Fleshlight as a tool for personal development

[Fandango]

I have been following Actualized.org a few years now, it is a gold mine.

I have never had any issues dating girls, it really came natural to me from a very early age to know how to talk and behave around girls. Maybe it is because I grew up in a house just with girls and I know how they think and to be honest, I am good looking too.

In fact, reading the forum it amazed me to read how many guys have issues with women, I had no idea. But don´t get me wrong, I have other issues of my own.

The thing is, even though I don´t have any issues dating, at one point, it became like eating McDonalds, I was fucking a lot but no real content in the relationships. I think it is also because I was becoming more aware of my own games (like dating latinas or asian girls (instead of spanish), that are less developed than me and I know in my subconscious that it will take me less dates to get to have sex with her and that I know how to get her addicted to me like cocaine).

So the problem with no dating is... of course, no sex. And that I found I still need. I tried a Fleshlight and it is an amazing substitute for sex if you use it in a healthy way,  meaning not obsessively. I suppose like any other way of masturbation. But the different for me and the reason I wanted to write a post is this: masturbation with my hand for me was not enough sexually speaking, but masturbation with the Fleshlight It is.

Just wanted to post this in case is useful for anyone: nobody really talk much about it but the Fleshlight is a big deal.

 

[flowboy]

And this has what to do with personal development?

[Theprofessional]

"The Fleshlight is a big deal"...

You've got to be fucking kidding me.

[Fandango]

If you feel like you need more time for developing yourself and you have no issues dating, just don´t want to date right now.... buy a Fleshlight.

[flowboy]

Masturbate however you want but personal development my ass

Troll post?

This should be locked IMO

Reminds me of the "sleeping with escorts for personal development" topic from awhile back

Edited April 15, 2021 by flowboy

[Fandango]

My post is genuine.

I am just looking for honest opinions. Even to help me further inquire on that.

It is a tool that helps me to not to get too needy with girls because of the lack of sex, because even though I do not have issues with women, if for any reason I don’t see myself having sex with someone in a while I see myself acting needy around girls.

The thing is that I am less anxious about sex and the irony is that that attract girls

Edited April 15, 2021 by Fandango

[Fandango]

43 minutes ago, flowboy said:

Masturbate however you want but personal development my ass

Troll post?

This should be locked IMO

Reminds me of the "sleeping with escorts for personal development" topic from awhile back

Have you ever try it? If not? Why? Think about it

[Tian]

This is not a troll post. What Fandango is trying to say is very simple.

 

He says: if you have a need (in this case sex) but you can't or don't want to pursue it in a certain way (in this case waste time and energy dating women just to have sex), then go and meet your need in a different way (go nuts on a fleshlight). 

 

That way, you're not as attached to your need anymore and can focus on other things.

 

Please correct me if I'm wrong Fandango.

[Preety_India]

No different from a dildo. 

 

[Tian]

@ Fandango

 

To respond to your inquiry:

Yes. I feel the same way. I do something like that myself. Since I started doing that I

A: am less needy around girls

B: have a more healthy view of sex (I thought it was the end all be all of relationships and that everything leads up to that. Yikes).

[Preety_India]

Relationship is one thing and sex is another. 

Do you realize the difference? 

 

[Roy]

Anything can be used as a personal development tool really, as long as you're being conscious about it's use and not letting it become toxic for you.

See although it can easily be perceived as a trolling post, there is actually something of value here. @Fandango seems to be already content enough about his dating skills that he can put it on the backburner for a while, but also knows he still has to fulfill his need for sex and pleasure.

So instead of giving into his ego and using his ability with women to get that sex in a bad way he's found a healthier way to go about things until he has worked out enough things in himself that he can eventually go back to dating a healthier way.

Edited April 15, 2021 by Roy

[Preety_India]

2 minutes ago, Roy said:

Anything can be used as a personal development tool really, as long as you're being conscious about it's use and not letting it become toxic for you.

How does it get toxic? 

By overdoing? 

 

[Preety_India]

@Roy how do you measure such things, as to what is really working and what is not? 

 Whats the yardstick? 

 

[RendHeaven]

So much "subtle" bragging, and you really said "Just wanted to post this in case is useful for anyone" as though your intention was NOT to get personal gratification through attention lol

[Roy]

8 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

how do you measure such things, as to what is really working and what is not? 

 Whats the yardstick? 

It's not a science. But the method you should be using is always be cross referencing how you feel internally and observing your own results, vs what proper authorities in society/culture/science might be telling you and looking at results where it HAS worked.

Of course only YOU can truly know internally what works for you and what doesn't, but you need to develop radical honesty and increase your consciousness so your ego doesn't delude you back into inaction.

Reflect on anything in your personal life that you're trying to work on or improve, is it not obvious most times if something is working or not, when you really sit down and look at it?

Edited April 15, 2021 by Roy

[Preety_India]

1 minute ago, Roy said:

It's not a science. But the method you should be using is always be cross referencing how you feel internally and observing your own results, vs what proper authorities in society/culture/science might be telling you and looking at results where it HAS worked.

Of course only YOU can truly know internally what works for you and what doesn't, but you need to develop radical honesty and increase your consciousness so your ego doesn't delude you back into inaction.

Do you use a particular technique personally? 

 

[Roy]

2 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

Do you use a particular technique personally? 

What I just mentioned is the method basically.

Your emotions are a good indicator if something is toxic for you, because you will literally feel it.

[NOTintoxicated]

The thread title made me laugh. 

Next thread: Fuck My Big Black Ass Mega Masturbator toy for spiritual enlightenment?

You can buy one on Amazon, and Leo says you can't know something prior to personal experience, so lemme know if you find god after you defile one of these.

 

[Hardkill]

14 minutes ago, NOTintoxicated said:

The thread title made me laugh. 

Next thread: Fuck My Big Black Ass Mega Masturbator toy for spiritual enlightenment?

You can buy one on Amazon, and Leo says you can't know something prior to personal experience, so lemme know if you find god after you defile one of these.

 

Is that for practicing anal sex?