How do I stir the feeling of love in my body?

[fopylo]

@Nahm

19 hours ago, Nahm said:

But useless is a thought.

Then I just don't understand why you have to mention this part for instance. Why do you say things are thoughts, also in your previous comment.

Also, by taking the sensation off I don't exactly know whether I'm consciously taking it off or the sensation just naturally went away like any sensation

[Nahm]

@fopylo

I don’t have to mention it. Things are thoughts, thoughts are things.   When you check for the presence of sensation and recognize there is none, that it is not there so to speak, let me know. 

[The0Self]

Coax, nudge, play patiently and skillful with the feeling of well being and love. Once you have it to any degree, follow it. Follow it like a thread to grow it into what you were "born" to make it into.

[fopylo]

@Nahm I can't really understand lol
When I check for sensation then either there is ( since I'm conscious of it) or there isn't but because I'm not fully conscious

[Nahm]

2 hours ago, fopylo said:

@Nahm I can't really understand lol
When I check for sensation then either there is ( since I'm conscious of it) or there isn't but because I'm not fully conscious

So your definition of “fully conscious” would be sensation always being present...? 

And whenever you check for it’s presence, it indeed is present...? 

Maybe you’re assuming there is an I which dictates this..? An I which could be fully conscious, or not fully conscious...? 

If those aren’t thoughts... what are they?

What’s conscious of those thoughts? 

[fopylo]

@Nahm I mean, you gave me a task so I need to first get it conceptually to understand what you're even talking about. Once I get it then I can do it. It just makes sense to have instructions for then executing.
I'll need you to then explain to me in more simple terms lol

[Nahm]

@fopylo 

Feeling is as much a task as breathing. 

[fopylo]

@Nahm So basically to try to sense my breath and then not sense it?

[EddieEddie1995]

Play the music you love, and dance! 

The music is you! The nice and soft lyrics  of the song touching your soul is You!  It is for you! Enjoy and dance! Dance is natural state of Enlightenment. You are doing, not thinking and controlling, you are being. And there is where Love comes up. And there you go! 

 

Edited April 17, 2021 by EddieEddie1995

[fopylo]

@EddieEddie1995 Lol, could you explain more about how I am the music which I'm listening to?
This is not exactly my type of music though 

[Dogstar]

Love is kind of like a muscle that you can make stronger. As your title suggests, you can in fact stir feelings of love. 

What has worked best for me in the past and present is the practice of metta meditation (metta translates to "kindness"). When I first started, I used a guided meditation but now I can do it without any guidance. Just like you can enhance concentration or mindfulness during meditation, you can also play with the intention to create feelings of kindness and compassion towards oneself. This meditation literally saved my life - I recommend it to anyone who struggles to love themselves. 

I'll tell you a little more about the practice but I urge you to find some kind of guided meditation on YouTube or something like that. As in regular meditation, you start off in a comfortable position - in a chair, in lotus position, whatever works for you. You start off with the intention of planting long-term "seeds" in your mind of how you wish to feel about yourself. These are kind of like affirmations, but focused on the future - "I wish to be happy... I wish to be strong, etc." then you start consciously thinking about all the things you like about yourself... even just one thing, can be a very small thing if nothing really comes up.. if nothing comes up, merely stay present in your wish to feel good about yourself, which is rightful, appropriate and beautiful. You, like all beings everywhere, simply wish to feel love and be happy. 

It is important to be gentle with yourself in this meditation and not to try to force wonderful states of being. The point is to merely connect with your intentions and try to feel that you can be the source of these good feelings - that you don't need to wait until you do something huge before you can love yourself, or wait for God to shine love down upon you spontaneously. You are literally the one asking yourself to connect to these wishes to feel happy and safe and loved and you are also the one with the power to allow these feelings. This might take a leap of faith and takes practice - over time you will be able to stir these feelings within minutes or seconds instead of 20-30 minutes or however long it takes at first.

After harvesting feelings of kindness and love to yourself, you move on to sending the same wishes of love and happiness to the person or few people in your life who have truly helped you and taught you, then move on to a friend, then a "neutral" person, then someone who annoys you.. the purpose being to expand your field of love - when you expand it to others, you feel it more in yourself. You end the meditation sending love to all beings everywhere.

As I said, this meditation saved my life. Perhaps worth giving it a try. Nothing for me has worked to stir feelings of love more than this practice, besides overcoming adversity and just learning more about life allowing me to be content with what I have - but the meditation is something you can actively do whereas life experience is less in your control.