Unhealthy coping strategies

[Preety_India]

 

I think one has to understand the factor of trauma here. 

 

Trauma itself is evil and unhealthy. 

On top of that strategies to cope with trauma are equally unhealthy. 

It turns into a vicious pattern. 

A pattern very difficult to escape and be freed from. 

People might think that there should be healthy ways to deal with trauma. 

But this is not true. Then all the people out there would choose organic food instead of junk food for comfort eating. It's the junk food that gives immediate relaxation or dopamine which organic food cannot. 

Similarly drugs, sex, crying, self harm, workaholism, violence, anger etc are also unhealthy ways to cope but nevertheless these are ways to cope. Healthy ways are not the first thing that help with coping.

That's why abused women go back to abusers. 

That's why bullies abuse. 

That's why people do drugs. 

That's why people work to death 

That's why people develop different identities

That's why people use drugs 

 

We might think in our minds that such behaviors do not help life rather destroy it. 

But this is exactly what self destructive people subconsciously do. 

They want to subconsciously want freedom from life, or the kind of life they had, in order to end pain 

 

In simple words, it's like... End pain. End life. 

People who have never been through significant trauma will never understand these behaviors and will always be puzzled by things that cannot be defined by normal human scope of understanding.