Gaining momentum in Communication skills

[Strangeloop]

I noticed that whenever I start chatting I most of the time I start to gain momentum and start talking more and more. I had experiences where I just chat like a chatter box without even listening and caring about the other party.

And sometimes I'm so quiet that people even say "why are you so quiet?"

But the momentum is still there, the more I socialize the better feel I get of people and how my emotions work.

So it's needless to say that I'm actually improving.

Which brings me to the next point, I start saying something without knowing (atleast it feels that way) what I'm going to say, but I say it anyway to see what kind of words I will say. It's like a lotterry or gambling with cards, or just plain out poker. Strategizing and picking words and sentences which would benefit the other party or/and myself the most amount.