What does a healthy sexual relationship look like?

[Zion]

Weather it be porn, FWB's, one-time hookups, long-term relationships, etc. What is your general consensus of what a healthy sexual relationship looks like? When I say healthy, I personally mean a relationship that still easily incorporates the pursuing of enlightenment & fulfillment of spiritual practices. What does a healthy sexual relationship look like to you? I'd love to hear some new perspectives to better go about my ways of doing things sexually.

[herghly]

very good question. I'm curious too

[Chew211]

An individual can't have a general consensus. But I'll give my take on it. 

A healthy relationship, by the definition your provided, could look like anything.

In fact, your question itself answered your question. 

Relationship (s) that don't get in the way of spiritual development. 

I have non-committal sexual relationships. I don't own the other person, and the other person doesn't own me. We just have a good time and do the didily. 

^ this is what works for me because societally sanctioned relationships (girlfriend-boyfriend, marriage, and fwb) come with extra bullshit. 

The way I see, once my relationship is labeled, then it's screwed. 

Labels are for how to orient ourselves for others. 

I.e. once there's a label, your relationship is public, and thus subjected to societal rules. 

The draw back is that I can't be as open about the nature of my relationships with just anyone. 

Which works for me where I'm at now. 

I don't need "society" (the Lacanian Psychoanalytic term is the big Other), involved in my sex life. 

[Preety_India]

Depends on how you feel sexually in the relationship 

All it boils down to is this - 

Sexually satisfied 

Or sexually dissatisfied 

 

[Chew211]

@Preety_India

I don't think his definition of healthy relationship can boil down to sexual satisfaction.

Obviously sexual dissatisfied is an automatic bad. 

But I know plenty of people who are satisfied sexually, but the relationship is an impediment to their growth. 

[Preety_India]

@Chew211 well  that may not be related to sex then. 

 

[bejapuskas]

I guess your own feeling, the feeling of the other person and whether you are both on the same page about what is happening.

[Bando]

Understanding your partners boundaries and honest communication are some of the most important aspects in a healthy sexual relationship, also attraction ofc

[Zion]

Does anyone have any resources, advice, books, etc. on this topic of different perspectives pertaining to what defines a healthy sexual relationship?

[Superfluo]

Take a look. Maybe it can help.