How do I stop comparing myself to others?

[The_Truth_Seeker]

I'm hearing a lot of things like this guy just made 60K$ via investing in one day. This dude is a bitcoin expert and he's making 300K$ per month. 

 

And I'm like "WTF I don't understand sh*t. These dudes are making crazy money and I had to study for 4 years in college to get this 100k$/year job."

 

Man, I try to be happy with what I have but sometimes it's so damn hard.

 

It's almost like Porn. Porn conditions your mind for unrealistic version of reality. Similarly this crazy rich people can create an exaggerating version of reality in the minds of middle class people.

 

 Any tips on how I can stop comparing myself with others? Lol

 

 

[seeking_brilliance]

I find that when I'm fully immersed in whatever right now - - - the failures and accomplishments of others don't even exist. 

Edited March 29, 2021 by seeking_brilliance

[Rolo]

There are a lot of ways to make money, The perspective of most rich people is a stage orange perspective which mostly relies on a selfish attitude that is of no service to others. To have a better understanding of "These dudes" I would suggest looking into orange and see how they make their money, on that note have a aim to go for a stage green source of income.

[Hen Zuhe]

@The_Truth_Seeker Our family, friends, society judge us for everything, the competition, carrer for life, it is not the right way to live, it is a Slave Life.

We have to leave the comparison between us, it doesn't help. 

When we have self confidence, and feel the important of myself with the UNIVERSE, LOVE YOURSELF, none comparison could exist. "THIS FEELING IS GREAT"

 

Practice love to yourself, hear mantras, some lectures about self confidence it will help you.

 

NAMASTE

[Nahm]

On 3/29/2021 at 3:03 PM, The_Truth_Seeker said:

It's almost like Porn. Porn conditions your mind for unrealistic version of reality. Similarly this crazy rich people can create an exaggerating version of reality in the minds of middle class people.

That is your core belief. Porn (and what other people have) does not condition your mind. The perception of porn, or of other people having anything, is unconditional, perception has zero properties whatsoever. The conditioning is believing the thought, that porn, or what other people have, conditions your mind. Think about it this way, if anything at all, anything whatsoever is believed to be the reason your mind is conditioned - that - whatever you hold that to be - is your condition. To repeat this belief, is the very act of conditioning. It doesn’t occur “in a past”, you’re conditioning, holding a condition, right now, or you are not, right now. It’s always and only ever, right now. That there is a past or future would be more conditions held, right now. 

What you’re experiencing imo is:

- The yet to be recognized & presently misunderstood emotion of jealousy. 

- A core belief there is an “end”, or a “done” or “finished”. 

On 3/29/2021 at 3:03 PM, The_Truth_Seeker said:

These dudes are making crazy money and I had to study for 4 years in college to get this 100k$/year job."

If you let go of focusing on other people, and shift that focus to what you want, “making crazy money” is exactly the same as going to college and getting the 100k/ year job. You wanted it, you focused on it, you’re experiencing it. Do the same.

Could contemplate... is “I” a condition? What / who is this “I” which this story is about?

I try to be happy with what I have

Since when is feeling arising from ‘stuff’ ?

[mandyjw]

Very few people actually want a lot of money. Yeah, seems like a stupid statement, but think about it in a deeper way. No one actually wants a lot of money, they want freedom in the particular form that money will bring. There's nothing wrong with wanting money, it's an awesome, fun tool. You don't care about money itself, no one does, it's like taking down the Mona Lisa and hanging a paintbrush on the wall instead. Plus money is relative, what is rich to one person is tiddly winks to another.

Problem is when we think that success is more than what it actually is directly experienced as... a sense of enjoyment or fulfillment, freedom of lack. Instead we think it is a status that one can permanently achieve, and in this belief we kill our own inherent, already here freedom that the desire for money was all about and was in its purest form ANYWAY. You're just using other people as an excuse to maintain this belief. But you're already free. 

It's also good to contemplate/question how freedom and a sense of "worth" is the same thing, essentially. 

 

Edited March 31, 2021 by mandyjw

[hyruga]

You simply decide to stop comparing. 

Even if they have tons of money, their attention will be shifted to the next goal: A beautiful house by the sea, An airplane, start a family, more houses, more cars, more business, why don't create a business which helps many many people, why don't live near nature, back to basics. Desires are never ending.

[Megan Alecia]

Have something really meaningful going on with your life. Something that matters to you truly. This is what oftentimes people realize during their psych trips imo (me included). 

[flowboy]

On 29/03/2021 at 9:03 PM, The_Truth_Seeker said:

I'm hearing a lot of things like this guy just made 60K$ via investing in one day. This dude is a bitcoin expert and he's making 300K$ per month. 

 

And I'm like "WTF I don't understand sh*t. These dudes are making crazy money and I had to study for 4 years in college to get this 100k$/year job."

 

Man, I try to be happy with what I have but sometimes it's so damn hard.

Some of my friends are getting millions of investment for their startup, some are making 20-30K a month. Meanwhile, here I am, making 10 times less that, experiencing a lot of limitations in what I want to do versus what I am able to afford.

So I can relate.

Sometimes I feel down about it and feel like I am not caught up with my more successful friends. But mostly I'm fine with it. I asked myself why. It's because I am very sure of what I am working towards, where I am going, and that is worthwhile to me, and I also enjoy the process. In short: valuing myself based on where I'm going instead of where I am. Is a baby inferior because it can't walk yet? No, it will. Am I inferior because my frontal lobe developed late and I didn't have the discipline and planning skills necessary to be successful until I was 27? No. I will.

 

If trying to be happy with what you have doesn't work, then stop trying.

Apparently this 100k/year job is not what you want. And that's 100% completely okay.

It may be what you think you want. Or what you think you should want. Or what you used to want. Or what other people wanted for you.

Are you working towards what you really want?

Edited April 2, 2021 by flowboy