The Temporary Solution

One is as soon as that thought comes into your mind, you divert your attention to something else.  You know like watch a movie, read a book or my blog, go out with friends, and so on.

But these all are temporary solutions to a fairly permanent problem. As soon as you stop doing the particular activity, the thought that was making you uncomfortable (it can be related to money, health, relations, etc), would come back again.

 

The Permanent Solution

It’s Simple. To go to the root cause of that conundrum. That’s the best possible way there is out there. But we all know this, still, we are bugged by stress and anxiety. If you can analyze the problem completely, assess the root cause of it, see exactly what the problem is, and if you can either leave it or solve it, then there is no problem.

Let me give you an example. If you are really attached to someone who’s very dear to you, and you love that person unconditionally, and by some chances, you two get separated (for whatever reasons). Feels relatable? It’s very general. Take the worst-case scenario and say the person is no more. Now, what will you do in such a situation? How will you get rid of the negative thoughts then?

The thought would always remain there and you won’t be able to just forget it all of a sudden. Temporary solutions are always there but like I said they are ‘temporary’. In such situations, you need to patiently ask yourself, who’s actually becoming miserable? A simple question but it does require some amount of courage from the inside along with an open mind.

 

A ‘Different’ Thinking

You need a different type of thinking to contemplate this way, a different route from all the clutter everyone is just stuffing in, without questioning anything. You don’t need to be a blind sheep by just following the crowd.

Enough of following the “MASSES”.

Ok so once you question yourself, the answer you will most probably get is, “OF course me!! I am becoming morose, who the hell else?!”Now, who is the “me” here? Are you referring to your body? Is the body becoming morose? Who are you, actually?

THINK… ASK YOURSELF!!

Can the body be sad? The body can suffer from pain, that’s understandable but can it ever go through depression? The answer is, it can’t be. There isn’t any way to make your body depressed. And the fun part is we all refer to our body as “me”. We think we are this body. So now who’s actually becoming sad when my body is fine?

 

Is it the Mind?

Ok, now some people will come up with the mind. “MY mind is becoming sad.” Can the brain be sad? Try opening one and see exactly where it is becoming sad.

What does the mind mean? Memories.

Without memories what is left of the mind? You can’t think about anything without memories. There can’t be any thoughts without memories. There is nothing other than a bunch of thought which can be labeled as a ‘mind’. Savvy? No thoughts would ultimately mean ‘no mind’.

 

Memories

So, thoughts come from memories, and how exactly are these memories formed? By recording whatever experiences we go through, right? That’s what a memory is. Pretty straightforward, eh.

So, who’s turning sad? Is it the memories? Well, can they really become sad? We should at least know that who exactly is becoming sad, otherwise, what’s the point? Makes sense, right? I mean is there even something or someone that’s actually becoming sad or is it just an illusion?  Maybe whatever I am saying makes sense or is utter shit.

What I am basically trying to say is that MAYBE there actually isn’t anything inside you that’s becoming sad. So, tell me in the comments section what do you think is actually going on here?

Let’s take this one step further. What’s the closest relationship in this world? Let’s take a mother-child relationship. One of the most intimate relationships (well, in a general way).

The kind of attachment a mother has for her new-born baby supersedes any other kind of attachment. Why? Because that child is attached to the closest possible way from the body of the mother or the feeling of “I, me, mine”.

The boyfriend doesn’t come out of his girlfriend’s body. But the baby literally exited out of his mother’s body. So, for the mother, her baby is just an extension of “I” (her). For her, the baby is a part of her. 

 

A Hypothetical Situation

Now just assume hypothetically, the new-born baby couldn’t survive for long. And the mother is tormented. So again, is it her body from which the baby came, that’s going through the emotions?

It’s the mother’s feelings related to the child that is causing this, right? But here the mother is considering her body as “hers”. We all command a certain sense of ownership on this property aka ‘body’. We think we own the body. The obvious question that comes to the mind is that what exactly is there in this body that is actually “ours”? Keep it simple, what’s this body made up of?

We eat food, drink water which in turn makes up our body. 70% of our body is water. This is absolutely scientific, nothing theoretical or mystical here.

 

Nature

So, is the water yours? Of course not, the water belongs to nature. The food you eat also comes from nature, which is again not yours.

99% of the processes that run your body are involuntary or out of your control like breathing, digestion, etc. Even your breath, the most significant aspect of keeping the body alive is not in your hands. You don’t control heartbeat; you don’t control digestion; you don’t control your nervous system.

So, who does it belong to? You can call it nature or GOD.

Now the concept of God also has to be made clear here. It’s not some superpowerful or mystical human sitting somewhere far far away who is controlling all of us like finger puppets. If this were the case, he would have corrected all the problems of this world with a snap of his fingers.

This pretty much establishes the fact that there is nothing in your body that is actually yours. In fact, if nature stops supporting your body, be it on any level; food, air, digestion; the body will cease to exist. This body is dependent on nature, not the other way around. Nature existed long before the arrival of humans and will continue to exist long after we have all gone and settled on Mars (All thanks to Elon).

Now if there’s nothing in the mother’s body that she can call hers, then how does the baby that came out of it, belong to her? Think about it. Then this means that all the errors start from this misconception that ‘I am this body’. That is not who you are!

 

Who We Actually Are? 

If you have the courage to put a question mark on this grand illusion, then this can solve an enormous amount of your problems. Or you can always blindly follow the masses (where sometimes m is silent).

If you can just imagine for once that you are actually IN the body, instead of BEING the body, then what’s the problem? If you start questioning like this step by step, then slowly and gradually all your problems will start fading away, once and for all.

Do you know the biggest sin that one can ever commit in this world?  To capture this wonderful tool called the body and misinterpret it as “mine”, which actually belongs to nature. Because of which, people suffer for all their life. It’s bitter but it’s true.

So, leave this body on the goodwill of nature or God. Let them handle it. Just SURRENDER it. (Now, this doesn’t mean you just go and sit and lie down in a forest and go to sleep.)

Whether the body lives or dies, it’s in his hand. Everything is in his hand. So now what’s the fear? This is real devotion. Absooooolute surrender. Not just for show, but actually from the inside; this can help you get rid of the negative thoughts. Or keep on doing what everyone is doing. Keep assuming you are your body and keep solving problems till eternity. Try keeping your body young forever, try making your body immortal.

This is spirituality. Asking this one simple question, “Who am I?” Whenever you are sad, immediately question yourself, “who’s going through the pain?” It’s not the body, but who’s attached to the situation that goes through the pain.

 

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