Is Everyone Beautiful and Attractive?

[Raptorsin7]

It seems like most men, myself included, want beautiful and attractive woman for relationships. But it seems like most woman aren't beautiful and attractive, so most man won't get what they want. But looks are subjective and how we view each other is dependent on the person viewing/judging the other person. 

Is it possible to adjust your perspective so every woman you meet is a 10/10 attractiveness and you don't judge any woman as ugly or unattractive?

I know i want to be with a woman who is conventionally attractive but it would be cool to if i was with someone who was morbidly obese but i found her equally attractive because i had a god tier view of reality and people lol

[Parththakkar12]

It is absolutely possible. From what I've seen, a woman's attractiveness level has a lot more to do with how she presents herself and how she dresses than her actual body-type. How revealing is her dress? How well-fitted is it, so to speak? Is her hair straightened or not?

[Rilles]

Just look at the Venus of Willendorf, stone age folks thought she was smoking, but that was different though, its hard to rewire your brain that much. 

Edited March 25, 2021 by Rilles

[integral]

Yes. 

[Raphael]

I find feminity sometimes more attractive than a good look. There's a pornstar that I watch sometimes, I don't know what happened to her but she is now so hypermasculine that even if she is a 10 in terms of look I don't find her attractive.

[Preety_India]

What your brain perceives as attractive is all social conditioning. 

It's bullshit.

 

[bejapuskas]

It can happen sometimes that you start liking something or someone you wouldn't have thought you could ever like, but it feels nice and there is no reason why you should judge yourself for it.

[ravlondon]

I'd say attractiveness is a made up concept used to marginalise people.

[Bando]

In a holistic perspective yes everyone is beautiful but in a realistic sense, no everybody is not attractive, can't really control who your attracted to after a certain age as social conditioning and natural desires have already been firmly set on what you find attractive. 

[Cireeric]

I think it depends on what you measure. But yes, you can train to see the beauty in specific freatures of the person, even if they are not conventional attracive/beautiful. Every human being has certain aspects that are very beautiful that you can see. But im not sure if that really helps with being attracted to a partner long term.

[AtheisticNonduality]

Attractiveness is a real essentialist quality.

[Emerald]

On 3/25/2021 at 7:55 AM, Raptorsin7 said:

It seems like most men, myself included, want beautiful and attractive woman for relationships. But it seems like most woman aren't beautiful and attractive, so most man won't get what they want. But looks are subjective and how we view each other is dependent on the person viewing/judging the other person. 

Is it possible to adjust your perspective so every woman you meet is a 10/10 attractiveness and you don't judge any woman as ugly or unattractive?

I know i want to be with a woman who is conventionally attractive but it would be cool to if i was with someone who was morbidly obese but i found her equally attractive because i had a god tier view of reality and people lol

You have to experience women who are real and physically there with you. 

Most men who ONLY find 10/10 women attractive haven't had real sexual/intimate experiences with women. It's more theoretical and abstract and picture based. 

But if you have real sexual/romantic experiences, you will shatter your attachment to the imagined ideal woman and really be able to appreciate and get turned on by real women who are not picture perfect. If you haven't had that experience yet, you may not think so. But I'm nowhere near a 10, and I never had any complaints nor have I had any trouble attracting a partner who's invested in me.   

There's a lot more to the sexual instinct beyond visuals... and that's true for both men and women. Men do have a visual bias. But a man who hasn't developed himself in any way beyond that bias is a low quality lover from the female perspective. 

The best thing to do is to get experience with women.... both sexually and romantically. 

[Nobody_Here]

3 hours ago, datamonster said:

Sure, that's why we have Vodka

[MusicalMillipede]

@Raptorsin7  I find majority of men attractive. I’m into “average looking“ guys. I’m a sucker for long hair though. It depends on the person. My tastes changed throughout my short life. Your taste can be changed I would guess based on my experience 

[Raptorsin7]

@Emerald Yeah I agree with a lot of what you said. I don't have any real relationship experience outside of one off's, escorts, and dating apps. I'm sure my tastes will change once I form a real relationship. 

7 hours ago, Emerald said:

he best thing to do is to get experience with women.... both sexually and romantically. 

I feel like given where i'm at in life the woman i would be interested in would not be interested in me, so i'm waiting until i get my self together before pursuing relationships.

I'm curious how my tastes/standards will change as i mature, part of me doesn't want to lose the ideal of a beautiful, smart, classy, etc woman as my partner but only time will tell if that will be reality.

 

[Byun Sean]

@Raptorsin7

On 3/26/2021 at 11:23 PM, Raptorsin7 said:

I feel like given where i'm at in life the woman i would be interested in would not be interested in me, so i'm waiting until i get my self together before pursuing relationships.

To be honest man I took the same approach.

 

If you walk the spiritual path long enough the need to have a long term partner fades and it just doesn't seem important anymore because

your so fulfilled from within.

You can still have a partner if you want after that for fun if you want but you realize the one and only thing that always mattered in life most was

basically just how much consciousness do you have.

 

Anyways the entire purpose of relationships in a personal development context (other than the experience itself) is to raise your consciousness.

 

So basically with or without a partner your looking for more consciousness. Just go wherever the spiritual gains lead you and you'll see 

finding a perfect person won't matter anymore because life for you will already be perfect.

[Arcangelo]

No.